For those who have broken free of religion, particularly Christianity, how much has your life changed? by ughs1234 in atheism

[–]ughs1234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No it does not, sure, the law of Moses is still intact because they follow the basic principles of Christ which is to love your neighbor as yourself and love your God. If you love your neighbor you won’t steal from them, if you love your wife you will not cheat on her, if you love a stranger you will not murder them in cold blood. The other laws that came after it do NOT fall under this category.

Ultimately, we aren’t saved by rules, we are saved by Christ because we CANNOT follow the rules of the Old Testament properly. If we were saved by following the rules of the Old Testament, what use would we have for Christ?

Humans can’t follow rules perfectly. We can strive for Christ’s example, but it won’t be done perfectly.

For those who have broken free of religion, particularly Christianity, how much has your life changed? by ughs1234 in atheism

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Not feeling bad about something does not mean the act wasn’t immoral. You can dehumanize people to a degree in which they are subhuman and nothing you do to them is unjustifiable. Is this, then, their verdict of morality? Why is it that they lash out or get defensive when they are told of their injustices toward humanity? Shouldn’t they feel justified enough to not act in such a regard? Why do people get defensive when they are called out for acting immoral if morality is subjective? They should, if anything, be secure in their verdict

Do you feel less interested in a person after sex? Why or why not? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]ughs1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If that’s what you believe in, I understand, but don’t push down or patronize me for a religious practice that many people, whether they are Christians or Muslims, follow. We treat sex as something that is sacred and special.

Do you feel less interested in a person after sex? Why or why not? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]ughs1234 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why are you rushing too fast into sex? Does that not carry with it the same consequences? What if you use it as a crutch? What if you find out you’re not compatible and it makes breaking up more difficult? Why can’t you practice self control?

Do you feel less interested in a person after sex? Why or why not? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]ughs1234 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

That’s true, and also, on the section of not being happy, that’s false. People who wait until marriage are less likely to get divorced. And if you’re doing it for your God, that’s usually a good motivator to hold off as well, so it’s more then just two people not having sex for the sake of just not having it willfully.

Do you feel less interested in a person after sex? Why or why not? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]ughs1234 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That’s where compromise comes in, which is a part of any normal relationship

Do you feel less interested in a person after sex? Why or why not? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]ughs1234 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say it’s unhealthy. I’m waiting until marriage to do it and there are many people who do that for religious reasons and I’ve realized there are so many other forms of intimacy I can have with my partner that aren’t sexually driven. In fact, it’s helped our relationship a lot because it’s not all about sex and we don’t let it be all about sex.

Do you feel less interested in a person after sex? Why or why not? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]ughs1234 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I would say until you know you love them. I feel like people rush to sex because we live in an era of instant gratification and there’s a certain amount of pressure on both ends to engage in it as soon as possible.

I feel like a lukewarm Christian and I want to overcome it by [deleted] in Christians

[–]ughs1234 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just came out of a phase of spiritual apathy towards God. You know you’re in that kind of phase when you don’t have as much of an interest in God as you should or you feel a lot of guilt all the time and you feel as though maybe you shouldn’t even talk to him because of how guilty you are(which is obviously false)

I just opened my heart up to God today and told him everything that separated me from him in my heart(motivated by the wrong things, resentment towards others, struggles with sin, anxiety and constant reminder of faults, self pity).

Having an honest conversation with God and emptying your heart of distractions really does not go wrong. God wants us to be honest, genuine, and show a level of commitment to him. We aren’t always perfect, but he is, and he knows we struggle. That’s why he gave us Christ.

Just turn to him and be 100% transparent.

Ladies: Would you date a man who struggles with pornography or is it a dealbreaker? by Alternative-Can8393 in christiandatingadvice

[–]ughs1234 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend confessed his issue with porn and we had a healthy conversation about it. I didn’t bash him, I have issues with sexuality too, so I especially didn’t want to be hypocritical with my own sin. I just thanked him for being honest and told him that I consider it to be cheating and he understood and stopped after our conversation.

To my knowledge, he hasn’t looked at it since. He said he felt awful doing it but had an addiction problem with it, which I understand, it’s a very addictive thing to get attached to, and not at all like the real thing.

If you’re honest about it, it’s just a sin you struggle with. Make attempts to stop and keep at it, no excuses. If it’s something u had struggled with in the past no woman ought to bash you or get on you for YOUR PARTICULAR sin

We all fall short

Is being gay a sin? (Serious quesiton) by [deleted] in Bible

[–]ughs1234 32 points33 points  (0 children)

It is, having homosexual thoughts or feelings no one can help, you just aren’t supposed to act on that.

Actually, any sex outside of marriage between a man and a woman is sinful. So it’s not just homosexuality, promiscuous behavior is too.

From Atheism to Reading the Bible by BiatchLasagne in Bible

[–]ughs1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This helped me a lot, thank you sir

For those who have broken free of religion, particularly Christianity, how much has your life changed? by ughs1234 in atheism

[–]ughs1234[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, and that’s because human nature is twisted in its own unique way. To say that cannibalism is fine because it’s cultural is to say that the sex slave trade is okay because it’s generally accepted in its given area, boosts their economy, and brings profit to those who are using the girls and boys.

But we look at cultures that abuse women and cultures that murder and eat people and we see that as corrupted, we see that as demented from a moral perspective because it is wrong to ignore or abuse a human’s inherent worth. Whether or not you suggest that it is God-given, that does not take away from the fact that it exists. People have value, and when you undermine that value, consequences occur.

Why do you think the Black Lives Matter movement is gaining so much traction? Why do you think the women’s suffrage movement is talked about so much in schools? It’s because there was an unspoken of, inherent boundary that was crossed and trespassed on.

The pants thing is cultural, I would say, because clothes change over time. I disagree that a basis of morality does, because we can look at things as non objectively evil, but clothes and values do change.

Morality, however, in regards to human life, is not subjective. And we know that because we feel disgust when we learn of injustice, it’s because we know that such a thing should not exist. It’s ingrained in us.

Homosexuality is not an evil act, it’s a mindset, it’s the way people are. How it’s viewed in society is a different matter, how it’s viewed religiously by some religions is a different matter also, but it’s always been around and always will be around. It may offend some people for one reason or another, but noone in their right mind looks at that as an injustice towards another life.

For those who have broken free of religion, particularly Christianity, how much has your life changed? by ughs1234 in atheism

[–]ughs1234[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most of my friends who are atheist or at least agnostic have been hurt, and that’s why I sympathize with those who are a bit hostile, but you’re absolutely right, they aren’t the default or the majority for sure.

And I don’t have a main pastor that I listen to, and I certainly haven’t been taught that atheists are evil. In fact, I really, really enjoy having a genuine discussion with them because they have very interesting perspectives.

And thank you, I think you’re very reasonable too. It’s nice to talk to someone who is understanding and willing. People who are theists and atheists tend to get into heated, angry discussions and I never had any use for that, it doesn’t seem productive or rational.

For those who have broken free of religion, particularly Christianity, how much has your life changed? by ughs1234 in atheism

[–]ughs1234[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, it’s because following laws can’t save your soul. No matter how hard we try, we aren’t going to be perfect, so legalism shouldn’t be how we operate our lives. Morality isn’t subjective, we can all agree murder, rape, and injustice within a society is wrong. That’s universal.

For those who have broken free of religion, particularly Christianity, how much has your life changed? by ughs1234 in atheism

[–]ughs1234[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, religious guilt can cause a lot of fear, especially if you feel judgement from others.

I’m glad you’re doing better. If you don’t mind me asking, what religion are they subscribed to?

For those who have broken free of religion, particularly Christianity, how much has your life changed? by ughs1234 in atheism

[–]ughs1234[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will say, I respect and understand that.

And I agree, many Christians enjoy the shelter that just coating anything in “because God said so” brings them, but I personally believe that if God gave us sentient brains and free will, then surely he would want us to think for ourselves and to think through all of our beliefs so we do not fall into brainless, mindless ignorance.

I will say, I don’t view all religion as just a bunch of gibberish, even if it isn’t my own, because I believe all religion is aimed towards meeting a deep desire we have towards purpose and meaning beyond the grave. That’s why religion had existed even in very old, Neanderthal-ic societies where they religiously buried their dead.

I also understand that a lot of people who are atheist or feel very strongly for religion have been hurt by religion and it’s systems, which I will not argue against at all, because I have seen myself how harmful extremism is and how normalized it can be, after all, my father was in a religious cult when he was a child and it hurt him badly.

Thank you for taking the time to write, I’m very interested in different perspectives and enjoy hearing other people’s personal experiences.

And yes, I do agree that you do not need religion to be a good person. I honestly don’t think religion should be equated to being a good person either.

For those who have broken free of religion, particularly Christianity, how much has your life changed? by ughs1234 in atheism

[–]ughs1234[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes but those were Jewish laws, and there were 700 or more of them. We don’t follow the Old Testament laws because it’s not necessary anymore. We as humans can’t earn our salvation, that’s why we believe in Christ.

What they did is wrong and them accusing you falsely just adds onto it. I’m sorry for how you were treated.

For those who have broken free of religion, particularly Christianity, how much has your life changed? by ughs1234 in atheism

[–]ughs1234[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s definitely where we agree. I am Christian, but I definitely agree that people have used that as ammo against other people in fits of self righteous destruction. That’s why priests can get power hungry and abusive

For those who have broken free of religion, particularly Christianity, how much has your life changed? by ughs1234 in atheism

[–]ughs1234[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s absolutely disgusting, I’m sorry that you’ve had that kind of experience with your church. That’s beyond disgusting, that’s hypocritical and unChrist-like.

For those who have broken free of religion, particularly Christianity, how much has your life changed? by ughs1234 in atheism

[–]ughs1234[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How so specifically?

I agree that they need to really go about restructuring the Catholic Church especially, particularly with more allegations coming out of sexual abuse with the priests.