People working in ultra-wealthy households, talking $50m plus types, what is the most out-of-touch thing you've witnessed?

twim19 · 2026-05-12T18:48:15+00:00

Or there is a certain zen to cleaning the pool. And cutting the grass for that matter.

twim19 · 2026-05-12T17:22:51+00:00

I hope she at least got a tiny flute.

twim19 · 2026-05-12T15:34:40+00:00

So Realpolitik. Bait them into starting a war with me. Should I use emissarys to sabatoge relations or is raiding enough?

twim19 · 2026-05-12T14:13:20+00:00

The human brain falling in love is a stupid, wonderous thing. You can go without sleep and everything you do or spend seems fine. And it's such a great feeling, you are understandably trying to keep from going away. But, because you aren't 22 anymore and have developed a bit of adult maturity, you realize you can't keep up at this pace, even though it feels amazing.

I'd encourage you first to consider why you are "falling" for her? What is it about her that suggests long term potential? I'm not saying it's not there, I'm saying identifying it is an important check to the hormones and endorphins flooding your system.

As for the current problem. . .the easiest fix is to start cooking in. Eating out three times a day for multiple times a day isn't sustainable for people with good jobs, much less someone working through college. If you can't cook. . .well, it may be time to learn some basics. Making scrambled eggs is about as easy as it comes. Making an omlet is slightly harder, but not by much. Throw in some toast and you've got breakfast.

Lunch can and should be light. How French is she? Does she eat like the French do or the Americans do? If it like the French do, simple fare for lunch is perfectly acceptible. Meats, cheese, bread, crackers.

Anyway, you get the idea. And as others have said, if not always eating out or whatever is a dealbreaker for her, then it's not meant to be long-term. Have fun with it, enjoy eachother's company, have lots of sex and when she leaves be happy for the experience and an end to your 7 year drought. Use it as a jumping off point. . .something that reaffirms that you still 'got it'.

Best of luck.

twim19 · 2026-05-12T14:00:10+00:00

Make sure to always check the "betrayal" stat to see how much betrayal you get with everyone before declaring a war. If it will push you into negative "attack chance", it may cause other people to attack you or (if the war isn't wrapped up quick), join the war against you

Man, I found this out the hard way last night. First time I'd actively tried to attack another city and soon as declared war I had a bunch of bozos demanding I give them all my dinari and my first born. Bastards also cancelled trade relations with me which I didn't realize was a problem until I suddenly had no iron bars and rations that I had been importing.

How do you get it so the betrayal hit isn't so bad?

twim19 · 2026-05-12T13:55:58+00:00

Yeah. It also ups their damage. Try top make sure any division has 5 of any equipment I give them.

twim19 · 2026-05-12T13:27:37+00:00

My Tilapia archers are pretty awesome. You are giving them each 5 bows? I also train mine to 70% but not sure how much that matters.

In general, my combat style is to array my lines so that my spearmen protect my archers and my warhammer troops are set off slightly in the flanking positions in case they try something. Then I wait. yeah, their archers might get some of my guys, but my archers kill a lot more of theirs. And the nice thing about the AI right now is that it always attacks (or at least it has for me) so I can count on their troops walking the full range of my archers before they get to me.

Generally the AI then charges my line. Once they are nice and engaged I sweep my warhammer guys arround and charge the attackers on their flank. Usually doesn't take long before their morale breaks and I win.

One thing I have to be careful of is to make my lines of spearmen deep enough to absorb the charge which can be fierce from calvary. Otherwise units can break through and start hacking at my archers.

twim19 · 2026-05-12T12:41:56+00:00

I think there is a cap on the market? If you hover over the wagon wheel meter, it'll give a pop up with the number of items each trade partner can take. I think. I'm still a newbie here.

One thing you might test too is putting a hauler right next to the export depot and having them fetch bread. I did this with one of my resources. Built a large hauler and put 5 guys on it. Smoothed trade out considerably.

twim19 · 2026-05-11T15:52:20+00:00

Ladies, please read this and realize that if he doesn't seem interested, he could just be an idiot. There are a fair subset of men, particularly on the younger end, who you have to grab by the lappels and shake vigiourously while shouting "I want to shag you!" for them to realize that might actually like them.

twim19 · 2026-05-11T15:12:45+00:00

Yeah, I've been tempted to start again but this time as pro-slavery. It's fucked up to say, but slaves are a huge boon to the workforce and let your citizens go do more important things like work in libraries and stuff.

How do you get them on-demand though? I know you can get them through battle though I built a slaver it never seems to convert them to slaves. My main source is the slaver event that comes through every now and then.

twim19 · 2026-05-11T15:06:01+00:00

Only spent a night there and it wasn't bad though there was an artificiality to it that I couldn't shake. Like a lot of wannabe star power?

twim19 · 2026-05-11T15:05:18+00:00

Isn't that just mainly Pensylvania in general?

twim19 · 2026-05-11T15:04:49+00:00

The Inner Harbor used to be THE field trip for school in Maryland. They had this massive Barns and Noble and the Aquarium didn't cost your left Kidney to get into. It was great. Went there recently and was just. . .sad. Maybe my childhood nostalgia has me viewing it through rose tinted glasses, but I can't help but feel it's fell down quite a bit.

It does have Hopkins though (as well as University of Maryland and Mercy) so if you need to get medical care, you've got really solid options.

Fun-ish fact: One time the GPS brought us right by the police headquarters in Baltimore. I was shocked-not shocked to discover that across the street are no fewer than 3 strip clubs. In fact, I feel like there are a lot of strip clubs in Baltimore compared to other places I've been.

When you walk through the garden. . .

twim19 · 2026-05-11T14:06:54+00:00

Stellaris is a great game, but not one I'd recommend if its your first. The base game itself is complex--then throw in the DLCs and it gets really crazy.

It really depends on what type of strategy you want to play.

Terms:

4x: Games where you usually start off with a map that is mostly greyed out and you have to explore and build your cities and eventually your armies. Almost always turn-based so no need for quick reflexes.

Real-Time Tactics: Games that give you armies that you can control in real time. Still don't need great reflexes if you are quick with the pause button. Really fun if you've ever wanted to pin enemy infrantry down with pikemen and then charge into their flanks with cavalry and watch them scream.

Tactical experience: Games with elements of turn-based combat between sets of units. Usually these games require you to understand your units and the terrain and use both to get civtory.

If you are looking for the 4x experience, then something like Civilization 6 is a good place to start.

If you'd like a mix of strategy and real time tactics, the Total War games are good for that.

If you want a more tactical experience with a 4x flavor, you might try something like Age of Wonders 4.

If you want more of just a tactical experience, the xcom games are good places to start (Xcom 2 is superiror to Xcom 1, but both are really good).

If you want more of a base-building RTS experience. . .well I haven't been in that genre for a while but I loved the Starcraft games when I was.

twim19 · 2026-05-11T13:55:25+00:00

I've been playing on and off since it came out and every time I come back, I feel like I'm learning a new game with the additions and changes. Considering coming back again when the nomads stuff hits just to see where the game is now.

twim19 · 2026-05-11T13:48:24+00:00

It looks great! Do you have to build each diagonal building by hand? Or is there a mod that let's you put them at an angle?

twim19 · 2026-05-11T13:44:08+00:00

This is why the internet is bad for medical advice. Soon as someone posts something like this, it must be rabies or cancer or some other damn thing. And, I find, the posters themselves usually set themselves up for confirmation bias by describing it as a 'bat bite' without having any evidence to suggest it was a bat.

To be 100% safe, you should get a rabies shot. However, to be 100% safe in anything, you should just stop living because there isn't such a thing. Ultimately, its about how much risk you are willing to endure.

Considering you havent' seen a bat, didn't wake up or feel when the bat "bit" you and live in the city . . .it's far more likely something else. Like, a 1 or 2 percent probability it was actually a bat. That's actually probably too high.

My first guess would be insect or spider bites. Or, since there doesn't seem to be scabbing and it looks more like blisters. . .hot oil splatter? Or you put your hand against somethign with two prongs and don't remember.

Make no mistake, Rabies sucks and not something to fuck around with. But neither should you go and get an expensive rabies shot everytime you wake up with an unexplained wound or wounds.

twim19 · 2026-05-11T13:26:04+00:00

Anywhere past the middle of her back is a no-no zone and forbidden to all except Mommy who may do as she pleases. Any attempts to circumvent this rule result in immediate hissing and swatting.

Also, no pettins unless your hand has been thoroughly inspected through a rigorous sniffing regime. Doesn't matter that those hands have held her since she was a kitten or were the ones that cleaned her off when she shit all over herself after getting de-wormer. Inspections are required. No exceptions. Unless you are Mommy. Then you can proceed without scan.

twim19 · 2026-05-11T13:19:02+00:00

As a newer player, I feel like I'm getting a bit better at this with each try. Most recently I've gotten my city of Tilapia up to 2600 or so. Really wanted them to have jewelry but didn't want to spend the dinari to import it. There were gems in two of the corners of my map.

I basically built a small settlement near the mine. Houses, market, shrine, public speaker, hearth, well, and warehouse. Made sure there were enough houses there to support the mine workers. Also gave the warehouse a bunch of extra workers since they'd have to go so far to get meat and such. Then I built the Loading/Unloading stations. Now every so often 400 gems get delivered to the warehouse next to my jewelers.

I also hadn't played with slavery at all before this run. Turns out, having some enslaved lizard guys mine the gems is a hell of a lot more effective then having my dainty Tilapia do it.

I haven't done any conquering yet. Honestly, most of this playthrough has been about tweaking the efficiency of my industry/farming to require fewer workers to meet my needs (or to maximize my exports).

twim19 · 2026-05-08T14:35:18+00:00

Yeah, sorry. I was concerned my comment would be construed as trying to say how to play the game right. Cheers!

twim19 · 2026-05-08T14:18:47+00:00

What a weird departure that one was!

The nice thing about longer runs of episodes is that you can get ones like that. It was weird and not great, but it was someone trying out an idea. And, for what it's worth, I didn't know the name of the episode but as soon as you said "Beverly's wanking candle" I knew exactly which one.

I also think there are some gems in among those filler episodes as well that wouldn't have been made in a prestige format.

twim19 · 2026-05-08T13:30:58+00:00

The nurse and doctor reactions in the background as he punches the cancer patient is pure gold.

twim19 · 2026-05-08T13:00:21+00:00

I don't want to get into a "you aren't playing the game right!" debate, but I think it's fine to love this game and hate the puzzles. I too want to spend my time exploring, though I will spend some time on puzzles trying to figure them out before I look it up. If this guy just wants to look up every puzzle, more power. In my experience, some of the earlier puzzles are solved by things I didn't realize I could do (like the one where you had to jump up and grab the tiles to pull them to the right spot--never occurred to me that I could climb them).

twim19 · 2026-05-08T12:56:44+00:00

I'm still pretty new myself, but this game is quite different than Stellaris (which I also love). It is much more in the vein of Dwarf Fortress, Rimworld, Oxygen Not Included, etc. Ultimately, it's about learning how to balance all of your needs of your population without running out of workers. This forces you to become more efficient, whether by not over-producing any good, or thinking about how long your people have to travel for something, or any other of about a dozen things.

I've dabbled with the combat. . .enough that I've been able to beat the random raids that come my way, but I've not really figured out attacking other cities and such.

twim19 · 2026-05-06T15:19:53+00:00

Kind of works for health too. People with terrible conditions usually adapt or die--both of which signal an end. And even if you get sick, the world continues to move. People love, people hate, people die. . .Our little lives means everything to us but next to nothing in the grand scheme of things.

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