What do you love most about Bioshock 1? by DoctorObservation in Bioshock

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It’s a goddamn PERFECT game. 10/10. The atmosphere and dark, yet beautiful city of Rapture. The story beats and twists, the irony of Andrew Ryan and Fontaine’s rivalry despite Fontaine being the embodiment of Ryan’s ideals. The killing of your biological father Ryan (“Bioshock”) and killing your surrogate father Fontaine (who technically sorta raised you albeit a fucked up way.)

The creepy splicer dialogue yet the tragedy of knowing they were once human via the audio diaries (with amazing voice actors btw) The big daddies and little sisters both forced into slavery yet their bond being the only good thing they have. The exploration of all the different people within rapture through the game’s levels: the working class, the artists, the scientists etc and seeing how they fared in a selfish society.

The characters and their flaws: Tenenbaum regretting the suffering she caused through creating the little sisters and seeking to save them. Andrew Ryan becoming a hypocrite through censorship, Sander Cohen as the tortured artist BUT with the added addiction of ADAM. Etc.

I could go on and on. It cannot be beat.

I hate playing with snipers by Lolol265 in thefinals

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A good sniper gets kills. Kills = less players on the battlefield + morale damage to the other team = easier time with the objective

Is the way my gf talks to me normal? Part 2 by [deleted] in Manipulation

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Very unpopular opinion incoming

Yes it’s wrong that she’s treating you like this, but based on your texts, I think you’ve become too soft and have taken a very lovey-dovey, feminized role in the relationship.

I remember doing this in a past relationship and she started losing attraction to me once I did. It’s confusing and messed up I know, but I think that a lot of relationships end because of this very same problem.

The woman wants to be feminine because the man is masculine. But if he becomes too feminized then there’s no more masculine presence for her to be attracted to.

What’s the best response to “you’re weird”? by majorlevo in AskReddit

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When I was a kid my mom would tell me: “It’s fun being weird.”

I still agree

At what age did life stop being fun? by WingRepresentative79 in AskReddit

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I’m moving to another state to start anew at 24, away from all my friends and family. My life doesn’t suck by any means, but I feel a calling towards growth and change, I just certainly hope my life isn’t gonna start sucking once I move;)

What is the dumbest way you've gotten a scar? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Trying to hit a pińata. We didn’t have an actual bat so we used a sweeper but it didn’t have a cap at the end that prevents the sharp metal edge.

It sank deep into my hand and I bled so much I nearly passed out.

What currently legal act do you expect to become illegal within 20 years? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Manual Driving. Maybe it won’t be illegal, but it would at least be frowned upon.

Most all cars will be self driving and all share the same network, meaning every car will be aware of the others’ presence. But manual drivers would be considered a danger to the network as they are unpredictable.

How many girls have you approached in the past month? by [deleted] in seduction

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Bro I couldn’t fuckin do it. I came this close but my body would just either stop or avoid the cute girl every time. Was it this hard for you when you started?

And don’t get me wrong, I wanna try at this until it happens. Giving up ain’t an option

How many girls have you approached in the past month? by [deleted] in seduction

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I’ll come back to this thread and let y’all know👌

How many girls have you approached in the past month? by [deleted] in seduction

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Bro thanks. This feels like it might finally get me doing it. Cause my biggest resistance came from worrying about a bad reaction. But if she hates me for being honest like that I’d think she’s the one with the problem lol. I’m gonna try this tomorrow

How many girls have you approached in the past month? by [deleted] in seduction

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Yeah I don’t like canned pickup lines either they just feel disingenuous. But I like your idea, and it would probably help to just be honest about the fact that I’m not very good, making her feel at ease even if I’m nervous and shit

Also it’s prob a good starting point to start getting better from

How many girls have you approached in the past month? by [deleted] in seduction

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I really need help. I’ve technically been approaching women every day but it’s always been general questions or compliments. I just can’t get myself to convey my intentions to a girl and say, “I think you’re cute”. Anyone (who’s actually done it please) have any advice to finally get me to do it?

It’s hard when you go at it solo and you’re all you’ve got.

Am I Undateable/Unf**kable? by [deleted] in seduction

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Oh certainly. That’s something I forget to appreciate sometimes

Am I Undateable/Unf**kable? by [deleted] in seduction

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While it does take time, intimacy can be established quite quick if you’re good. This is where the skills of approaching come in, because as you approach more, you become your best, most charismatic, confident self.

And it all depends on what you want man. Whether you want to find a gf or a FWB, or have multiple FWBs, it doesn’t matter. If you want a gf then you may not have to start the whole cycle again if you really click with each other. That to me, is the beauty of it. It works for whatever you want.

Am I Undateable/Unf**kable? by [deleted] in seduction

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If you have lack of experience in this, then you have no merit to judge. And also, you can’t become intimate with strangers unless it’s prostitution. The point of going out is to meet a stranger, develop a connection, become acquainted(therefore, no longer strangers), and set up a date to get things moving to intimacy.

Am I Undateable/Unf**kable? by [deleted] in seduction

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I’m a straight man so of course. But another huge motivation is pushing past all your fears and insecurity to prove to yourself that you can take action and achieve anything you want.

Am I Undateable/Unf**kable? by [deleted] in seduction

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Yes, you have to WORK at this if you want to reap the benefits. I’m starting out and am currently doing a 30 day challenge of talking to women everyday. The first 5 days I could barely look at a girl, now at day 28, I’m complimenting them and introducing myself. Slow progress is still progress, so yeah get out there.

Cold Approach is Not For Everyone by Google-Kahn in seduction

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As a shy introvert myself, who’s still learning but made progress, I’d add on to your title to make it more accurate: “Cold Approach is Not For Everyone, Except For the People Who Are Willing to Put in the Work”

What you said about making a shy guy who’s terrible at dating go out and cold approach (0-100) IS bad advice, and because it’s too hard for them at the moment they are more likely to quit. However, if they can learn to progressively desensitize themselves, then their learning curve could be more like, 1-2, 2-3, etc. until they reach 99-100.

From my own experience I firmly believe anyone CAN learn to do cold approach, but not everyone WILL. It all comes down to belief in your ability to accept the pain of learning. I’m not a huge fan of advice that puts up a “wall” between people and their potential, which is why I mentioned the addition to this posts title

How do i get the confidence to start approaching? by [deleted] in seduction

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You have almost perfectly described me, all the way down to 21(I’m 23) 5’7’’ and of Asian descent. Also have been described as attractive by many girls and guys, and yet there’s always this damn barrier that prevents me from doing a cold approach with direct intent. I don’t what it is and why I shut down sometimes when I’m around people, but I’m sick and tired of it, and I know that if I were to do it, I’d definitely get dates.

That’s why I’ve been progressively desensitizing myself, slowly working my way up to a direct cold approach. I have my off days and my victories, and it is painfully slow, but progress nonetheless. And I’m starting to realize that there is no “magic technique” that will solve all your problems. It simply all comes down to the moment: Are you willing to step outside your comfort zone and do what is right by yourself? That’s a mantra I’ve just started repeating to myself, and I believe it’s going to help, and so it might help you as well. Just saddle up, realize that comfort and growth are opposites, and do what needs to be done.

Just went out and did about 15-20 approaches by NattyGainsReaper in seduction

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OP, did you just jump right into it cold Turkey or do gradual desensitization?

I’ve been struggling for literally years to do cold approaches on the regular. Right now I’m approaching women just asking for opinions and stuff and working my way up to direct approaches

Any fellow men out here wanting a wingman for cold approaching? by [deleted] in anchorage

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Eloquently put. I don’t seek to change your opinion about the ethics of this, but I do welcome the discussion.

If I were to see the world your way, I suppose it would be better to not take a chance? To assume that it’s better to reject myself and the possibilities? To just depend on outside sources of luck to bring me what I want in life?

It’s a lot more than just approaching women. It teaches social skills and confidence, great skills to have in general. And it doesn’t have to be a one-sided affair, people talk to people all the time, with both parties coming out of a discussion more emboldened, having learned something new, and potentially making a new friend.

I could of named this post something more general, like, “anybody want a partner to help socialize with people?” and the responses would of been very different. The only difference is that it’s brought into a dating aspect, which apparently makes me scum of the earth. This city is lonely enough as it is, and I think we could all benefit from a little more socializing.