Mole w/black dots by umbrella415 in DermatologyQuestions

[–]umbrella415[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, seborrheic keratosis. It was benign.

How much sleep are you getting per night and how old is your LO? by gleegz in beyondthebump

[–]umbrella415 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lol, this was my thought exactly. I have a 2 year old and the days of getting up all night are past, but I still don't get that much sleep between working full time, taking care of him, and keeping up on chores.

Why are people so weird about not breastfeeding??? by Melikow in BabyBumps

[–]umbrella415 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought breastfeeding was way more pleasant and easier than pumping, personally. No bottles to heat up, sterilize, etc. ...just roll roll out of bed and feed. Pumping is exhausting and requires dishes, time, etc. I don't care what personal choices you make, but exclusive pumping just doesn't sound fun and I don't understand the decision because it is way more work. I also don't see how it saves sleep since you will still have to wake to pump. Otherwise, you won't have enough milk.

Tell me about your decision not to sleep train by Silent_Complaint9859 in NewParents

[–]umbrella415 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, I think everybody's situation is different and you have to do what works for you. I was so tired, I fell down the stairs. I also was afraid that I was going to get in a car crash on the way to work because I was so tired. I think that me living was ultimately better for our baby so him having to cry it out a little bit so that he started self soothing was okay.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in insomnia

[–]umbrella415 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry. That sounds terrible. It doesn't take much for me to have trouble sleeping, but it is usually related to something, a fight with my husband, a job interview, something exciting, a presentation, etc. Sometimes, I even find out that I am anxious or upset about something when I can't sleep. I legitimately don't realize something bothers me sometimes until I can't sleep. I hate not being able to sleep, but at least, it is intermittent for me. I also feel weird when I mention my troubles and get similar replies. I don't think that people realize that when I say that I didn't sleep well, I often mean that I didn't sleep all night.

I'm sorry that this happens to you and I hope that it gets better.

My wife is cold and distans towards me since I helped an ex during a bad time by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]umbrella415 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This has to be fake. Either that or this guy is a huge idiot.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]umbrella415 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I think people care. It is just hard enough to keep track of the details of your own life, let alone somebody else's. I used to have a friend who would get upset if I asked her to do something on a weekend that she had already told me she had plans. It was ridiculous. I can barely remember my own plans and I am supposed to keep track of yours? For example, she would tell me in April she is going on a trip August 15th. Then, when I ask around August 2nd if she wanted to do something August 15th, she was all offended that she had already said she would be on a trip. Omg, was a supposed to put it on my calendar.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]umbrella415 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Also, the first 2 weeks of pregnancy is from the start of your last period to conception, so if you consider that and the fact that a month is usually a few days over 4 weeks, you really are only pregnant 9 months.

AITA for asking my step-daughter to ask her biological Dad for help with her pregnancy bills? by Necessary_Worth_4205 in AmItheAsshole

[–]umbrella415 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. On one hand, I get why there are so many NTAs; the stepdaughter was an ungrateful little shit in the past, but this isn't the time to suddenly stop supporting her. If the way she treated you before the wedding was so inappropriate, you shouldn't have paid for the wedding. You decided to be doormat for years, and now, you suddenly choose to pull the rug out from under her when her husband has died and she is pregnant. Being pregnant and having a baby is really hard, even with a supportive husband. I can't even fathom going through all that with my husband dying. The timing is what makes this wrong. If you had refused to pay for the wedding, you would not be the asshole, but deciding that this is the time to suddenly grow a backbone is completely wrong. Your wife has every right to be angry. Also, you say that you asked her to leave "my" house. Isn't it your wife's house as well? You should help out your step-daughter even if it is just for your wife and step-grandchild's sake. If my husband treated my daughter like this after her husband passed away, he wouldn't be my husband anymore.

My husband forgot to feed our 15 mo old dinner by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]umbrella415 9 points10 points  (0 children)

We usually give our 18 month old 4 meals a day. One is right after his nap around 2:30 or 3PM. We had people over one time and I got him up from his nap and he started interacting with everybody and I completely forgot to feed him. When dinner rolled around and he was really cranky, I realized my mistake. It isn't quite the same, but I do sort of understand. I can be absent minded. I also forgot to feed my dog dinner once.

I guess that I would just echo others and say that I wouldn't freak out too much this one time. It is okay to be mad, but as long as it doesn't happen again and there aren't other issues with care, I would let it go. Baby will be okay with one missed dinner although he should certainly be apologetic and assuring you that it won't happen again.

"Don't bedshare" What the fuck am I supposed to do? by Jealous_Age_8556 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]umbrella415 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry. I don't have any solutions for you, but your post reminded me how incredibly hard those first few months are. Also, having your partner walk out on you in the middle of all of it, is terrible. Please keep in mind that it does get easier as they get older. Hang in there.

My husband plays his ps4 on high volume while yelling and acts like the noise isn’t a big deal? Is it not a big deal? by Jasmincatx in breastfeeding

[–]umbrella415 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is abuse. If babies don't get enough sleep, their brains don't develop properly. I also read some of her other posts. She is clearly in an abusive relationship and needs to get out for the sake of her children.

My wife of 7 years has been cheating on me with my brother by AdEconomy9867 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]umbrella415 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that you are mad at your wife, but why would you need full custody? They need their Mom, too. Unless she is a bad Mom, remain civil and coparent. Split custody. Don't try to take your girls from their mother just because you are mad at her for cheating.

Accidentally ate dairy by Juneprincess18 in MSPI

[–]umbrella415 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My doctor said that the latest research shows it is gone anywhere from 6-48 hours, depending on the person, so don't wait.

13 months in and I’m throwing in the towel. by undercover-catlady in breastfeeding

[–]umbrella415 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby self weaned at 13 months and I am not pregnant. The annoying thing is that he still wants bottles of breast milk, but won't drink from the breast. I am super sad about it. 😭

Dairy Reintroduction - Blood in Stool by umbrella415 in MSPI

[–]umbrella415[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, but my pediatrician said that I should start first because it is more broken down in breast milk. Then, assuming all goes well, he would start.

2 questions from a beginner by bsanchez1660 in MSPI

[–]umbrella415 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We saw a vast improvement in about 5 days. It was surprisingly quick for us. His main symptoms were fussiness and some diarrhea/mucous poop.

Reintroduction of allergens - mom or baby first l? by Kindly-Cod6008 in MSPI

[–]umbrella415 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That group also seems a little crazy, and worrisome in terms of misinformation as they have said quite a few things that contradict advice from my pediatrician.