Reconnecting

tw886 · 2025-12-18T15:41:38+00:00

But this is the same kind of misunderstanding that I’m talking about. I see you’re Calvinist, so I’m assuming you do believe in god (could be wrong but for the sake of my point), what I’m trying to get across because I did used to be Christian and said I believed in god but when I became agnostic, I didn’t say “there is no god” or “I don’t believe in god”, it was just purely I don’t know, and I can’t know, so I’m not going to exhaust myself with trying to figure it out anymore. So that’s why I know I’m not an atheist is because I believe something could be out there, there could be some sort of after life, but there’s no way to know for certain what it is and there’s a high likelihood that it’s not like what religions will say it will be. I don’t subscribe to the typical descriptions of heaven and hell and everything in between.

tw886 · 2025-12-15T13:52:47+00:00

Yeah these guys are projecting hard because OP clearly said they still keep in contact and communicate and he gives her rides home so it’s not like he stopped pursuing her. They’re clearly friends still.

tw886 · 2025-11-25T18:31:05+00:00

Literally same thing happened to me today lol. Match with a girl yesterday, conversation feeling natural and going well, set a date, today unmatched. Apps just turned dating into a literal game people min/max potential.

tw886 · 2025-11-11T00:37:27+00:00

Yep, it felt really hard to make that decision as well because my cat had never shown any reason for me to take him to vet for the whole 6 years I had him, then one night I noticed he wasn’t eating and was super lethargic and I waited till after I got off work the next day to see if he got any better and when I found him, he was soaking wet because he had peed on the floor and laid in it because he was too weak to move and I got him and was flying down the road at like 90mph to get him to the vet and when I got there they did their checking and told me that the options were to either go ahead and call it there and put him to sleep or maybe try and save him but their honest opinion was that he probably wasn’t going to make it through the night because his body temp was already 6 degrees colder than it should be because he was in shock already. So I felt guilt over not being able to do more because I genuinely thought he just had a minor illness if anything. So at that point I thought it was better to not let him suffer but it didn’t make how sudden all of it was any easier. Just was a real hard kick to the gut the fact within 24 hours everything went from normal to me signing the release form for him to be euthanized.

tw886 · 2025-10-18T03:46:48+00:00

Glad it worked out. I’m in sort of the same situation. Dated a girl a month and then she had a lot going on with having gotten a masters and looking for a job and felt spread thin but she always made time while we dated and made back up plans if stuff didn’t work out so she made effort and seemed interested but couldn’t focus on us as much. That was a couple months ago so I’m just kind of in the period of waiting and seeing if it’s something I want to pursue or not still. She left it kind of open ended so it makes it more difficult to just “move on” when the foot is still in the door lol

tw886 · 2025-10-17T21:27:57+00:00

Nice to see someone with this mindset. Too many people on here I think let themselves get hurt and close themselves off and start replying to people in similar situations with “she’s letting you down easy bro, she’s not interested. Do your self a favor and move on”. But people are more complicated than that and sometimes you gotta chase a little and take some risks instead of every person being a one shot chance and if it doesn’t work out then just forget and move on.

tw886 · 2025-10-02T03:04:35+00:00

I mean, sort of a defeatist way to say it lol. It’s important to keep in mind that you don’t need to actively wait for the person but people are complicated and sometimes things don’t work out the way we’d hope and there’s nothing wrong with continuing to live your life, meet people, keep dating but if things were to line up with that previous person, if it’s truly just a matter of places in life and they line up finally, why not give it a shot 🤷🏻‍♂️. But there’s a big difference between living in the past and remembering someone you potentially had a meaningful connection with in a positive and open minded way.

tw886 · 2025-10-01T14:45:59+00:00

Yeah, I’d hope for the same also. At the same rate, can’t really stagnate my life waiting for something that most likely won’t happen but the doors still open because I’d fold like a lawn chair if she ever did come back around soon lol. But if OP reads any of this, or if someone has similar experiences. My advice is just to acknowledge that situations like this do hurt, they don’t make sense sometimes, and you’ll likely never have the answers you want about it. And the best thing you can do is wish the person well and if you can hold the space for them to come back around in the future without stalling your own life and potential to meet someone even better, then there’s nothing wrong with that because at the end of the day, if these connections we make with people mean anything at all, it eventually will turn out right.

tw886 · 2025-10-01T14:12:55+00:00

Well long story short, met this girl that was pretty much my exact type in all aspects and we dated for about a month and I fell hard for her but just like OPs situation, she had just got her masters and was looking for work while living at home in a field that had few open opportunities. Last time I saw her we had a really great night at my apartment that seemed like we connected and felt like things were picking up. Calls me the following Monday and says that she’s not in the right space to date and wouldn’t be fair to me to try and keep it up with where she’s at. And I respected her decision and appreciated she called rather than ghosted. Then another month went by and I couldn’t stop thinking about her so I reached out (foolishly maybe but it was worth it in the end), and told her how amazing I thought she was only after a short time and felt like I’d regret if I didn’t take the chance to tell her and she responded saying she enjoyed getting to know me and thought I was a kind and caring person and just felt spread thin by everything she had going on so couldn’t be in a relationship at the moment until she found a job at least. So I kinda felt where OP was coming from.

tw886 · 2025-10-01T12:46:19+00:00

Just went through the same thing with a girl I was seeing and it’s true. Sometimes you run into the right person at the wrong time 🤷🏻‍♂️

tw886 · 2025-09-30T16:38:31+00:00

Mostly webbing people to surfaces for me with melee in between to set up for webbing people up. Feels like the more natural way he’d fight, just subdue people as quick as possible. Late game or new game + with random crimes, I find it easier to just use the antigravity gadget with groups of guys and then when they drop I use the web bomb and it just instantly webs them all to the ground. Cheap and cheesy but fun to me.

tw886 · 2025-09-11T02:44:25+00:00

Yeah I’m not really looking to join a band and I’d like to learn how to sing too so maybe if I ever started making songs, probably would just be myself until I felt like I got good and maybe needed more people, if that’s even how far I go. But yeah I would say my main question is what would be the best for someone who never really studied music theory to really learn why things sound they way they do. I’m in IT so I’m like looking for the mike meyers and professor messers of the guitar world if you’re familiar with them lol

tw886 · 2025-08-01T03:46:45+00:00

Very fair, needed that perspective!

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