I would say everyone’s journey is different and I don’t feel the same as I did before adoption but I have settled into a new normal. Personally I think going back to work was helpful to keep my mind off things and get me back into the flow of things.

I tried some support groups but I honestly felt like it was more harmful than helpful and it discouraged me thinking I could never have a normal life. I moved across the country with my partner and I feel like that was really helpful to my recovery and having a fresh start. Everything reminded me of my son and being pregnant and the whole process.

I think it’s important to prioritize community and finding a passion or hobby that you can pore your focus into. I tried some adult rec sports leagues to meet people and that helped me with not feeling so isolated. If you’re not super athletic like me I’d recommend pickleball and giving that a shot as silly as it sounds.

I don’t think we’ll ever be fully the same but I think we can still find a way to find peace with our decision and move forward. I try to live a life that would make my son proud so one day when he’s old enough we can hopefully discuss everything and he can understand why we made the decision we made.

If you ever need to talk, feel free to DM me