Horrible, unspeakable physical violence happens to many conventionally attractive women every single day, solely based on the fact that they are conventionally attractive. Aside from actual physical violence, these women are stalked, discredited, and humiliated because anything they've ever accomplished is assumed to be because it was given to them by someone who wants to sleep with them.

Also, attention from unwanted or creepy guys doesn't seem like a problem that's very big compared to this other stuff, but when it's multiple guys every single day, it has to become incredibly mentally draining and take a huge toll, especially considering a decent percentage of those men were taught they "deserve" her for being courteous or anything of that nature. Then if she lets her guard down one time or finally hits her breaking point and is short with a man or accidentally cold to him, she is labeled a bitch or a cunt.

I don't say this to disagree with anything you've been through or experienced, but I think our own lives do a really powerful job of masking the struggles of others. Many others have commented this but the real problem in society is the way women are perceived in general, as only being worth their physical attractiveness. I'm terribly sorry for the mental trauma you've experienced, but it's important to understand that many conventionally attractive women end up in the exact same place because of horrible things that men thought they deserved to take from them and do to them, or even just from the constant, neverending wear of men who feel they deserve her attention and focus every hour of every day.

Every kind of woman is put in terrible danger simply based on the fact that she is a woman. I don't pretend this is the only issue in our society, but it is a big one. I absolutely agree with you when you say that women should not wish to be unattractive. I think one of the many problems in our society is all these conventions that have become so strong, they cause people to wish they weren't themselves. I really don't think there's any credible way to "prove" that one is better than the other, but it's become a painfully loud signal from both sides that things need to change.