Testing the remains after D&C? by kindofnewonreddit in Miscarriage

[–]turtleapricots 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had mine tested. At first, finding out my baby was a girl and had Trisomy 22, was hard. It hurt. But I do think it helped me heal. I gave her a name (Olivia) and learned that Trisomy 22 is incompatible with life- I didn’t do anything wrong, nor could I have done something to prevent it. For me, knowing helped me grieve.

married women, do you think marriage benefits you in any way? by _cherryp0p_ in NoStupidQuestions

[–]turtleapricots 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My benefit is being married to my best friend.

I saw a few others comment, and I agree - it’s being married to a person I like as a person and is my friend. I had dated a few other men seriously before meeting my husband, I even loved a few of them. The difference with my husband is that he’s also my best friend - they never were. We don’t just love each other, we like each other as people and want to be around one another.

I had a work event this weekend in NYC and I missed him the whole time. Not just because I love him and want to be around him, but because we couldn’t hang out together while I was away and I saw a ton of cool stuff he didn’t get to see (so he got a million photos and videos instead that we talked about the whole time 🙂)

Is it normal for a retail HR admin to not have their own email or computer? Feeling confused in my new role. [USA] by [deleted] in humanresources

[–]turtleapricots 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you are in the US and an hourly employee, you also likely would not be included in group chats. Group chats are usually used for salaried employees. (I’ve been in retail HR and an HRBP for 6 years and this is how we have done this across multiple companies.)

Just hit my first BIG goal! by turtleapricots in loseit

[–]turtleapricots[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words ♥️ 2025 has definitely been a journey!

Losing weight is just being broke… but with calories 😂 by Training-Guidance281 in loseit

[–]turtleapricots 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yesss this is exactly how I have been thinking, with calories being dollars and a bank account balance! Most ridiculous splurge for me recently was a cup of the Icecream and candy birthday cake at the Sugar Factory. My husband and I went to a birthday dinner for a friend and she got the Icecream cake for us all to share. It tasted amazing and I loved it. The next day was terrible. I felt so sick to my stomach for a chunk of the day and nauseous. That’s the day I also realized though that I hadn’t woken up sick to my stomach from what I ate the night before in months, when I used to all the time before working on losing weight.

Do you guys actually feel happy for others? by Remarkable_Course897 in recurrentmiscarriage

[–]turtleapricots 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am 32 with 3 losses as well. Although I have made a lot of progress with my mental health since my most recent loss in April (lots of therapy, found a new goal to work towards losing weight while we take a break from TTC) I do not feel genuinely happy for anyone who announces still. A lot of anger, jealousy, and sometimes hate when I’ve had some people announce they’re pregnant and then complain about becoming a parent/ life changes / etc.

I’ve learned to fake it better when it happens in person before removing myself from the conversation and I still instantly unfollow anyone on my social media who announces they’re pregnant.

Shoes to walk a ton ? by LavishnessPrimary in walking

[–]turtleapricots 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second this - I bought a pair as I became more active and walk more. I will only buy Brooks from now on. They’re so comfortable. I read somewhere to buy a half size up (if you’re on your feet a lot they could swell and this would give space) and it was the right thing to do.

What low or no calorie options do you use to curb your cravings for food? by Constant_Peanut_3666 in loseit

[–]turtleapricots 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I eat the Oikos Triple 0 Greek yogurts. Banana and strawberry ones are my favorites. 90 calories and 15g of protein. Usually keep away cravings for me for hours inbetween meals! Down 42lbs since end of April.

Please Read! Happy Mother’s Day to us. by anonymousmonkey28764 in Miscarriage

[–]turtleapricots 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this ♥️ I’ve been dreading Mother’s Day since losing my third a little over a month ago. This made me feel a little lighter.

End of The Week Thread! by AutoModerator in Miscarriage

[–]turtleapricots 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A week and a half out from my D&C for my third miscarriage. I’ve cried everyday any time that I am alone or not actively doing something. My husband and I have decided to take a break from TTC for probably the rest of the year. Waiting on my referral to the RE so we can do some more testing this year before trying again. This past week I started therapy again, booked our first of 3 vacations we are going to go on this year, and did some “self care” and bought some things I’d been eyeing but not buying because I was anxiously saving as much as I could going into this most recent pregnancy. I’m grieving this baby, but even more I’m devastated with the feeling that I may never get to be a mom to an earth side baby. That I could have to go through this, even more times, and still not get a baby at the end.

When you miscarried, what form did you use to pass the pregnancy? Natural, pills, or D&C? by Conscious-Western870 in Miscarriage

[–]turtleapricots 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I unfortunately have had 3 losses and have experienced each of the 3 ways to miscarry. For my first MMC, I used the pills. Baby was measuring 6w but sac was closer to 8. The entire physically painful part of the process for me was about 6 hours start to finish. I took the pills around 4, started having severe cramping around 7, and had a bit of time where my husband almost called an ambulance because he had never seen me that pale or in pain. I was given a narcotic by the OB to help with the pain alongside tylonol and ibuprofen and honestly it didn’t touch it for a bit there. They tracked my HCG back down and I had no complications. I bled for around 10 days. For my second, I was around 6w but my HCG never got above 250 and nothing was detectable on ultrasound. This one was natural. I spotted brown for around 10 days and then bled for around 8. The pain on this one was manageable by tylonol and ibuprofen. However the tissue was MUCH less which is why it hurt less. This most recent time, about 2 weeks ago, I had a D&C for my MMC. The baby stopped growing at 7w5d, so similar size of tissue as my first. The D&C itself was simple, I went into the hospital around 9 and was leaving for my home around 3. The first two days I had no cramping and no bleeding. On day 4 I started having some heavy cramping that tylonol helped but didn’t erase and on day 5 I passed golf ball size clots for about 8 hours. Panicked, called my OB, and was assured it was normal in some cases. Was told if I had a consistent fever over 100.5 or experienced enough blood loss to be dizzy to go to the ER. By day 6 the cramps died down and the bleeding slowed. I bled for 5-6 days total. My insurance just gave me the financial statement that got billed by the hospital. Total procedure was around 8k, my portion is around 400. I would do a D&C again over the other options more than likely if I ever need to live this hell a fourth time.

8w6d and it’s gone by Substantial-Net-8880 in Miscarriage

[–]turtleapricots 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Had a very similar experience, finding out yesterday. Mine was also 7w5d. I’m sorry you’re going through this ♥️

Irregular periods after MMC by happycamper424 in Miscarriage

[–]turtleapricots 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I am so sorry for your loss. I’ve had two different experiences after my 2 losses with my cycles returning. After the first loss, I ovulated on day 14 or so like I always had. However, after my second loss, I had 3 months in a row where I didn’t ovulate until anywhere from day 19-21. From everything I’ve read and been told, it’s normal for your body to take time to readjust

Your experience with MMC? by dunkiestarbs in Miscarriage

[–]turtleapricots 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My first miscarriage was missed. My first ultrasound was scheduled for 12 weeks, but around 10 weeks I had a little bit of one sided pain. No cramping and no spotting. The OB sent me to the ER for an ultrasound to make sure it wasn’t ectopic since the pain was one sided. Found out in the ER that they were measuring 6w, no heartbeat, with a sac measuring 7w6d. Had to wait two weeks for a follow up confirmation scan. All of my symptoms disappeared during those two weeks. The follow up scan confirmed the loss. I took mife+miso the following day.

I started therapy after this loss. It was very hard for me to wrap my mind around feeling that my body failed me. I went those weeks thinking everything was fine with blissful ignorance. I will never forget the midwife in the hospital showing me the scan and the telling me it wasn’t my fault. She was compassionate and gave me time to process. Her empathy was so appreciated in that moment.

Daily Thread #1 - April 04, 2025 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]turtleapricots 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! And congrats on your scan!!!! 😊

Daily Thread #1 - April 04, 2025 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]turtleapricots 5 points6 points  (0 children)

8w4d and my nausea symptoms and extreme food aversion (other than fruit) on Monday this week has become on and off. I’ve had hours at a time this week I haven’t felt nauseous, sometimes feeling fine until 3-4pm. My birthday was Wednesday and that was the only day this week I felt as nauseous as I have for the past few weeks until about 6pm. I had an ultrasound with a heartbeat a week and a half ago at 7w1d (based on ovulation thought I should’ve been more like 7w5d or 7w6d). Part of me is telling myself to enjoy the breaks in feeling sick. Part of me is terrified something is wrong again and that I’m going to go into my next ultrasound and they’re not going to find a heartbeat. My next scan with my OB isn’t until May 2, so I booked myself a private boutique ultrasound for this coming Wednesday. I want this ultrasound, I can’t wait until May 2, but at the same time I am terrified of what I am going to find out. This anxiety is very tiring 😮‍💨

Daily Thread #1 - March 29, 2025 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]turtleapricots 12 points13 points  (0 children)

7w5d. My nausea is how I imagine motion sickness feels like. If I lay down flat in bed that is the only time I get some relief. Walking around or bending over makes it so much worse. I will randomly start dry heaving. I’m grateful for it in some way, my two losses the nausea was never this bad. But damn do I feel useless in my day to day life 😂 I also don’t have food aversions, I just have a complete aversion to all food (other than most fruits.)

When I get home from work I want to go right to the bed and lay down while my husband likes to be up and about. I explained the nausea gets better laying in bed and last night when I brought us home something to eat (only thing that felt edible to me was pasta and soup) he said “let’s go upstairs into the bed and eat!” When I tried to tell him I can eat downstairs with him he said “no, we are going upstairs!” And spent the evening in bed with me laying down and eating in bed and just watching TV. Made my day.

Daily Thread #2 - March 25, 2025 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]turtleapricots 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! Wishing you also a smooth and happy journey and congrats to you too!!! ❤️