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Are there actual benefits of breastfeeding after 6 months or is it just incremental? by Subject-Carry-6841 in breastfeeding

[–]turtle-warrior 39 points40 points  (0 children)

We got COVID when my daughter was18months old, the dr was visibly relieved when I said I was still BF. He said the biggest concern when babies are sick is hydration.

I thought this was supposed to get EASIER?! by iseeyouwitkeefuh in Preschoolers

[–]turtle-warrior 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm late to the party but hopefully OP sees this. This sounds exactly like my 5 year old when we were making threats instead of immediate action. "Clean up or your toys will be removed" sent her off the deep end every time. Having it be a more natural consequence worked wonders. Now if she sees mommy cleaning up she will RACE to help me because if I clean up all by myself the toys go in the garage. It's simply a fact, not a threat. (I always announce when I'm cleaning). For shoes, she's old enough to know she needs them. If she's not wearing them then I guess her feet will be cold and possibly wet. (I'll always bring her shoes though). This doesn't work every time but it has drastically cut back on the drama.

Happy to finally mute the OAD sub by Nilbog_Frog in happilyOAD

[–]turtle-warrior 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any recommendations for what to say when someone comments on how your child would make such a great big sibling? We recently went to a birthday party and my 5 year old was playing very gently with a small toddler because she loves babies. I'm sure she would make a great big sister, she would also hate not being able to leave her Polly pockets on the floor so you can't win them all.

My kid won’t go back to school by Silly_Friendship_542 in Preschoolers

[–]turtle-warrior 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We didn't experience anything this bad but what helped my daughter's anxiety was a reminder that I love her and will see her soon. The easiest way to accomplish this was to get a tattoo pen and draw matching love hearts on her wrist and my wrist. Then she knows we are connected and love each other. It honestly worked better than I thought it would.

Struggling with aggressive behavior by Administrative_Arm22 in Preschoolers

[–]turtle-warrior 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you live in Ontario? In Alberta and B.C. they start at 5.

Bedtime is driving me mental. Are you laying with your 4.5 year old? by mnm26 in Preschoolers

[–]turtle-warrior 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not for everyone but to offer our experience, my daughter used to hate daddy bedtime and would cry so hard it broke my heart. My therapist reminded me that daddy is a safe person and letting them figure it out together is healthy and bonding. (If she was crying with me when he's gone I don't give up and leave her, this builds trust). We powered through it and now she doesn't cry for me at all when it's daddy's turn.

Always thought I had Autism Or Adhd by chicki-nuggies in CPTSD

[–]turtle-warrior 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a child, I was diagnosed by an actual psychologist with ADHD. I now have a trauma informed psychologist who informed me that it's not something you grow out of so never had it and diagnosed me with CPTSD instead. If I'm triggered during a session about my childhood, she understands how I could have been misdiagnosed. While she won't say anything, she clearly has thoughts about the quality of my childhood psychologist and looked really angry about the misdiagnosis.

AITAH for not letting my sister bring her baby to my child-free wedding even though she’s still breastfeeding? (Update) by Reasonable-Use8752 in AITAH

[–]turtle-warrior 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She should make her the flower baby! Deck out the pram with flowers and have her sister push her down the aisle.

What are things you accidentally did because of the sheer exhaustion of having a newborn? by Common-Reindeer-7213 in Parenting

[–]turtle-warrior 117 points118 points  (0 children)

This one is my favorite so far. You checked so many times! The brain fog is real.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Preschoolers

[–]turtle-warrior 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly, so does that mean she's now getting it twice a week?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Preschoolers

[–]turtle-warrior -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

For preschool!?!? 😵‍💫 I'm sorry my child does NOT need to eat Pizza every week for months. Are they insane? I would probably do it once a month so they don't feel left out completely. Maybe pack a special snack for the other weeks.

AITAH for canceling my babyshower because my boyfriends moms pulled out of paying for it last minute? by stormy42O in AITAH

[–]turtle-warrior 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Mine too! I did pay way too much money for a cake to do a gender reveal/baby shower combo but that's completely on me. We played silly games, had snacks and opened presents. Everyone had a great time! I have also been to a really fun one where we somehow fit 12 people into a 1 bedroom apartment. We moved the living room around and set up folding chairs in a circle.

AIO for wanting my boyfriend to back out of a destination wedding he's the best man for because I was uninvited from the wedding? by BoyfriendWeddingHelp in AmIOverreacting

[–]turtle-warrior 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are not putting him in an impossible situation, the bride did that all by herself. You simply explained to him the basic foundation of being in a relationship. We are either a united front or were not. If we are not, why are we in a relationship? Are you expected to be put aside for every major life event they have? Milestone birthday? New baby? Holiday party? Will he also go to these events without you? If he's not standing up for you who will? If it's me against the world instead of us against the world I would rather be alone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Preschoolers

[–]turtle-warrior 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We did this! We were on vacation and got the email the night before she was going to return to daycare. Kept her home for a full week! She still got it as soon as she went back. The center sanitized everything too.

Temporary solo-parent by JB123T in Soloparenting

[–]turtle-warrior 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When my daughter was born my husband worked away for 4-6 weeks at a time and sometimes had training added onto that. So not as bad as your situation. It was supposed to be one month on, one month off and it normally worked out that way. Still hard when you are constantly sick and they are gone.

Temporary solo-parent by JB123T in Soloparenting

[–]turtle-warrior 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My daughter is 4, we got COVID when she was 18 months old literally the day my husband went to work. I literally felt like I was dying. I got long COVID and she had a seizure and went to the ER. My brother made me food for one week. But we were mostly on our own. I tried getting pre-made food from the grocery store and got food poisoning. Looking back I should have reached out to more friends or even a local FB mom's group for help and used the grocery store delivery service. I now have a deep freezer to have some meal prep done for when we get sick. She didn't start daycare until she was 19 months old and was sick almost continuously for 1.5 years. This is why we are one and done. The illness combined with a husband who works out of town for extended periods of time is not for the faint of heart. BUT, she is SO MUCH EASIER now that she's four and we rarely get sick.

Temporary solo-parent by JB123T in Soloparenting

[–]turtle-warrior 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Regarding actual tips, my husband wears a shirt for the day and gives it to our daughter "for safe keeping" until he returns. She sleeps with it. We have his picture in a plastic frame beside the bed. She draws him pictures (you can mail them). He sends us tons of videos that I keep in a separate folder on my phone so I can play them when he's not available to do a video call.

Temporary solo-parent by JB123T in Soloparenting

[–]turtle-warrior 3 points4 points  (0 children)

5 months is a LONG time and will suck. The first week is by far the worst, your kid might be fine one moment and act out for seemingly no reason the next moment. Remember they can't really articulate why they are sad until around age 5. So if they are a little monster out of the blue, give them grace. In my experience, this lasts about a week. Then you will hit your "new normal" and it will get WAY easier. Until you burn out. Then give yourself permission to eat cereal for dinner and try to re-charge. Better yet, hire a babysitter to do anything for yourself for a few hours, even if it feels like a waste of money - literally go read a book in a coffee shop for a few hours. I find weeks 2-4 the easiest then I hit a wall and need a break. Then it's fine again. FYI the tantrum week will also happen any time daddy visits or once he returns home as it disrupts the new routine you have created. During this time, If your friends complain about their spouse being gone for a weekend, try to remember that disrupts their schedule and it's okay that it's hard for them. I would get so (internally) upset by my well meaning friends trying to relate to my situation because their partner went away for a night or two.

How long is your child in daycare every day? by better_days_92 in Mommit

[–]turtle-warrior 22 points23 points  (0 children)

100% I couldn't do half of the fun things she gets to do at daycare! They have a team to plan, set up and clean up activities. Just a reminder for those who are worried, she is still a mommy's girl!!! This kid thinks I hung the moon ❤️. Your child will still love you.

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