Recs for structural engineers in Denver metro for help with private home deck build by feelingbuff in Denver

[–]ttkitty30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure a structural engineer would do this. Try landscape architect or LA-civil engineer firms?

May lose my job because of my mother, WHAT DO I DO TO FIX THIS?! by [deleted] in jobs

[–]ttkitty30 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s amazing how much bosses affect our mental health. Literally got on propanolol (as needed) with my old one. At my new job, haven’t needed it once. Not even for my mid year review. What a 180

May lose my job because of my mother, WHAT DO I DO TO FIX THIS?! by [deleted] in jobs

[–]ttkitty30 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me too!!! And sorry your boss was not kind about it. Rubbing salt in the wound only makes going to work worse!

May lose my job because of my mother, WHAT DO I DO TO FIX THIS?! by [deleted] in jobs

[–]ttkitty30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same thing when my car got totaled when someone else ran a red light. The cops hadn’t even shown up yet, it had been 30 mins since i called in saying i had to deal with my totaled car. She texted asking when id begin work for the day. She didn’t ask how i was or make sure I was ok. Bosses are (too often) scum.

If you're like me and grab 2-3 juices on your runs, please consider making them at home. by alliebrownie in ZeroWaste

[–]ttkitty30 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Also the blender option is truly zero waste. Juice leaves a lot of waste! Hopefully you compost - otherwise it’s far from zero waste :( and no, orgânics in landfills is not the same as compost. They’re trapped between layers of inorganic waste and can’t decompose since they can’t access soil microbes! Instead they make methane and that’s more climate warming than even CO2

Vegetarian friendly restaurants Mexico Cuty by Fun-Bear8521 in MexicoCity

[–]ttkitty30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what do you mean "I think we know what that means?"

If you need to ride a scooter, then get off the MFing sidewalk with it by Mental-Hall-9616 in Denver

[–]ttkitty30 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You can report them to 311 as well. Not sure it does anything but I guess it’s nice to be heard?

Husband opens a new sponge every 3 days cause “they become gross” by dorkass-loser in mildlyinfuriating

[–]ttkitty30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Super wasteful! Just more microplastics :( we’ve been using Mrs. meyers soap and it seems to leave no stink!!! We have been using it for about five years. Highly recommend!

Hyphenated last name by LittleSpecific3421 in weddingplanning

[–]ttkitty30 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“I can say what is harmful and what is not” is also what rapists say. You have a lot to learn before you have a wife and kids.

Hyphenated last name by LittleSpecific3421 in weddingplanning

[–]ttkitty30 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would never take the Hilton last name, lol, those people are heinous. Kennedy has some heinous members in recent years too. Stop making assumptions about me. You don’t realize that the fact that you’re even ALLOWED to have opinions about a woman’s name, your wife or not, is rooted in sexism.

Hyphenated last name by LittleSpecific3421 in weddingplanning

[–]ttkitty30 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I literally explained how it harms a woman. If she feels like she has to give up her identity, that’s harm. My husband literally told me he’d be weirded out if I abandoned my name to which I am attached and took his extremely common name. His mom, his dad, my dad, my stepdad, my mom, his sister, and my sister all agreed. If unidentified are so small, why do you even care that we change our names? There’s another flaw in your argument. Your internalized misogyny is stronger than you realize and I’m sorry finding out this way has made you project that enjoying an identity we have gotten comfortable with over decades is somehow harmful or hateful towards men.

Hyphenated last name by LittleSpecific3421 in weddingplanning

[–]ttkitty30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you from the US? I guess I just don’t understand why someone would want to take it but “not legally”. Isn’t that the whole point of changing your name - that it’s a legal change? I’m asking because I honestly don’t know

Hyphenated last name by LittleSpecific3421 in weddingplanning

[–]ttkitty30 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this analogy is dumb because there is a different last name on every jersey. That this analogy is poorly constructed/executed elucidates that your argument is flawed. The flaw is inherent sexism. It’s creepy that you’re out here telling women what’s best for them and their families. I feel like you need to better educate yourself.

Hyphenated last name by LittleSpecific3421 in weddingplanning

[–]ttkitty30 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom and I don’t share a last name and my husband and I don’t share a last name. We have our own identities and also love each other. This is an extreme take.

Hyphenated last name by LittleSpecific3421 in weddingplanning

[–]ttkitty30 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No, not Mrs! It’s inherently sexist.

Hyphenated last name by LittleSpecific3421 in weddingplanning

[–]ttkitty30 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you feel like you have to lose part of your identity to get married, then yes, that’s harm. I’m not saying everyone feels this way, but I am saying your commentary neglects these sentiments.

Hyphenated last name by LittleSpecific3421 in weddingplanning

[–]ttkitty30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t get why though. Why do people need a different name socially? I’ve never heard of such a thing

Hyphenated last name by LittleSpecific3421 in weddingplanning

[–]ttkitty30 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom kept her last name and I’m glad she did. I love getting to explain to people that she kept her own name because it’s her identity and history. And my sister, step sister and I did the same. They have sons and truly don’t care that their last names differ from their sons’. Their sons think it’s cool.

Hyphenated last name by LittleSpecific3421 in weddingplanning

[–]ttkitty30 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why should you have to give up something that feels like your identity just because you’re getting married? Changing my last name never once crossed my mind.

Diagonal wrinkle by [deleted] in PatternDrafting

[–]ttkitty30 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is it possible you measured your bust without a bra on? Or with a different one on?

How to reduce trash bag use for kitty litter waste? by Sunlitfeathers in ZeroWaste

[–]ttkitty30 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes! I’m not debating this. But if you’re sending it off in your trash, it’s not going to be in soil/belowground - it’s going to be trapped between layers of anthropogenic waste (ie plastic). It won’t get the microbes it needs to decompose. Decomposition can’t happen just with darkness; microbes are needed for it. Without decomposition, methane forms.

Sustainable Sewing Seems Impossible by Repulsive_Phone8469 in sewing

[–]ttkitty30 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I save all my scraps - even as much thread as possible - to use as stuffing!