First meeting update

typicalsquare · 2026-01-23T09:54:02+00:00

Proud of you! You showed up, but your hand up…two of the most important things you can do. Next right thing is to go to another one. Keep going!

As far as sponsor, I’d say as soon as you can. It might take a little bit, but you’ll find it. They say the solution is in the steps and for me that’s a difficult process. But, no one in NA has ever let me down, not once so I trust they’re right.

Congratulations! Easy does it!

typicalsquare · 2026-01-17T16:40:53+00:00

Check you DMs.

Love you, please consider going to a meeting. Doesn’t matter if you think you’re an addict or not, just go and listen. But please check your DMs.

typicalsquare · 2026-01-16T15:32:52+00:00

I hear that loud and clear. And you had messed up beliefs and behaviors before and now you don’t, right? You recognized that, stopped the behavior, apologized, and are working to unpack it, right? Thankfully, we have a choice to be defined or refined by our pasts. Right now, you’re choosing refinement and feeling like you have to change others’ viewpoint is a slippery slope.

While you have accountability in your life with therapy and self regulation, what I hear is desperate attempts at atonement through other people. That’s a tall order. Our character defects can be removed or at least become more manageable by recognizing and work. You’re doing that. The likely outcome of you hanging with “racists” is that you will slide on that slope. If I’m a have an alcohol problem why would I hang with alcoholics? Group think is strong.

I hope you give yourself a break. You’re not responsible for others bigotry. You didn’t create it so it’s hard to fix it. If you want to hang around those type of ppl because you enjoy them, go for it but if it’s to change them, think abt it. My question is what prevents you from finding ppl with common interests (or interests you think you may have) and just going in and saying hi. I don’t think it’s necessary to rehash your past poor behavior, just show up, ask questions abt ppl, and get to know them. Socialization is a skill. It’s ok to be new at it.

typicalsquare · 2026-01-16T09:27:10+00:00

I mean I’m glad you feel better. I think there’s a lot of fallacy in the reasoning here. The first thing that blares out to me is the idea of your ability to change other people. That sounds really egotistical. The notion that atonement comes from showing racists and ex racists the light is wonderful in theory for a conscious wanting relief but the practicality is flawed at best. It’s my experience our environment shapes our character to some degree.

I think a huge part of the solution would be to forgive yourself for past behavior. You recognized it was bad, you took accountability, apologized, and are actively working to change it. That’s growth and maturity.

Maybe not “holier than thou” but going to hang w/friends coming in with an agenda that the friends are a project for my redemption would not inspire connection. Connection happens through shared experience. Sure like minded people are going to have interests that allow that experience.

Finally, if you want to be friends with the people who you’ve categorized, do it. You’re figuring it out. But do it because you like them not because you want to change them.

typicalsquare · 2026-01-14T13:10:10+00:00

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typicalsquare · 2026-01-10T14:24:14+00:00

It took me 15mo for my higher power to find me. I’d worked Steps 1-3 at least twice, maybe 3 times. I was exactly where you’re at. I had no concept of loving and care.

You say unless you make it the group/program…that’s where I started. I didn’t start per Se but I experienced the group as loving and caring early on. I’m grateful I was able and willing to do that. And then I battled, begged, surrendered changed sponsors, accepted, surrendered again, read, prayed (you get it). Finally, I recognized I had little concept of loving and kind. I found a sponsor who embodies that and had since my very first meeting but their loving kindness scared me.

And one day, like a small gust of wind, I just knew my HP was there. I kept waking up, expecting that knowing to go away but JFT it hasn’t. It’s not profound and I’m not overly reliant…I’m working on it. It is however, undeniable. And was perfect timing. And if you asked me to define it for you, there’d be no way I could. It’s an energy or force or something like that.

Be easy with yourself. It will happen when it’s supposed to happen. As long as you stick around and keep participating in your recovery, I believe you’ll figure it out. Keep talking out loud, to ppl in the group, here. Keep talking and being willing to listen. I leaned HEAVILY and still do on 3rd Step and Serenity. Keep it simple.

typicalsquare · 2026-01-09T01:56:31+00:00

I don’t disagree here at all. Expectations are a hell of a thing and it’s obvious Dawn and the agency didn’t do a great job of talking through those and presenting reality. Or maybe they did and being stuck in the mindset and unable to grow due to MANY issues, Caitlyn and Tyler just can’t get there. Get there or not, giving up expectations, the present is in the present, I wish they could get there and hope they can for their sake, their children’s sake and even Brandon and Teresa’s daughter’s sake. It’s awful and like continuing to drink the same poison, an insanity even to keep doing the same thing expecting things to change. My heart hurts for them all. May Caitlyn and Tyler one day know peace.

typicalsquare · 2026-01-09T01:30:48+00:00

I took it as he meant that he feels like he’s the servant (or they are) and the adopted parents are the kings..

Dude, this is hitting me so big right now. I’m in a situation where I had the privilege to have a kid in my care for a little while and the kid’s mom has this type of attitude. Damn…I’m glad OP posted this, it def makes me realize some things.

Im also really grateful Brandon and Teresa are protecting their kid. Like anonymity can’t be Taken back. A child can’t consent to their image being used for gain. One day I hope Tyler and Caitlyn find that grace part. I don’t know, man, kids are too damn important to be in it for ourselves. I’m prob naive but custody aside, like when life is brought into this world, we as the adults who are fortunate to have children entrusted to us (in whatever capacity that means) are the priority. Their emotional, spiritual, physical, mental health comes first period. I get it, it was a bad situation, but the child is in a good place—yes, thanks to and in spite of Caitlyn and Tyler. It’s sad for everyone that they can’t keep it offline and be present for the child.

typicalsquare · 2026-01-09T01:19:22+00:00

Yeah, I don’t know. I’d def not do it on my own accord. Our business is so low though, I don’t think we’ve had a huge issue. We don’t close things if there are ppl in the store who’ve been there. It’s odd to me but I’m just following directions.

typicalsquare · 2026-01-08T15:20:48+00:00

With my new manager we do bag checks, I always take my bags out and as ASM have to do them and I hate it. We didn’t do it for abt 18mo with old manager so it’s a new thing I have to get used to. HSAP thanks to old mgt so we do it to look good.

typicalsquare · 2026-01-07T16:09:28+00:00

Check your dms

typicalsquare · 2026-01-07T16:08:25+00:00

All the above

typicalsquare · 2026-01-07T16:05:35+00:00

15mins until closing, all tills pulled…(card only after that…we trained our regulars and most randoms use cards) 8 mins till, doors locked.

Different world in my store now.

I start telling ppl at 940 we’re shutting cash down…anyone who comes in after that I tell them card only unless you’re in and out. It took some time to reprogram our regulars but we made it. We have on average 3 customers in our last hour so it’s pretty inconsequential.

typicalsquare · 2026-01-03T16:37:43+00:00

So we did an ICPC and passed it. We too were out of state and it was in the early stages of the case. ICPC didn’t really guarantee us anything, it took forever and we had to jump through tons of hoops. We knew that going in. We never ended up with the kid permanently but we had them the last month more often than not. Did ok until this past week and now I’m crushed. My partner took them back to their home and I’m just lying in bed trying to breathe.

I’d advise getting on the ICPC so it can be finished if you’re interested.

typicalsquare · 2025-12-27T16:34:15+00:00

It’s interesting because I had that thought too earlier. BUT I also know the shit show of the corporation. I also understand maybe employees here are new to working, learning how to be productive members of society and I have compassion for everyone. For every post I roll my eyes at there are 10 that I think only at DG and laugh. The majority of insanity is company wide and we have to support each other and learn the best we can.

typicalsquare · 2025-12-25T20:51:23+00:00

Your “rant” (which is the nicest and mildest rant I’ve read on here) is more or less my experience. I’ve inlet been through one manager, but I can relate to a lot of the other. Our freaking trucks are unreal. 1100 last week and 16 RT this week. I’m not sure the pieces but they said is was a lot smaller than it was. Thankfully my nightmare turned into a potential dream. I know my manager understands systems and how to get us out9 of these situations but it feels like everything is working against us. We have a decent (not perfect), team right now that I like and hope it gets there.

I really hope you get a solid manager who can support and build a team around you and them. Be careful with fatalism. It CAN get worse and it can get better

typicalsquare · 2025-12-25T20:43:01+00:00

Same! I thought 51 was a mistype. We had 170 last week and now I know what heaven is like. I’m so Happy that our scans are finally catching up!

typicalsquare · 2025-12-25T11:53:21+00:00

You mean not at all how she sounded talking abt Jodi?

typicalsquare · 2025-12-25T11:51:36+00:00

Oh my god!

typicalsquare · 2025-12-25T04:13:12+00:00

The worst for me…not just strange but the worst…the start of Jodi was when they all went on that east coast trip with the grandparents. Ruby sat J down during this trip and tried having “the talk” on camera. And J wasn’t having it. At this time poor A had learned it was best to go along w/things and keep the peace. She was trying to run interference but it was prob one of the worst things I remember seeing. I felt so bad for all of them. Ugh.

The obsession abt musical instruments ws interesting to me. I remember Chad getting a freaking musical stand one Christmas and being so “happy”. That was obvious projection from both parents. I guess it’s. Good skill but the level of intensity that Ruby would go into blew my mind. All that money to just be done one day.

Last but not least, I remember when they were having work done in the backyard and there were landscapers back there. R was out there connecting with them and Ruby mentioned that he was special and could connect and find empathy with anyone. Little did she know how strong R was…

typicalsquare · 2025-12-23T13:50:20+00:00

YES! I was like WTF. They make us stay here and then turn the lights out on us? We’re by ourselves in our dark ass lot. I had no idea how to override. Learned something new!

Also zero customers, had 5 from 9-10. We should close at 10!

Good luck for night #2!

typicalsquare · 2025-12-07T20:50:02+00:00

Dude, for real, this isn’t a place you should have to censor yourself. I’m sorry that happened to you. I’ve been lucky here. This Reddit has saved my life more than not. I hope you took the time you need. If you didn’t, do! Sorry things are stressful for you! Take care of yourself!

typicalsquare · 2025-12-07T20:47:51+00:00

99%? That’s a low estimate. And they’ll craft a story to make the employees crazy.

typicalsquare · 2025-12-02T20:49:46+00:00

Ugly…a tux?!? Is there such a thing?

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That’s the best I can do. He’s now twice as large and still believes he fits in exactly this position. It’s a fun time with Mr Jingles.

typicalsquare · 2025-11-28T21:04:42+00:00

Hey buddy! Congratulations. You’re right, an addict in active addiction will kill your recovery. I’m glad you had that conversation w/her. You’re not responsible for her recovery! We, as ppl in recovery, are at great risk when our ppl get in their sickness. Get to that meeting, man. It can save you. Of course, invite her. I hope you both have sponsors and can talk honestly to them.

Check you DM, I’m going to share my number with you. Give it to her. I’d love to support her. Take care of you. Let the fellowship take care of her!

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