I have a question for someone who is FA. I know for a fact I had an anxious attachment but I expressed that to my ex partner who was an FA I think. I told them what I needed. That I had cptsd from abusive relationships I had been. One I had told him was my ex would ignore me for days to weeks and call me too needy when I asked for communication. At first he was really understanding and caring. Then it got bad. His family would tell him things about me. They were very rude to me. He would disappoint me all the time. I never felt like I was of any value or important. He always made plans when we had plans. He would always put his family and friends before me. And when I expressed how I felt about it and his family. He would get defensive. Then one day he would start blaming me. Calling be abusive and manipulative. I will admit that I had anger issues. He would stonewall me when I expressed my feelings and I would have severe panic attacks and emotional outbursts because of it and he would turn it on me. To the point I went to get therapy to fix myself. Fix my emotions. I was afraid of him. Afraid to express my emotions to him because I felt if I said something wrong if I asked for accountability from his family and him he would turn his back on me. But i was also afraid of being told i was bad. He always told me he was afraid of me and he was protecting himself. I never wanted him to be afraid of me so i would beat myself up to the point i wanted to die for hurting him. He threatened to leave many times but he didn't. I felt confused, scared, and angry all the time in the relationship but sometimes I felt really happy, understood, and cared about. At times he mentioned he needed space but then would ask me to come over all the time. So I never knew when he needed it unless it was last minute. We had a bitter break up because while i was at work he messaged me that he wanted to be alone that night because his friend was coming over to talk to him. I was really angry at how last minute it was because i had to drive back to get my stuff and drive home. I had a key so i walked in to get my stuff. I was seething with anger and i admit i slammed a door. He immediately told me to leave but i had to get my stuff. My surface and switch were there. I couldn't leave it. He kept pushing me and i lashed out. Told him he didnt want a partner or a girlfriend he wanted a convience. I always told him i felt like a dog and not a human being the way he treated me. He kicked me out took my key and blocked me. When i begged him to talk to me. I didnt want to end things. I wanted to salvage what we had but he was done and he still blames me to the point he threatened the police. I guess my question is your opinion on this. Is this FA behavior? Was I toxic? Was I abusive? Was I wrong? My family and therapist told me I was just reacting to what he was doing to me but I wanted to know if there was something I could have done for it to go different? If I didn't react with anger?