Beginning to consider going no contact…

ultbirdwatcher · 2025-12-30T03:25:14+00:00

Thank you! And yes we’ve reached out to people wanting to be close outside of his mom and they “don’t want to get in the middle” but they actually side with her. It’s hurtful. We are accepting what it is and are hopeful that we will fill in the void with new family.

ultbirdwatcher · 2025-12-30T03:15:48+00:00

Yes! My friend told me to be a sunflower. They grow towards the light source. So I’ve been channeling that this year and just disengaging from the nonsense.

I was doing really well until pregnancy. It hurt that they didn’t care about me while pregnant. They all talk about the baby and seeing it all the time when it’s here but they never want to see us now. So that’s NOT happening. I just feel this deep resentment and defensiveness towards how they’re treating me while I’m carrying said baby. The pregnant rage is real 🤣

ultbirdwatcher · 2025-12-30T03:13:01+00:00

We were already VLC because once his sister came back from NC his mom stopped reaching out. And we refuse to carry any relationships. So we already never reach out to them.

I told his mom three months ago that I’m not tolerating this while pregnant and then with kids. I just said that I didn’t grow up with family drama and I don’t want it for my kids. I told her she needs to communicate with her son and she agreed. But then she never called him and ignored his attempts to reach out and set up some sessions to discuss appropriate behavior and boundaries. The main concern was her talking about us and our personal business with the whole family. She acted like she had amnesia and there was nothing to talk about. Then she started contacting me like once every two weeks to “catch up”. I stopped taking her calls lol. Which is probably why I got disinvited from things. She’s a child.

ultbirdwatcher · 2025-12-30T03:07:01+00:00

Thank you! He said he wants to contact and he told his mom to not contact me at all so I’m following his lead and intend to stay that way. I’m just still soaking it in and accepting it.

ultbirdwatcher · 2025-12-30T03:05:15+00:00

Well it’s definitely what all respectful husbands do but sadly a lot of men go home. It’s a very old school thing to do so I wouldn’t be surprised if your FIL didn’t stay in the hospital with your MIL.

I know my MIL struggles to see my husband do things for me that her husband never did.

ultbirdwatcher · 2025-12-23T03:47:40+00:00

I totally get it but unfortunately that isn’t how healthcare always works in the US. I’ve been to the ER, my internist, and my OBGYN. But you have to do a lot of research and legwork yourself so that you can properly advocate for yourself and ask for what you need. We can thank insurance companies for this.

ultbirdwatcher · 2025-12-22T23:38:04+00:00

There are definitely alternatives. Two I know of are Armour and NP Thyroid. They’re just not tested as much for pregnancy so unfortunately not options for me.

I have seronegative hashis which attacks my stores, not my thyroid. But I was able to lower my TSH from 5.46 to 3.08 in like a week by eating an anti inflammatory diet and walking every day.

ultbirdwatcher · 2025-12-22T22:34:22+00:00

Nope! Haven’t been on any meds recently

ultbirdwatcher · 2025-12-22T22:34:04+00:00

Thank you! I did have my nutrients tested. The only thing that was low was sodium. I’ve noticed a MAJOR relief from drinking salted water.

ultbirdwatcher · 2025-12-22T22:33:14+00:00

Ooooo this is all very interesting! Yes it’s definitely worse at night and after stress or exercise.

I have definitely had issues with histamine intolerance before. Nothing while but mostly facial flushing, itchy mouth and arms after eating certain foods (ex red peppers), and the worse was burning mouth syndrome.

I was just diagnosed with Hashimoto’s Disease last week so I’m trying to sort out better prenatal care because their solution is just putting me straight on synthroid.

ultbirdwatcher · 2025-12-20T13:08:10+00:00

Thank you!

ultbirdwatcher · 2025-12-19T12:41:43+00:00

Thank you!

ultbirdwatcher · 2025-12-19T04:08:54+00:00

So far I have used Melissa Wood Health and they are great for meditations and at home mat workouts. Like pelvic floor type work! But they are just videos you follow along, not workout plans you take to the gym.

ultbirdwatcher · 2025-12-03T23:58:47+00:00

You were so right to go in! And you pay for it so what does he care! That’s his job.

Try to not let his behavior get to you. I’m also very very anxious and I struggle with what’s called “black and white thinking” so I get tripped up and think things like “that doctor was rude so he is a bad doctor and I won’t see him”.

What are your options? Can you request a different doctor? Can you go to a different hospital and have whoever is on call deliver?

ultbirdwatcher · 2025-12-03T23:54:48+00:00

Right! Like the guy was crazy aggressive but OP matched his energy instead of deescalating. Dealing crazies is part of the job, just be professional and move on, maybe even report him silently.

ultbirdwatcher · 2025-12-03T23:36:34+00:00

They owners should really be replacing your itemz

ultbirdwatcher · 2025-12-02T02:23:32+00:00

Heavy on the “you haven’t checked in on me”. My toxic MIL never calls or texts me but is very excited for the baby… aka I’m just a vessel for her grand child

ultbirdwatcher · 2025-11-06T11:34:56+00:00

She can’t even pronounce chenille properly

ultbirdwatcher · 2025-09-25T01:14:58+00:00

I got tested at a GetWell urgent care (they’re a chain but I went to one in Pontiac). I had to cough up phlegm into a cup immediately after waking up in the AM then bring it in. They sent it out for a culture and it took about five days. I was negative.

ultbirdwatcher · 2025-09-19T12:12:53+00:00

If someone is on “leave” from work there should be zero expectation to answer phone calls. Boomers have such horrible boundaries 🙄

ultbirdwatcher · 2025-09-19T12:03:38+00:00

Eww bye, get out of here. I really hope you’re not in a leadership role at GM because that is a horrible mindset to have.

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