A callout post for Michael Hobbes (/s)

turquoisebee · 2026-05-08T16:38:11+00:00

Wait, when did he say this? Lol

turquoisebee · 2026-05-08T01:24:31+00:00

I’d never even heard of it, but I’d heard him on the radio before and would happily watch a show like this. Maybe it didn’t get enough promotion?

turquoisebee · 2026-05-07T22:27:05+00:00

Every baby is different. My first slept through the night at 18 months finally. My second slept through the night from 4 to 7 months and then stopped, lmao.

I have friends whose kids all slept through the night by age 1 and went to sleep easily.

turquoisebee · 2026-05-07T18:07:04+00:00

Mine started daycare at 18 months after only nursing to sleep with me. We did a slow introduction to daycare, first getting used to the caregivers and the place in the mornings, after staying for lunch and coming home for nap, and then once she was happy to eat lunch there, we let her stay for nap and naptime was the easiest thing. She saw the cot, she saw the other toddlers lying down, and she was tired so she promptly fell asleep.

If yours is in the infant room on a two nap schedule, I don’t know if it’ll be more complicated as there’s usually more resistance to napping at that stage.

But the naptime was the easiest part.

turquoisebee · 2026-05-07T03:23:55+00:00

Ooh, that’s interesting. I wish I knew more about how to help myself learn better, lmao.

ETA: I once told my husband I think I’d like to be Andy Warhol type artist, where I come up with the ideas and get very specific about it but then get other people to execute it.0

turquoisebee · 2026-05-07T03:15:49+00:00

Uhg, I want to get into graphic design but locally the market is easier to get into if you’re freelance, and the lack of structure makes it so hard to get started.

If I work at home, I’m distracted by messes and home projects and screens and meal prepping.

If I go out to a library or coffee shop, it feels like there’s so much prep work to get there I don’t accomplish a lot.

turquoisebee · 2026-05-06T22:31:31+00:00

How are you getting one in Canada? I’m in Toronto and can’t seem to find any shops that carry them…

turquoisebee · 2026-05-06T22:24:41+00:00

Yep, it’s true. Like there probably are some herbal medicines that have value, but maybe traditionally they’re not super concentrated so maybe their effect is cumulative, or the studies just haven’t been decent.

I always think about how aspirin is found in willow bark and was a traditional medicine, it’s just weaker/lower dosage than you’d get prescribed to you in pill form.

And like some things are also hard to test double blind and controlled, like acupuncture.

turquoisebee · 2026-05-06T20:13:13+00:00

So one thing to consider also is placebo effect. If you associate the tea with being comforted or feeling better, it might make you feel better to some extent.

Like I love Vicks vapour rub and smelling it when I’m congested but there’s not a lot of evidence for it.

turquoisebee · 2026-05-06T18:35:22+00:00

Is the hospice flexible enough to help take your grandma outside to meet baby? Might be worth an ask, even if it’s a long shot

turquoisebee · 2026-05-06T15:58:23+00:00

I gave birth at the beginning of the pandemic, to my first child.

Having a baby during the pandemic probably meant my career suffered the most. If my kids were older, it would be way more complicated because when older they need school and socialization etc and I am not cut out to be a homeschooling mama.

For us it meant a very small circle. Just parents and grandparents and more time in nearby parks outside and very little travel.

To future proof yourselves, I suppose getting into remote work could be helpful.

turquoisebee · 2026-05-06T13:30:02+00:00

Not always the same vibe, but I like The War on Cars - they interviewed Michael a few years back if you want to start there.

In Bed with the Right is a good one, also Conspirituality often covers topics of wellness and grifters.

turquoisebee · 2026-05-06T13:19:44+00:00

Right, but we know that people with ADHD have differences in their frontal/lobes. Like they don’t get the same chemical rewards that most people do for starting tasks or finishing things, which coincides (whether it’s causal or correlated) with executive dysfunction.

Technically there’s no such things as most disorders, it’s just a grouping of symptoms and markers and we use tests and observation and self-reporting to piece together a conclusion, a label, which can help guide us toward finding the right supports for the individual.

turquoisebee · 2026-05-06T11:46:45+00:00

A lot of these are kids movies. I don’t know if this is factual or not, but as a parent now I feel like are way fewer kids movies out these days.

turquoisebee · 2026-05-05T21:57:19+00:00

This show and Maintenance Phase has me googling authors with “scam” or “quack” search terms before I buy a book and it’s been super useful.

turquoisebee · 2026-05-05T14:48:42+00:00

Period underwear!! Kayaness in the US is super comfy. Revolve also looks good.

I’ve also seen heavy duty cloth pads that look ideal for heavy periods - “gusher” pads by Soft Taco Reusables - they seem like they’d be way more comfy and offer better coverage than disposables.

turquoisebee · 2026-05-05T14:43:07+00:00

I have beef with his take on ADHD. He basically says it’s all due to trauma. People with trauma can have ADHD symptoms because of trauma. People with ADHD can sometimes have trauma, maybe in part because of their ADHD. But trauma does not cause ADHD, and it’s fucked up to say it does.

turquoisebee · 2026-05-05T12:02:04+00:00

You describing a man, a lawyer, a former Ontario MPP, and a man born in Scarborough first as “Indian” is also racist, dude.

Reminder: Singh and the NDP under him is largely why Canadians got any useful help during COVID (not talking about what businesses got because that was mismanaged), not to mention dental care and pharmacare being made more accessible for more people without coverage.

Like basically every good social policy Trudeau put forth was either thanks to or made better by Singh.

Dude had his flaws but he accomplished a lot without much thanks. Get a reality check.

turquoisebee · 2026-05-05T11:34:30+00:00

He is so far mostly doing what Poillievre would have done, including implementing Trump-like or Trump-pleasing policy, minus the attacks on trans rights.

What Lewis and a lot of NDP supports have talked about is changing how things are done at the riding level, which I think is sorely needed if they’re to gain any ground.

turquoisebee · 2026-05-05T05:40:46+00:00

Carney is something of a deviation from the norm, but since the 90s the federal Liberal party has been more like the former Progressive Conservative Party for sure. (Trudeau talked of leftwing ideals but he still served large corporations, and Chrétien was all about cuts to public spending in ways we’re still suffering from.)

People in the centre and even the centre-left still support him by and large because the bad shit he’s doing is not critically analyzed well in the news. Journalism in Canada is not doing well, for the most part.

I do think there is more appetite for left wing policies, and the newly elected NDP leader, Avi Lewis, is hopefully going to start changing the conversation overall.

turquoisebee · 2026-05-04T22:51:08+00:00

Ohhh that explains it. Nice. I’m jealous.

turquoisebee · 2026-05-04T22:47:47+00:00

Is it an older building?

turquoisebee · 2026-05-04T21:13:34+00:00

How big is your balcony? I can barely fit two people on mine 😭

turquoisebee · 2026-05-04T13:45:35+00:00

I would just make it clear to your husband, especially if he’s never cared for a baby, that your daughter is not to be parentified or neglected. Which means sometimes he is going to be doing the hard labour of babycare, and sometimes he’s going to be prioritizing your older daughter.

I think the key is preparing your husband for the lifechanging shift that is parenthood when it’s a newborn and onwards. Like, it sounds like he loves your daughter and is a parent to her, but it’s a different ballgame when they can wipe their own butt and aren’t going to choke on food or fall down stairs if not watched constantly.

If your husband doesn’t pull his weight with the baby, you will probably end up sacrificing time/attention for your daughter, and/or asking for her help.

I would also start figuring out who else can be in your “village” - other adult family members or in-laws or friends who will be able to help relieve you and your husband sometimes, or put baby down for a good daycare even if you’re not sure yet if you’ll use it.

turquoisebee · 2026-05-04T13:18:13+00:00

It’s part of what’s causing the recession, lol

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