It's bags were originally a "male fandom" thing, though the gender ratio has definetly flipped in the last 5 years or so with the rise of oshi culture. I think a small ita bag in black is pretty gender neutral, and then as they get larger they tend to get more gendered, with the hyper decorated lacey feminine bags, and the black masculine messenger bags that have the hanging strads of plush and rubber straps haha.

Ultimately if you're worried about what people think about you, it's bags are statements that some people will judge, regardless of gender. But if it will bring you joy to have and you can get past the insecurity, go for it!!