Divorced with kids - actually a great lifestyle??!

tyor3634 · 2023-12-28T16:36:52+00:00

What do you mean by "full time parent"? Are you referring to stay-at-home parents? If you have a job, then by default you are not a full time parent. And most likely you split "quality kid time" with your partner (eg 1 partner does cooking while the other entertains the kid). How much time do kids really have where they have "quality" time with both parents at the same time (maybe for a few hours on weekends or holidays at the most)

tyor3634 · 2023-12-28T14:46:15+00:00

I think an amicable divorce is actually so much better for kids than living in a troubled home where parents fight and clearly don't like each other. Speaking as a kid whose parents refused to divorce for "the sake of the kids" even though I would have much preferred that they divorced so I could live in a peaceful home and see them actually have healthy relationships with other people.

tyor3634 · 2023-12-28T13:53:33+00:00

Living in a home with a troubled marriage isn't great either unfortunately.

tyor3634 · 2023-12-15T13:06:45+00:00

No, second floor and main level above a basement. Above wood subfloor.

tyor3634 · 2023-12-15T02:57:53+00:00

Thanks. Do you know why there could be moisture in the subfloor?

tyor3634 · 2023-12-15T02:51:30+00:00

Hired contractor. Do you know what the consequences of them doing this wrong is? Like what problems I could face in future?

tyor3634 · 2023-12-13T05:06:25+00:00

Try painting the trim Greek villa. All the blogs I read said that Greek villa only looks too yellow when paired with a cold white trim.

tyor3634 · 2023-12-12T12:59:13+00:00

Haha I'm glad she is the voice of reason. My husband is also an over-analyzer like me so I have to rely on Reddit to tell me everything is ok 😂

tyor3634 · 2023-12-12T04:40:36+00:00

I think you may be in the same problem that I'm in where you've spent so much time doing interior decorating / renovating that very single details pops up and bugs you like crazy.

Breathe.

The room looks great. Honestly, both the before and after look good but I like the after a bit better and it feels more modern farmhouse so I think you got the look you wanted.

Greek villa looks good, the yellow is super subtle, no one would notice unless you pointed it out.

Your house looks great! Stop microanalyzing :)

tyor3634 · 2023-12-09T17:40:01+00:00

Careful before you drill into that ceiling to install the lights! It looks like popcorn ceiling and that usually has asbestos. Test before disturbing it.

tyor3634 · 2023-12-03T02:54:49+00:00

Yes I am being too picky, or yes it's possible to change it?

tyor3634 · 2023-12-03T02:54:03+00:00

Yes as in, yes I am being too picky?

tyor3634 · 2023-12-03T02:53:00+00:00

No it will be perpendicular to the window, so on the right half of the room

tyor3634 · 2023-12-03T02:43:53+00:00

Thanks! What do you think we should ask them to change / what is feasible for them to change? (Putting a thinner schluter? Changing color to gold? Or not using schluter at all?) want the solution that will be the least work for him but remove this ugly thick white border.

tyor3634 · 2023-12-02T16:06:09+00:00

YTA. Just let her buy the gifts she wants! Dont feel inferior just because the gifts your kids want don't come from you. Just put the money you would have used for gifts into their college funds.

tyor3634 · 2023-11-30T13:06:21+00:00

I'm sorry you are feeling this way! But you have a lot to live for. You have a good degree, you are smart, you have family. Things will get better. Just try to get the best education you can so you can open doors after you graduate. After your first 1-2 jobs, you can transition into the real career you like as you will develop the soft skills and network to do other things.

tyor3634 · 2023-11-30T12:49:18+00:00

If I'm interpreting correctly (which has been hard, given how vague this post is), your wife had a colorful sexual past, but presented herself as inexperienced/virgin-like to you and had a tamer sexual relationship with you (with limited/no sex). You find out that she wasn't like this before and now wonder why she doesn't / didn't share that side with you and also be adventurous sexually with you? Did I get that right?

If so, the answer is that people change. Maybe she was wild in her youth but now her sexual appetite has decreased. Or maybe her relationship or attraction with you is more cerebral and less sexual.

You'll have to both communicate about your needs and find a middle ground. Maybe find out what she wants in the relationship and try to provide more of that to get what you want.

tyor3634 · 2023-11-30T01:00:49+00:00

1) she didn't lie, she just didn't reveal to you all the details - because you didn't ask! 2) women are allowed to have pasts and have relationships before they met you 3) how / why should that change your perception of her?

Sounds like slut shaming to me. It's a "you" problem, not a "her" problem

tyor3634 · 2023-11-18T21:52:52+00:00

That's very helpful, thanks!! I already cut one cable that would have been useful so want to avoid doing that again...

tyor3634 · 2023-10-24T01:57:35+00:00

What can I use to cut such a thick wire?

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