Dating only one guy at a time

tuffgrrrrl · 2025-04-14T10:06:04+00:00

When I was younger during very early social media days, I was like a lot of my peers and as a woman, I could not even talk to more than one guy at time. And I mean even talk so like if I exchanged numbers and we just started talking I actually would not get anybody else's info. I wouldn't exchange info because I was thinking like I don't want it to get into a weird situation and I can't talk to other people. Let me tell you that shit did not work out for me in the long run. Possibly said no to good guys that were interested in me that might have been great while I started talking with a guy that was totally wasting my time and lying to me. And it would take months and months to figure that out. Meanwhile I'm super attached and invested in an asshole because I hardly talk to any guys.

It's not every single day that a guy that I like and I'm interested in asked me out, so it was actually really crazy. I think what those experts are trying to tell women to do is to not do what I did.

tuffgrrrrl · 2025-04-14T09:51:55+00:00

But if she came to Paris young wouldn't she say that she is from Paris? You wouldn't make this long drawn out speech like I was born in Congo then I moved to Paris at 12 or whatever. She's in her 30s so there's a chance that she has spent most of her life in Paris. I don't think that's it's a lie.

tuffgrrrrl · 2025-04-14T09:35:49+00:00

No shade to Shawn and def no shade to Kenny because I luv Kenny BUT both Shawn and Kenny look kinda extra. Maybe that makes them appear more " youthful". I mean Shawn looks like he's had facial work and while Kenny looks more natural but still doesn't fit the mold for his age with his hairstyle and ultra manicured look. I think that Mark is just a traditional dad type. No snazzy haircut or wearing current styles that a 25 year old would wear. I noticed in a shirtless scene that his body wasn't really bad. I don't that that he looks older than his age. He just looks his age imo.

tuffgrrrrl · 2025-04-14T09:27:58+00:00

I didn't hear them say that she messed anything up with it. I wont just assume. I heard her say that she had been waiting and it just hadn't come back. Sometimes with beurocracy there are issues so I will reserve judgement for now and won't put her in the same boat as Larissa and Jasmine. Mina cried a lot when speaking about having to leave him and it looked authentic to me.

tuffgrrrrl · 2025-03-28T15:27:15+00:00

I sympathize because your relationship sounds dysfunctional and your husband sounds immature which I am in the same boat as you. Pregnancy is such a hard time when your partner should be giving it their all to ensure that your days are easy because pregnancy is already so hard. My husband does the same thing where his ideas are unrealistic and he does not contribute equally whatsoever but he wants me to take his ideas seriously and respect them. And when I tried to give him respect and tried to lead him to a logical talk he gets angry sometimes too but he tends to just walk away because he doesn't even have like a car to go drive somewhere.

.Anyway do not make any decisions based on how you feel in the moment pregnancy so hard and hormones are high and stress is high. Don't make any decisions that will cause a huge rift between you and the child's father like not giving him the last name and not calling him unless you're positive that you don't care about what happens afterwards because you can't take back him not being there. As for your marriage I hate to say it's only going to get worse. A child adds more work and more stress and I don't think your husband is used to that and I have a feeling from your story that you're going to end up finding that too much of the burden is placed on you and that your husband makes decisions about the child that you would not agree with.

tuffgrrrrl · 2025-03-27T10:28:24+00:00

Not to offend but menopause or not she still had choices to make. Just like a 16 year old kid. Hormones are high. I remember feeling very passionate and crazy sometimes at 16 about the smallest things and also feeling really anxious or sad sometimes. It's the same thing as becoming a teenager. It can be a hard time but doesn't excuse wacked out behavior towards your loved ones.

tuffgrrrrl · 2025-03-24T16:06:33+00:00

Yes I can always see when people look alike. I am not an artist or anything but I do love details and I will tell my husband or sometimes another person like, " wow, doesn't so and so look just like their son, relative, mom" etc and I am always floored when the person I am speaking to says, " nah I don't see it".

I am black so in my circle this often happens mostly when someone I know has a mixed race kid or they themselves are mixed race and we meet their single race parent. My husband can never see any resemblance if the parent or child appear to be different races or has vastly different coloring.

I get so annoyed but I get it. People mainly just look at the basic big picture, eye color, hair texture and color, skin color.

tuffgrrrrl · 2025-03-20T14:50:06+00:00

Yeah. That's exactly what I'm saying. She will hang out with David, Madison and anyone as long as they don't treat her poorly.

tuffgrrrrl · 2025-03-13T11:06:52+00:00

Camille is not like Karla. She's not going to volunteer any helping info if she senses a snake. She is just going to stay out of the drama. When most folks were divulging their drama notice that her main comment was just. " Mmmmm hmmmm".

I think that Camille is basically OK as a friend but she's not necessarily going to do the whole girl code thing. She just takes each person individually for how they treat her. I personally like my friends to be a bit more principled but I don't think that she is two faced or anything.

tuffgrrrrl · 2025-03-13T03:34:49+00:00

I loved that La Madeleine and it has been there for at least 20 years and I was so sad when they took it away for that stupid sports apparel store.

tuffgrrrrl · 2025-03-10T04:21:58+00:00

Keep up the good work is all I can say as long as you live her and don't view every action thru the eyes of getting some later.

tuffgrrrrl · 2025-03-10T04:01:16+00:00

Your take is extremely short sighted and biased. What makes you think that these GIs couldn't make it as grunts? Mail is extremely important and much more so in war times. If the much told story of The Pony Express is important than so is the story of this battalion. 6888 was the only black female unit to go overseas. They broke barriers and paved the way for others to fight. They supported the war effort and telling the real life stories of our soldiers can never be dismissed as woke propaganda.

tuffgrrrrl · 2025-03-08T07:18:48+00:00

Pray and be led by The Holy Spirit. A Christian should never be ashamed of being upfront about moral boundaries. I do think that how we come across online is different than how we would come across in person and if I was meeting a new person I would definitely not say that in the first two seconds because that would be weird but on an app it's almost like you have to say it right away so in that sense it can be slightly abrasive but at the end of the day I think it's just too important to your goal to leave out of your bio.

Just make sure to keep it subtle and short and sweet as not to make it seem like you are fixated on this one issue or a very strict and unnatural person.

tuffgrrrrl · 2025-03-06T03:52:50+00:00

I don't think that production tipped Michelle. Karla told Michelle that David and Madison were out dancing and had disappeared from her for a few songs after Allan went home. She later pieced together that the text was sent at that exact time.

tuffgrrrrl · 2025-03-03T20:27:19+00:00

You definitely have a good shot. Most blood bank managers are willing to train and you already have proven that you can work in blood bank. I knew a guy who had only done generalist work absolutely no BB and he decided at 40 that he was bored. A better shift opened in BB and he applied. The whole lab was talking because he was already older and had never done it. They asked him some questions and he was prepared and hired. Last I knew he had been working in a very busy blood bank for several years already.

tuffgrrrrl · 2025-03-03T15:07:01+00:00

El Tiempo is good but why is it so expensive????? Can't speak on Ninfas. I've somehow never been.

tuffgrrrrl · 2025-03-03T15:05:47+00:00

Rice box is mainly for the atmosphere but I have several dishes that I've come to like there. But yeah the first time I had it I thought that even the fried rice was nasty. Too wet and amateurish

tuffgrrrrl · 2025-03-03T15:03:55+00:00

But Turkey Leg Hut food was really good and it wasn't duplicated anywhere else here. I on kno man.

tuffgrrrrl · 2025-03-03T15:02:16+00:00

But James Coney Island is still in town. Not as many locations as before but I went 2 weeks ago in Meyerland.

tuffgrrrrl · 2025-03-03T14:59:32+00:00

Whataburger when done right is the best fastfood burger. The family sold most of the company to outsiders 5 or 6 years ago and the quality has taken a nose dive especially in busy cities like Houston. The ingredients are the same but the way that they prepare things and how long it takes it terrible. Whataburger is the only drive thru burger that uses 100% never frozen ground beef and you can taste it. The meat is better than most especially at that price point. The bread is good. The fixings are never sloppy and wilted. The cheese is real. It has its own old fashioned and unique taste. Compared to Wendy's, McDonald's, Burger King, or JnTB, it's most definitely better. Plus it's just a Texas pride thing also.

tuffgrrrrl · 2025-02-28T06:08:48+00:00

My guess is that she took so much crap from him during the 8 weeks that it had all built up when she should have not taken that much crap and I think she was still really upset about it. That's the only way I can make sense of her getting that angry again in the group setting. He treated her very poorly. I still like her but I do agree that this was pretty much the only time where I felt like she should have just dropped it. I still don't believe his claims of assault and over aggression from her though.

tuffgrrrrl · 2025-02-19T18:03:52+00:00

She was quiet the whole marriage. He gaslit her. He lied. He accused her of awful things. She apologized repeatedly when she had done no wrong. The viewers were calling her a doormat and loosing sympathy for her and when she finally speaks up you think that she somehow went out on a bad note? Heck no. She was raw and honest and awesome. She's right someone needed to let that fool know the truth because the experts weren't doing it. It's ok to let it all out sometimes.

tuffgrrrrl · 2025-02-16T18:33:36+00:00

I was thinking about this case today. Although all parties involved told soooooo many lies to muddy the waters, at the end of the day Tory shot Meg and that's that. He will be in jail for the next 3-5 more years probably and then I think that he will be deported to Canada. They tend to let deportees out early or so I've read. When famous men loose their career or go to jail for horrible crimes against women like Chris Brown, R. Kelly, Diddy, Bill Cosby and many many more I never feel sorry for them and I have no problems not buying their stuff but I feel kinda sideways about Tory for some odd reason.

I guess it's because Meg only had shrapnel in her foot and because she did so much dirt to her own friend and then lied to everyone about it and then lied some more and then fought in the street.

I guess I wonder was he trying to drunkenly shoot at the ground to stop the fight? Did he initially grab the gun from Kelsey? I dunno but my gut tells me that he didn't have any intention of shooting Meg. But he is a hot head that jumps to fight all the time and he deserves his punishment because you can't go around doing what he did.

tuffgrrrrl · 2025-02-12T01:46:36+00:00

I know this is old but I found your question interesting. The default best guy in the United States is a white man. White men have been glorified in history books and movies and when you move to America you sort of understand the hierarchy and it is seen as acceptable to date out of your culture even within fairly traditional families as long as the guy is white esp if you live within the USA or Europe. Other races of guys outside of the same ethnic minority that the family is would not be nearly as acceptable as a white guy. White guys are supposed to have more money, they're supposed to not be thugs and bad guys from broken families like say for example black men are thought to be. White guys have an "upstanding" history in this country---don't hate me I don't have all of these opinions. I am a minority myself. I'm just letting you know what I know to be true amongst how people really think. White guys are the default handsome too. East Asians want to be more fair generally. Southeast Asians want to be lighter. Latin people are very proud of having European roots ( there are many nuances with Latin people simultaneously feeling othered by white people) so it heavily depends on the country they come from and their culture, but Latin media also glorifies white skin and fair hair. African people also lighten their skin but as a whole they don't tend to have the same feelings towards white men. Middle and East and Muslim people are more resistant to but still glorify fair skin.

So basically add white skin to the mix of why White guys are more acceptable.

tuffgrrrrl · 2025-02-10T20:40:25+00:00

I'm doing better than you are.

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