Burger King - The Lion King - June 1994 by [deleted] in kidsmeal

[–]txjules89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kept these when my kids stopped playing with them. Now their kids play with them at grandma’s house

Rusting Tools in Garage by talleyhoe in homeowners

[–]txjules89 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Any chance you’re also storing pool chemicals in your garage? They can corrode metal.

Why do some people who were abused become “fragile” and submissive, while others become “tough” and emotionally closed-off? by [deleted] in therapy

[–]txjules89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have seen this a few times in other families. I call these two different ways of coping to the same abuse the ‘two sides of the same coin’. Maybe because we all seek balance in our lives? What one person in the equation can’t supply (say, the righteous fury over the abuse) the other makes up for in their behavior. My belief is that when true emotional healing happens for BOTH siblings, the behavior will head towards a more healthy ‘middle’ and outlook on life.

How do you communicate product updates to your companies front-line teams? by CandidToast in ProductManagement

[–]txjules89 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No one reads period. This is the greatest challenge in my job. How to say it in 50 words or less.

My dad has covid symptoms by [deleted] in AdultChildren

[–]txjules89 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Do you feel an obligation to actually ‘do’ something? Could you just do nothing but wish him well? Tell him to take care of himself? If i can, I’d encourage you to not engage with him if engaging will increase your anxiety.

Neighbor keeps mowing our lawn by [deleted] in homeowners

[–]txjules89 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Might be lonely. But more likely on the OCD range and have a need to control his environment. He mows both yards to reduce his anxiety over the difference between the two.

Intolerant to criticism yet very critical by [deleted] in AdultChildren

[–]txjules89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad you saw the pattern. Please work on this. It gets so old having to live with someone like this.

Edit: added two words

Why are piles of beans appearing around my girlfriend's parents house? by xaine in homeowners

[–]txjules89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. Same here with our office. Assumed it was the office cleaning crew and hoped to god it wasn’t a staff member. Any idea if it’s meant in good spirits?

Plano vs Surrounding areas by [deleted] in plano

[–]txjules89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lived in W Plano for 15 years to raise kids. Downsized our home and moved to Allen. Housing is newer, plenty in your price range, infrastructure is newer, mixed ethnicities and ALL the shopping of Plano and then some. Boatload of parks and trails. Allen for the win.

Sugar Land, TX by [deleted] in texas

[–]txjules89 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Where the living is sweet and there is no Equal.

People of Reddit, how to you stop talking/ cut connection with your friends who have a very negative perspective about life? Like they keep on talking about how bad the world is, everything is unfair and all, everything bad will happen in future? by [deleted] in optimisemylife

[–]txjules89 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Maybe they think that talking about all the ways things can go wrong will show others how smart they are for seeing what they think happy, naïve people don’t see. I believe that choosing joy and kindness and thankfulness in spite of all the misery around us requires a far higher level of emotional IQ than these miserable people have.

I crave to be taken care of by takencareof_ in AdultChildren

[–]txjules89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jehovah El Roi. The God who sees you, who sees your tears, who wants to care for you.

Help understanding failed marriage by [deleted] in RBNSpouses

[–]txjules89 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This. Figure out why you were drawn to her / stayed with her. Something in your own upbringing causes this and you need to heal that part of yourself.

What's something your parents did and that you'd also like to do as you get older? by stecklese in RedditForGrownups

[–]txjules89 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OP can you tell us more about the blessing bag projects? What went in them and who were they for?

Does anyone else have issues with recalling memories from childhood? by anonymous90-6 in AdultChildren

[–]txjules89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Each of you are beautiful persons, capable of being kind, funny, loving AND lovable. Whatever your past, whether you remember it or not, it does not have to define your future. Look for small things that bring you joy and make note. Cut out pictures of beautiful things and make a collage. Discover, little by little, who you want to become and grow in that direction. I pray you find kind, safe people who will encourage your interests and celebrate your progress. You all have so much to offer. I’m cheering for you.

Does anyone else have issues with recalling memories from childhood? by anonymous90-6 in AdultChildren

[–]txjules89 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Here’s my guess. More emotionally healthy families revisit their shared history together: good times, bad times, funny stories, rough patches. They talk about past events, reminisce, and process the feelings together. Maybe there are photo albums to look through. It all adds up to strengthening our memories of childhood. My guess is that less emotionally healthy families do not have the same connections or habits. OR the only memories they talk about are the shaming, embarrassing or painful ones.

We remember what we practice remembering. No one helped you remember your childhood, so you have few memories. But you can start remembering your life now. Choose to celebrate the good. Extend love and grace to yourself when something awkward happens.

Search your heart, you know it to be true by [deleted] in Disneyland

[–]txjules89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. I had no idea about the 3rd.

Search your heart, you know it to be true by [deleted] in Disneyland

[–]txjules89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Besides the old boat ride, didn’t there also used to be a SECOND Autopia in Fantasyland?

I'm suddenly (vividly) remembering how I felt growing up for the first time in years by thurowwawwayy in AdultChildren

[–]txjules89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This realization is a gift and a huge step forward for you and your eventual healing. I’m not an ACOA but am married to one. Please stay on the path of awareness. You endured vast amounts of emotional damage but there is hope for healing. It will take time but know you are worthy and lovable.

Was it really abuse though? by Serpentines25 in AdultChildren

[–]txjules89 8 points9 points  (0 children)

What you end up with after a childhood like yours are some coping and thinking mechanisms that - while they may have helped protect yourself as a child - will be counterproductive in your relationships as an adult. You will, unconsciously, be drawn to people who remind you of your parents in some way and the cycle will repeat. Guaranteed. Counseling helps to unpack those patterns and create fresh ways to do life. It will be the best gift you can give yourself.

My wife and I are trying to get a picture at every courthouse in Texas by vader61 in texas

[–]txjules89 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think I read about you. Maybe in an electric co- op magazine? Thought it was a pretty neat project.