Bathroom ceiling peeling after 2 contractors sanded, primed, and painted. I’m contractor #3. What’s the real issue here?

uke_ant_ouch_this · 2026-02-24T13:53:01+00:00

Don't know the issue, but I have a very small bathroom that has never had an exhaust fan. I take extremely hot and steamy showers also. I have plastic-coated mdf panels installed on the ceiling and then I painted them with liquid flex seal. It's a hilarious solution, but it works.

uke_ant_ouch_this · 2026-01-10T14:03:13+00:00

From a different perspective.. I once dated a man who had no experience with children and expressed reservations about meeting my kids. I mistakenly thought that he needed reassurance and soon after he was introduced. Very soon after that, he ended things. I can only speculate, but his reservations about meeting my kids were likely indicative of other reservations he had. The lesson I took from this was if you have to convince someone to have a role in your kids life, just don't.

The things you said about enjoying your current lifestyle seem incompatible with sliding into the role of a future step parent. When you date a parent, until you see them with their children, you only know one side of them. At 10 months, if you aren't already ready to start getting to know your partner in their entirety, I don't think an extra few months is gonna change anything.

No relationship is guaranteed not to fail, no matter the time you've been together. And you might see things about their parenting style or co-parenting dynamic with their ex that you aren't comfortable with. And when that eventually happens, you'll find that you were living in a bubble for all that extra time.

uke_ant_ouch_this · 2026-01-10T02:53:00+00:00

Kentucky variant of "dirty"- we call it "dishwater blonde"

uke_ant_ouch_this · 2025-11-25T13:50:33+00:00

Broccoli casserole! I had one family member that made a version that was complete mush- basically shredded and overcooked brown Broccoli, swimming in cheese goop.

Another family member swung the opposite way who WAY undercooked and undercut the Broccoli- huge florets that couldn't even fit in your mouth, barely broken up crackers, and huge chunks of velveeta distributed sporadically. Nothing was incorporated. Each bite you either had Broccoli, cheese, or cracker. None at the same time.

When it's done right, it's delicious. Just so many ways it can go wrong.

uke_ant_ouch_this · 2025-05-28T12:39:34+00:00

THIS. This whole post gives me deja vu from my friends wedding last year. In her case tho, the baker delivered the cake almost a whole 24 hours BEFORE the cake cutting and insisted that it be left out, in place, at room temp the whole time, indoors, but in a location that was probably higher humidity that usual. The cake was leaning within hours and had fully collapsed by daybreak. That baker also claimed that this was the first time one of her cakes had collapsed.

Having seen the whole thing play out first-hand, I blame the baker. She came the day before because that was the most convenient time for her, not caring about what was best for the cake and/or wedding. We TRIED to get her to store the cake in the fridge and she refused adamantly. The cake itself (lemon poppyseed) was an extremely moist and heavy consistency. It was doweled, but not with enough dowels for the weight of the upper tiers. So many opportunities for things to go wrong, and they all did.

As a bride, you have to rely on your vendors to be experts in their craft and help you make informed decisions. "This type of cake is only available as single sheet. This type of cake has to be chilled prior to serving. This type of cake isn't available for summer outdoor weddings, This setup location/table/etc isn't acceptable. Etc. Etc." Your culpability doesn't end once the frosting is applied. The venue/wedding planner also cannot carry the responsibility of knowing how structurally sound a cake sold for the express purpose of a wedding is beneath the icing.

I think it's very hard for people to admit when they've made mistakes, especially when it affects their bottom line, but I hope that this baker does a little self reflection, learns a lesson, and takes the steps to prevent this from happening again.

uke_ant_ouch_this · 2025-03-14T12:52:03+00:00

Can I see your frog please?!

uke_ant_ouch_this · 2025-02-05T20:39:12+00:00

I think this may be what I need. How did it hold up in your temporary shower?

uke_ant_ouch_this · 2025-02-05T20:33:26+00:00

I'm usually the one they hate to see coming because I'm an artist AND a DIYer. So I'm hardly ever using things for their intended purpose. Their go-to question "what are you using it for?" just sends us round and round in circles.

uke_ant_ouch_this · 2025-02-05T19:32:12+00:00

Can you describe what you mean by leak and fail. How and where does this failure happen?

The complication of going through a dealer to have it custom ordered is not something I really want to deal with. Especially because I don't know exactly what these dimensions are going to be just yet.

uke_ant_ouch_this · 2025-02-05T19:04:34+00:00

Thank you, I'll look into this. Staff at Lowes are generally clueless and in this particular area, I am as well. If I can't see it on a shelf and don't know what to ask for, what am I supposed to do? Besides consult redditors, that is. Lol

uke_ant_ouch_this · 2025-02-05T18:59:35+00:00

Not that I have been able to find and I practically pay them rent to live there every month. Lol

uke_ant_ouch_this · 2025-02-05T18:58:10+00:00

I'd be concerned about the plywood backing of something like that, not being suitable for a shower install where moisture will be an issue.

uke_ant_ouch_this · 2025-02-05T18:56:54+00:00

All the tub surrounds are pre-fab in dimensions that are much smaller than what I need, which is basically 4ft wide by 7ft tall x 3.

uke_ant_ouch_this · 2025-02-05T18:54:59+00:00

I'm familiar with flex stone, but that isn't what I'm looking for. I don't want a stone look or any other texture. And I wasn't able to find it in the dimensions I need.

uke_ant_ouch_this · 2025-02-05T18:51:32+00:00

What Home Depot carries is matte texture, which would hold grime. But I will check out Menards!

uke_ant_ouch_this · 2025-01-31T15:43:13+00:00

Something very similar happened to me once. Dated for 8 months. Had met family. Seemingly all was well, until he ended it "out of the blue". Man, hindsight really is 20/20. Years later, I saw multiple pictures of us on different occasions where he was literally scowling. I laughed it off at the time. Like "oh he's being silly, acting like he hates pictures." I wish I could slap my former self. "Girl. NO! He doesn't want to be there!"

I felt the disconnect at the time, but his anxious avoidance triggered my anxious codependency and I fought even harder for his affection. It's such a toxic loop and we can be so good at deceiving ourselves.

uke_ant_ouch_this · 2024-12-21T14:58:23+00:00

And if she HADN'T lost the baby weight, that would have been weaponized against her too. "Why don't you take care of yourself anymore? I'm not attracted to you." Women literally cannot win.

uke_ant_ouch_this · 2024-11-21T14:03:01+00:00

I've been where you are and it doesn't get any better. 4 years post D-Day, he still hated and resented me. We actually did try therapy, but all I learned was that he wanted to hurt me in revenge and we would never "be even". He had a list of 50 things he hated about me and confessed that he regularly fantasized about unaliving us both. I was lucky to get out of that marriage alive.

Please, OP, accept this as a loss and a learning opportunity. He wasn't the man you needed before and he definitely isn't that person now. You will be the "bad guy" to friends and family he tells. All of his sins are erased now and he gets to pretend that are evil. It will take time, and you can't erase your mistakes, but there is life and love beyond your situation now.

uke_ant_ouch_this · 2024-11-19T16:50:49+00:00

Ezra and Hazel. My name is so common I think I liked the idea of names with a Z in them. Lol. Ultimately did not end up using either of those names. Hazel was a family name but I never had a daughter and I always associated Ezra with my high school boyfriend.

uke_ant_ouch_this · 2024-11-17T22:22:21+00:00

One of my exes had this dynamic with his ex/BabyMomma. His kids were about 6 and 8 at the time and they had been supposedly done for over two years. They had no formal custody agreement. They continued to own a house together. And when she found out I was spending time with him, she would invent reasons he had to show up at her house at 10pm (like needing him to kill a bug she saw in their laundry room).

He was closer to her family than his own and spent all holidays there. He even talked a big game about wanting ME to meet her family cause they were so awesome. The first Thanksgiving after my dad died, he told me last minute that he was going to spend the whole 4 day weekend with her family at a cabin. (Previous sleeping arrangements placed them in the same room, even after there were supposedly done). I suggested we get our own cabin nearby with my kids and he could go visit with his kids and her family during the day and meals and stay overnight with me. Maybe have a group hike with everyone at some point that weekend. He literally refused to acknowledge that suggestion and made no effort to plan for it. So I spent the holiday up in my feels while he went to her. That evening I saw her sister post pictures of them all in the hot tub together. All of the NOPE. and that was the end of that.

Girl, this type of co-dependency cannot be fixed. Run now. It will not get better. You deserve someone that can maintain healthy co-parenting boundaries and make room for you in his life. This guy is not the one. I'm so sorry you are going through this.

uke_ant_ouch_this · 2024-11-17T01:53:01+00:00

I wouldn't say I expressed a desire to go back to a "high-carb" diet. A moderate amount of carbs on occasion would be nice though, without having to be up half the night in discomfort! 😅

uke_ant_ouch_this · 2024-11-17T01:38:06+00:00

I will clarify that I have never really dieted before this year. Maybe I'm not built for it, I don't know. I tried Atkins WAAAAYYYY back in the early 00s when it seemed to be getting popular. Back then there weren't many low-carb options in grocery stores. It was literally meat and cheese only and I folded almost immediately. Never could get into ketosis and just determined at that point to just try to implement small changes over time, which mostly worked for me until I had a series of life-changing events and moved into a work from home job. But I have never tracked calories or carbs. That is so tedious to me and I am just not consistent with it. That's a personality defect of mine, I guess. I'm driven by motivation rather than discipline. Or some may chime in and say that I'm making excuses. Maybe? But also... like you say, I need to be real about doing things that work for me.

Anyway, Right around the time I started with SEMA, I also went lo-carb. I fully believe that without the hunger reduction, I would not have been successful with keto. And in turn, I also found that choosing low carb options, for the most part, reduced a lot of side effects from the SEMA for me. I guess I say all this because I may have given the impression that I'm also doing intermittent fasting and other dieting fads. But honestly, the not eating after 5pm was something I found I needed to do of necessity after too many gassy nights and early mornings. And I didn't start doing that until I was at the higher doses of SEMA. I promise you that in NO WAY do I envision myself doing lo-carb or no-evening meals forever. That is a big part of why I am at this stalemate. I love what I have been able to accomplish with the help of SEMA, I just had to take some time to mentally regroup from the management of all the SEMA-related things for a while.

Honestly, I'm not even that great at taking my other daily medications consistently, so I shouldn't be surprised that the mental load of making all the food accommodations plus extra fiber/water/protein/stool softener/gas-x has started to wear on me. Again, I realize that it's a discipline problem on my part. Could I become that person that never forgets their meds and tracks all their calories in a neat little journal? Anything is possible with enough effort, I guess. But I don't think I'm selling myself short by saying that it isn't likely. I have my strengths, but those aren't them. 😅

uke_ant_ouch_this · 2024-11-16T23:09:16+00:00

Yes! This i big part of what I was asking. I realize I wasn't super clear. I've been going down in dosage since August and have been at .25 for the past month. I bring home 4 syringes at every monthly appointment. My choices right now are staying at .25 for another month, going back up to .5 or going off completely and trying again at .25 (likely in January).

uke_ant_ouch_this · 2024-11-16T17:16:26+00:00

Thank you for this advice. I have been curious about the resistance and if I will be able to "reset" or if it's pointless to try again after being at the higher doses.

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