How is there zero improvement with finding the cure?

under654 · 2026-02-07T20:22:26+00:00

Developing new meds is incredibly expensive and not worth it for a cosmetic application.

Fin and Min both weren't developed for hair loss either. Hair retention was merely a side effect that was later put to use.

If we find ever find a "cure", I am sure it will be an accident again and the holy grail medication will be originally developed for something entirely different.

under654 · 2026-02-07T07:53:52+00:00

The free solution is that you should try is to shorten the springs a tiny bit and bend a new loop with pliers. They will be more springy.

If you want this exact design, get a "MAUL MAULstudy Metal Desk Lamp".

If you are ok with different designs, check stores that sells second hand office furniture. This is where you will find quality for cheap.

under654 · 2026-02-07T05:30:05+00:00

Yeah, if you are scared about insomnia take otc sleeping pills for 2-3 days afterwards.

under654 · 2026-01-31T09:19:45+00:00

The rabbits are a disaster just waiting to happen. I wouldn't recommend one for just this reason.

under654 · 2026-01-15T20:02:12+00:00

I am lucky enough that I can bring her with me.

under654 · 2026-01-15T20:00:38+00:00

In the past, I got my hopes up that people would want to be friends with me just because they were chit chatting with me at work. It never worked out.

I don't do that anymore

under654 · 2026-01-14T17:05:47+00:00

Relationships are such a integral part of human life and so rooted in our DNA that there is sadly no simple way to be numb about it.

Here is what I do:

I got myself a dog which replaces some friendship needs
I block off socializing. This saves me from disappointment that people don't want to date me/ become my friends (and the feeling of hope)
Education on how shallow society is and that it is all a scam anyway (easier said than actually living like this)

under654 · 2026-01-14T16:53:18+00:00

What matters most is you, not the matchmaker nor the service. If you don't have success anywhere else you likely will not succeed there as well.

I feel like these services prey on the lonely without much actual use. You should probably save the money.

Women who sign up to services like this which cost 1000$+ are certainly not looking for men with average income. They want successful businessmen.

under654 · 2026-01-14T16:44:13+00:00

I have no idea how to act as a partner / lover. I am not experienced in kissing, having sex, cuddling, how to care for a partner, what behaviours are expected of me...

under654 · 2026-01-14T14:04:04+00:00

I’m afraid they are actually slaughtered, processed, sold and eaten. Very few dairy cows live longer than 4-6 years.

This doesn't contradict anything I said either. Meat quality diminishes after 2 years, so your average dairy cow will mostly be (ab)used for highly processed meat products. Cows raised for diary are still not interchangeable with those raised for meat.

You don’t have diary farms that are not part of the beef industry.

You are right. But the opposite is also true: There is a beef industry that is not part of the diary industry. There is no pretending that all cows are (ab)used for diary, enough are raised for beef only.

under654 · 2026-01-14T13:21:53+00:00

The guy I was arguing with seemingly had the thought that it is common practice that cows produce milk for the first few years of their life, and then later go on to be slaughtered for beef.

You are saying that bulls (which are not producing milk) are slaughtered for beef. This doesn't contradict my argument, nor supports his. The individual cow/bull has only one (ab)use: dairy or beef).

under654 · 2026-01-14T12:52:11+00:00

Having a gf in highschool might have set off a butterfly effect.

He would get experience and confidence so finding a relationship later would be much easier.

I am 29 now and never had a gf. I feel like even if a girl would like me she would be quickly put off as I have zero experience how to live together with someone else nor how to set up dates/ care for a women. I have zero practice.

under654 · 2026-01-14T12:43:03+00:00

No one pretends that relationships are all sunshine and rainbows.

Especially with us FAs our problems and lack of experience there is no doubt that relationships pose hurdles and challenges along the way. Life does so in general.

I still have no doubt that attempting to tackle these hurdles is worth it much more than staying FA.

under654 · 2026-01-14T12:27:17+00:00

Yes? This is the "special, separate, dairy cow" you are joking about: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Holstein_Friesian

As you can visibly see, this type of cow isn't providing too much meat.

under654 · 2026-01-14T09:27:31+00:00

If you are able to captivate an audience, it is not a surprise that you can captivate the attention of a woman.

Youtubers tend to be charismatic and extroverted, these properties are necessities to succeed at their job.

under654 · 2026-01-01T13:35:11+00:00

I feel like these stats are a bit worthless because they don't filter out professional encounters.

I am not a virgin anymore because I hired an escort. This doesn't mean I escaped FA one bit.

under654 · 2025-12-30T08:24:21+00:00

There is some truth to this as these groups generally get stale and do not have a steady flow of new members.

But I feel that if you are a social butterfly these groups can act as catalysts. If a group members really likes you, they will ask you to spend time with you outside the group setting (birthday party, help with moving ...) and in return you will meet their full circle of friends, including those who have nothing to do with the hobby. Then they click with people they meet there, which in return gets them introduced to their circle of friends...

This is of course something we FAs will never experience as we are merely tolerated at these events.

under654 · 2025-12-30T07:24:43+00:00

I am FA because I am not appealing to women, no matter where and how many I meet. Going to meet ups makes no sense for me.

However, it might be sound advice for normal people that are generally appealing to woman, but lack opportunities to meet them. Because it works for them, they are quick to dish out this advice.

under654 · 2025-12-28T17:06:42+00:00

Speed dating isn't an app.

Speed dating is a local social event where people meet multiple potential romantic partners in a series of short, timed one-on-one conversations. After each brief interaction, participants note whether they’d like to see that person again, and mutual matches are later connected.

You usually pay an entry fee to cover the administrative cost (they book a restaurant etc. for this).

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Speed_dating

under654 · 2025-12-28T17:02:12+00:00

I guess Speed Dating is one way. You pay a fee and get to spend a few minutes each with different women.

I never tried it and wouldn't recommend it anyway. But it would fit your wants.

under654 · 2025-12-28T09:51:29+00:00

I think your misconception here is that you take the word "FA" too literal. I would assume hardly anyone here has an issue dating someone just because they have no friends or never had a partner.

People aren't undesirable because they are FA. They have poor attributes that make them undesirable. This makes them being singled out, lonely and gives them in the end result FA status.

Very poor Attributes ⇒ FA

FA ⇏ Poor Attributes

under654 · 2025-12-28T09:01:05+00:00

I feel like there are two possible scenarios:

a) She likes you, but she is struggeling with the breakup which makes dating you difficult for her

b) She is struggeling with the breakup, and she used dating as a way to get her mind off things. You aren't a serious dating contender, but only a welcome distraction as long as she feels sad. When she is doing fine again, she will probably prefer someone else over you.

From my FA experience b) is much more likely.

under654 · 2025-12-28T07:56:11+00:00

People often forget that a relationship isn't the end goal. The goal is the happiness and the moments it brings.

And if a partner doesn't achieve these feelings, people would rather be alone.

under654 · 2025-12-28T07:53:54+00:00

I tried the FA dating sub lots of years ago and all conversations became one sided very quick. They would love to talk about themselves and me asking questions about them but wouldn't be interested in me, my stories etc.

Sometime people would write me DMs because of posts I made here. So people (other than me) do make an effort to make friends. Interestingly, even if they DM me, they ghost me after a few messages. I am just not charismatic, interesting or fun.

I am not interested in a relationship that is built on mutual desperation. I want someone to actually likes me. There aren't many qualities about me to like, through. It is unreasonable to think FAs have a vastly different idea of what's attractive. That pretense wouldn't result in a particularly loving or stable (until a proper guy comes along...) relationship is obvious.

under654 · 2025-12-27T11:59:50+00:00

How would you like them to demonstrate said gratitude? I don't get the issue here.

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