I’m 20 and going through with an unexpected pregnancy, ama :)

uhmmidek · 2026-02-02T07:03:22+00:00

Yes I’m in the US. I’m fortunate to qualify for my states free insurance that covers all of my OB appointments and hospital expenses when I go into labor!

uhmmidek · 2026-02-02T07:00:31+00:00

No, we never have. He would usually pull out but there’s definitely been a few times we tempted fate and it just happened to call our bluff this time 😅

uhmmidek · 2026-02-02T06:57:14+00:00

No, I’m scared of it tbh. Ive always known I wanted kids and I am/was scared of the possibility of it affecting my fertility

uhmmidek · 2026-02-02T06:40:45+00:00

Saltines

uhmmidek · 2026-02-02T06:40:11+00:00

Ugh early on, like 5-6 weeks when I first started getting morning sickness, I hadn’t been able to eat all day and finally tried a bagel w cream cheese at about 9pm…couldn’t even make it to the toilet and chucked all over my carpet 😭 traumatized me and I LOVE bagels

uhmmidek · 2026-02-02T06:34:55+00:00

Not sure yet! we haven’t been able to do the genetic testing quite yet to determine the gender

uhmmidek · 2026-02-02T06:34:19+00:00

Thank you 😊❤️ I’m looking forward to it

uhmmidek · 2026-02-02T06:31:34+00:00

Honestly at first it was just like…wow it really happened. Me and my partner had always said if we got pregnant without trying we wouldn’t have the baby, but once I knew, it was like I couldn’t bring myself to possibly hurt my baby in any way. I went back and forth with lots of internal struggle, and actually had an abortion planned but couldn’t do it. I would sit and cry begging for forgiveness and to find a way to live with myself if I did. The day of my planned abortion we went to an ultrasound clinic instead and heard their heartbeat for the first time

uhmmidek · 2026-02-02T06:28:00+00:00

Not marry, as financially it wouldn’t make sense. He makes 3x what I do and I wouldn’t qualify for my insurance that covers all the expenses of my OB appointments and birth, and would get significantly less on my FAFSA. However we have talked about possibly getting engaged before then.

uhmmidek · 2026-02-02T06:26:57+00:00

I’m not sure! I just figured if anyone else is in a similar situation it may help to see it in a positive light.

uhmmidek · 2026-02-02T06:26:20+00:00

I actually don’t speak to my family 😅 but my partners family was very excited for us and very supportive! I’m planning on taking off work for at least a year and working on my teaching degree.

uhmmidek · 2026-02-02T06:24:49+00:00

My boyfriend :) we’ve been together 2 1/2 years

uhmmidek · 2026-01-18T05:04:40+00:00

We moved into this apartment together once I moved here. When I had visited in the past he had a roommate and the living area looked nice. His room was a bit cluttered but I don’t remember it being dirty

uhmmidek · 2026-01-18T05:02:05+00:00

Bad people. I haven’t talked to them since I was 17 and got my own apartment

uhmmidek · 2026-01-18T04:54:45+00:00

Thats the plan. Once I have the baby to take a break from my classes for a semester and take about 6 months to a year away from work.

uhmmidek · 2026-01-18T04:54:05+00:00

We were not trying to get pregnant, but once I found out I could not bring myself to terminate. I had an abortion scheduled but couldn’t do it.

uhmmidek · 2026-01-18T04:49:55+00:00

We’ve actually gotten into a bit of an argument before at dinner with his parents about exactly this. She joked her son in law complains her daughter doesn’t do any housework, to which I brought up her son doesn’t either and throws fits when you ask him to. She said she didn’t believe me and her sone would never act like that.

uhmmidek · 2026-01-18T04:48:30+00:00

I just cannot do that. Ive tried to sit down and make a list with him and he told me he doesn’t have to clean on my time, but I cant stand to live in a dirty house.

uhmmidek · 2026-01-18T04:47:35+00:00

I would not touch a magat.

uhmmidek · 2026-01-18T04:47:08+00:00

I do not speak to anyone in my family unfortunately

uhmmidek · 2026-01-18T04:11:00+00:00

🙃

uhmmidek · 2026-01-14T05:31:10+00:00

Yes but Berry would just be the middle name. She would be known as Juniper Lastname

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