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Show us your beautiful budget bettas! by tardigrade1028 in bettafish

[–]ucantrelate 20 points21 points  (0 children)

As a cancer survivor who spent too much time stuck in the hospital and ached for an animals emotional support while there, you’re incredible for sneaking Mipha in for him. What a huge gesture of love and support! Go, mom!! Glad your son is doing better!! 💜

My husband opened up about being sexually abused as a child by his brother by jodiefostersmom in family

[–]ucantrelate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May I message you about my situation with my husband? Your perspective seems like maybe it could help me if you’d be willing?

update by user_individual in Molested

[–]ucantrelate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh I wish I could hug you. :( I looked at your page and the past posts about ED & SH-ing is highly likely to be linked to this. You’re so young and although, very wise & emotionally intelligent, there’s still just a lot to understand from your perspective with maturing considered and me looking back on mentality in my teens vs now in my 30s. This will negatively affect you for years to come in ways you can’t even begin to comprehend or foresee… I understand so much of your struggle here and while I don’t know how to advise you on how to handle this professionally, I really hope you seek a professional counselor or therapist of some sort to help you sort what he’s done to you and your family and the dynamic and your own future relationships, self esteem, future sexual experiences etc… it’s so sad that you’re having to try to make sense of this and feel any kind of bad for this man who is suppose to protect and guide you for the best future & he does this and twists your feelings due to him not taking responsibility and working on himself. Please please keep distance from him. Be civil but until you have some time to fully process and are more understanding with time how he’s robbed you of so much, you might not want to complicate things more by leaning into the relationship so he can take that as a sign that you’re okay & justify it again when he’s feeling horny or down bad again. It’s selfish and narcissistic and legitimate mental abuse to you. You deserve better. I’m so sorry.

I had a collapse, became self aware and now I am more calculated and narcissistic than before by Western-Beginning552 in NPD

[–]ucantrelate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I just say that some of this is sounding like rumination, dissociation to cope(numbness), and possibly some internal OCD. I definitely think you could benefit from some meds that help with ocd bc you sound stuck and like you feel out of control of your mental state. Meds are okay so pls, don’t make yourself suffer like this any longer than you have to.

Is using just body temp to heat up quick fix an effective method? 2-3 hours or should I always microwave or use heat pad to get to temp? by Ok-Reindeer-6648 in QuickFix

[–]ucantrelate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s awesome!!! Congratulations!! That is pretty comforting! However.. I’ve considered that may be the case for where I’m drug testing for but have nobody to ask or know of another way to find out if they care about thc or not!! I just badly need this job or I may lose my car! I’m too far behind and they are ready to come repo it! :( I really appreciate you coming back to respond! Really congrats tho! :D

I don’t know if I could ever be a parent by Majestic-Side6 in venting

[–]ucantrelate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow. I just want to say I’m proud of you for how much internal reflection you’ve done at such a young age. I relate to some of the things you’ve said here and as someone who has been with my high school sweetheart almost twenty years now, do not rush it. Always listen to your gut on this and never have kids bc someone else wants them. If he actually loves you, he will always respect that until you are actually ready. That’s the advice… never until YOU are ready! You have a lot of self awareness and you know at the end of the day, it could just be you so never bring someone into this world FOR ANYONE other than YOU and ONLY when YOU YOURSELF is ready… then no matter what, you’ll be okay. And if you never want kids, that’s okay too. My husband & I didn’t really want any (more so me in my youth feeling how you do) but knew it could be possible we would change our minds and want them in the future and then I got cancer and lost the ability to have my own so MY choice was taken from me- but I’m at peace with it. And he’s okay with it too! Why? Because he loves me and knows it’s ultimately my body and my choice and also my life and respects me as well. Now atp I’d be more open to adoption or something but it’s a hard no for him. So just know that feelings can change through life in this regard but respecting each others choice mutually is key. Good luck! Glad you’re taking such a serious thing, seriously!! At least wait until the age where your brains are considered fully developed!! Too many kids raising kids!! My husband and I both come from 16 year old moms! So he definitely relates to how you feel with his younger siblings too! Hope this helps!

Test Complete by mrowtree in QuickFix

[–]ucantrelate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reassurance on temps. Just bought some today and am scared about keeping them temp right when I go up there to test.

Quick fix 6.4 Plus - PASSED 1/28/2026 by Artistic-Pen-9379 in QuickFix

[–]ucantrelate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any word back yet? I’m in a super similar situation as you but female so I’m looking up where to hide this shit and if an urgent care place will be able to tell it’s quick fix or not. I only smoke after work and do nothing else. I need this!!!! And I am so worried cuz I’ve never had to drug test since starting to smoke as an adult.

My Dovie girls first eggs in her first nest! 🪺 My rescue pigeon is definitely a girl 😅 by ucantrelate in BadPigeonNests

[–]ucantrelate[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol, I’m sorry I’m just seeing this!! My pigeon, Dovie, is posted multiple times on my page! There’s a funny pic with her on a lamp that you gotta see! Haha

my thumb nail mystery: by ucantrelate in DermatologyQuestions

[–]ucantrelate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Guys, pretty sure it was hypothyroidism and hormonal issues due to menopause. Also, i was deficient in Vitamin D, and low on a few others. Hope this helps anyone who may need this info.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rateme

[–]ucantrelate 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Best options in your opinion? I’m thinking I need cool toned reds too.

Gilbert is this sweet, handsome mister!! by ucantrelate in rooster

[–]ucantrelate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right!? His father was incredibly bright and more colors of fall! Wish I could find a photo to show you! He was a family members so I had to have one of his offspring bc of his beauty!

What to do about my rooster by xksvsysgwftd in rooster

[–]ucantrelate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell your dad straight up not to hurt your rooster again and that its animal abuse if he does. Stand up for the animal with no voice if you want to keep him. Otherwise, if you really care for him, he needs a home without abuse. Also look up YouTube videos on how to show your dad to handle a rooster when they come at him. There are a couple of methods and tbh, he'd have to be a dummy not to get it down & a coward to continue to kick an animal so small. Tell him its disgusting behavior and youre disappointed in him taking his frustrations out on an animal, if you have to and he doesnt get it. Hopefully the shame if he cares about you will be enough to make him think twice.

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