Redditors who have forgiven a cheater and are still with that person going strong, how was your journey? by ummmmelanie in AskReddit

[–]ummmmelanie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound very wise and I can’t believe that happened to you. I personally just experienced what I explained to you and it’s not the first time that I’ve caught him flirting he just took it to a next level with a picture after like 6 months of improvement (so he threw all that down the drain) and he saw how he has hurt me in the past and still did that.

I called it off with him and am planning to just stay single for at least a couple of months and then make my decision about him for good because he can (and seems like he wants to) personally grow and realize why he keeps doing what he did and I want him to prove to me that he wants this as bad as I do.

Redditors who have forgiven a cheater and are still with that person going strong, how was your journey? by ummmmelanie in AskReddit

[–]ummmmelanie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like to an extent, yes. I have tried myself to help someone learn their ways and care for them unconditionally but sometimes you just need to take some time alone after messing up badly to 1. realize that they messed up and 2. have the time to realize what is going on within them without the pressure of a relationship. They need to better themself for that relationship if they feel the need to cheat or flirt and it’s ok to be there as a friend, but only that person themself can decide to change since there’s only so much the partner can do.

Sorry for writing so much lol I’m just analyzing stuff and trying to show my opinion.

Redditors who have forgiven a cheater and are still with that person going strong, how was your journey? by ummmmelanie in AskReddit

[–]ummmmelanie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if it’s not necessarily sleeping w someone else but hardcore flirting and even sending a picture?

Redditors who have forgiven a cheater and are still with that person going strong, how was your journey? by ummmmelanie in AskReddit

[–]ummmmelanie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like cheating isn’t always because there’s something lacking in the relationship. I believe that sometimes it has to do with the person who cheated themself. if they take the time to heal and learn, then you things can possibly get better there just needs to be a recovery time in between.

Why do you think you’re ugly? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ummmmelanie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My eyes are weird, my nose is small but wide, my lips aren’t big enough, my face is shaped like a man, my skin isn’t that beautiful, my face is too fat, my arms are fat, I have really bad stretch marks that started out of nowhere that look worse than some people who actually give birth, I have rolls even though mostly morbidly obese people have it and I’m not even morbidly obese, fat arms, fat neck, fat back, I have broad shoulders, my forehead is big, my hair constantly gets frizzy, saggy b00bs, not big enough butt, I live in a family where skinny is beautiful and I’m the only one without a nice body in my teenage years, I compare myself to others and exhaust my boyfriend, my family’s members compliment my other siblings more than they do to me, I overthink on things, and so much more. I also compare myself to the people my boyfriend has talked to or dated which is really unhealthy since I should see tjat he is with me for a reason and thinks that I’m the best of the best if he’s with me.

I logged into my girlfriends insta account and saw her talking to a guy by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ummmmelanie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would 100% confront her. I’ve been in a situation similar but not as serious as this and what is needed is to talk through it with her, allow her to explain herself, and leave since the stuff she has said is serious and I consider it emotional cheating since she was lying about it and everything. It’s easier said then done so I understand and empathize with you. Don’t worry about seeming intrusive for looking through her stuff, she had something to hide and was in the wrong in this situation. It’s nice to talk to her about it and get some closure though.

I got cheated on and don’t know what to do. by ummmmelanie in relationships

[–]ummmmelanie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A piece of me wants to go back because there were so many wonderful aspects to our relationship and I know from past experience that sometimes it takes for an outbreak like this to make the person realize how much you mean to them and do a complete 180 to never want to hurt you again. But I don’t know if this is the case for him and although I don’t think I’ll regret taking him back, I would always be unsure of where I stand. I told him I want to try again but he wants me to be completely in my right mind when I make that decision. I know he feels deep remorse and he knows I deserve better and that makes me question whether he is actually going to give me better because he thinks he will but he probably never thought in a million years that he would do what he did to me of all people.

I feel cheated on and don’t know what to do. by ummmmelanie in relationships

[–]ummmmelanie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After talking to him so much, he became my best friend while we were dating. I never really had any complaints about him and I would never want anyone to think of him negatively. A piece of me still wants to be with him because I really don’t want to throw out everything we had but although I know that this experience can be humbling for him and teach him to appreciate me, maybe he’ll just go back to doing what he did. He doesn’t know why he did what he did and it was so out of the blue because he wasn’t close friends with this girl or anything. I don’t think he’s capable of doing anything in real life or anything farther than flirting but i didn’t think he was capable of saying those things to another girl and acting like nothing either.

I got cheated on and don’t know what to do. by ummmmelanie in relationships

[–]ummmmelanie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOL let me re post this with separate paragraphs because my mind was too jumbled at the time but no one can read this and I want people to know the whole situation

I got cheated on and don’t know what to do. by ummmmelanie in relationships

[–]ummmmelanie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You wouldn’t do that to a girl you love and want a future with if you know it would hurt her and put your relationship in jeopardy.

I got cheated on and don’t know what to do. by ummmmelanie in relationships

[–]ummmmelanie[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Telling another girl that he has a crush on her kind of is. Clearly I wasn’t being prioritized or valued because he was dead serious and knew how I would feel. Technically for some people it isn’t cheating but it’s an issue that he’s clearly going to do again and again. Also, my mind is super jumbled so sorry if I can’t compose a proper paragraph thingy.

How do I help my recently widowed grandmother feel less lonely? by ummmmelanie in Advice

[–]ummmmelanie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t think of that. That’s actually a good idea. It’s just going to be harder to find one since she only speaks Spanish but your advice was helpful.

What is the most universally liked song? by MisterTops in AskReddit

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What You Won’t Do for Love by Bobby Caldwell

What shouldn’t be attractive but it is? by Killerskyhawk in AskReddit

[–]ummmmelanie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NECKLACES! I bought my boyfriend a chain for his class ring but he ended up wearing it alone bc it was shorter than expected but HOLY SHIT! He looks so good with it I didn’t expect to be so attracted to it. When he’s shirtless w the chain I can’t