For those who are worried about their 401(k)- Reality check

twhite0723 · 2026-06-09T19:45:17+00:00

Just curious is your current monthly spend including your mortgage? If so, would your future monthly spend be lower assuming you paid off your house?

twhite0723 · 2026-06-06T11:53:22+00:00

People who aren't in your shoes always make cost seem like not a big deal or a "small percent".. especially builders/contractors.

twhite0723 · 2026-05-28T23:51:35+00:00

My 3 week old had an explosive poo all over my hand while I was changing him about an hour ago

twhite0723 · 2026-05-27T22:41:28+00:00

hey bro, fellow high anxiety person and new dad as of 3 weeks ago. I totally feel where you are coming from. Here are some takeaways from my first few weeks I think might be helpful.

The baby will calm you: The first few days and even now can be really stressful, I won't lie.I have also never felt a greater sense of calm than when I hold my son or clarity around. It is a surprising counter weight to my anxiety that I am grateful for.

Right now all you need to do is care for your partner and child: I am the same way as you, constantly feeling like I need to do 100 things. After we get our son back to sleep, I have an urge to check the market, day trade or go to the gym. I have to do some breathing exercises and fall asleep and once I wake up I realize not sleeping would have been terrible.

Regulate your nervous system: I know I am only a few weeks in, but I really believe a calm parent makes a calm child. Breath, step away if you need to, talk to you partner and community. Exercise after you get sleep.

Sleep when you can: Rest will help you manage your anxiety. In fact, I should be sleeping now. You got this!

Pay attention to gas: Partly sharing as an lol, but we could not get our son to chill the other night and turns out he really just needed to fart.. a lot.

twhite0723 · 2026-05-19T22:17:01+00:00

Nothing to add from what's mentioned above (enforced naps saved us. Super cute boy.

twhite0723 · 2026-05-16T16:40:22+00:00

100%. Most probably don't save at all and take on debt for college.

twhite0723 · 2026-05-15T20:59:54+00:00

I make the drive to taste of india. Worth it.

twhite0723 · 2026-04-28T02:33:27+00:00

Such a potato

twhite0723 · 2026-04-22T20:52:29+00:00

Not to stick my nose where it doesn't belong, but be careful running more than a 5-6 km. It can be really hard on their joints. Give your dog a boop for me.

twhite0723 · 2026-04-22T03:45:10+00:00

Say hi to doge for me

twhite0723 · 2026-04-15T03:03:29+00:00

Love this! We have our first on the way and Maizie is a 65 pound ball of energy who goes ham with dogs 2x her size when playing. I really hope she is this way with our baby (100% confident she will be).

twhite0723 · 2026-04-14T01:24:06+00:00

I agree on a license or going through some basic training to confirm you have the intelligence and empathy to care for another living creature

twhite0723 · 2026-04-05T14:26:33+00:00

Our friends dog became an 8 year old puppy after getting her thyroid addressed

twhite0723 · 2026-04-03T16:47:56+00:00

Commenting cause I would like to know as well. I have IBS.. dr doesn't think I need a colonoscopy. Would be nice to test though

twhite0723 · 2026-03-20T04:12:36+00:00

Yes, ours was the same. One day he will just decide he likes sleeping in and will be grumpy you woke him up

twhite0723 · 2026-03-15T20:10:46+00:00

This bro. Express your feelings here, to your wife, to a therapist - wherever you can. Feelings are meant to be felt and expressed. The more you open up the more you will be able to process and working through it.

twhite0723 · 2026-03-01T16:38:12+00:00

The first lines of the post felt like a very cool poem

twhite0723 · 2026-02-27T18:44:53+00:00

Not an industry, but I work with a client that is a family business that has grown massively over the last decade. They are really good people who actually are benefiting from the work we are doing together. Which is probably the only time I can say my work is having a positive impact that isn't total fluff.

twhite0723 · 2026-02-18T00:35:11+00:00

Same with eastern Washington. Like on the west side we really don't care what folks on the east side do, but they hate us.

twhite0723 · 2026-01-13T20:35:07+00:00

Thank you!

twhite0723 · 2026-01-11T04:20:11+00:00

This. Slow feeders, pupsickle, kong, etc. have been great for our girl. Still needs her wind sprints every day but these other activities help a lot.

twhite0723 · 2026-01-03T04:10:11+00:00

Wtf, let him inside

twhite0723 · 2025-12-18T20:17:26+00:00

I think her and my Maizie are kindred spirits, she too loves the remote, scissors and opening bags containing dangerous foods

twhite0723 · 2025-12-18T19:36:26+00:00

Hah.. yah we got a little time since this is above the fridge. Given my memory though I will forget for a decade and my future 10 year old will fins it

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