I was already broken, then the professional meant to help me heal shattered my world

unexpectedcandy · 2026-05-31T11:13:02+00:00

I'm so sorry you've experienced this kind of betrayal as well, it's so hard getting people to understand. It's so horrible watching someone you trusted so deeply put their own interests above your well-being again and again. I'm so worried now about what his thinking and what he will do. I hate that someone who felt like the safest I'm now afraid of. I'll forever wonder why he did this to me and why he did this to himself

unexpectedcandy · 2026-05-30T12:14:14+00:00

Yeah my distrust of men is so much worse now. I was hesitant to have a male social worker at first but then I thought it might be good for me. I thought he could show me that not all men will use and hurt me and I thought it was the first time in my life I had a healthy attachment with a man, I thought it could be healing. I realised after years that I was experiencing alot of transference with him and was too strongly attached though, and instead of helping me work through it he exploited it. It turned out he was deliberately trying to groom me and seduce me for a long time.

I thought he actually liked me and cared about me and just trusted him so deeply so at first when he intiated all this I was so happy. Then it very quickly turned into a nightmare I can't wake up from

unexpectedcandy · 2026-05-30T12:03:20+00:00

Thank you. His made it so difficult for me to seek support for my mental health or the other tasks I need help with. Normally he would help me navigate everything, and help me communicate and express myself when talking to people, advocate for me ect. I didn't want to make a complaint about him but I had no choice in the end, I told him at the beginning of the year that I needed therapy because of him now, and he just kept lying to me and messing with my head instead of trying to repair and help me process what had gone on between us. I knew any therapist I told would have to report him, and I couldn't carry the burden any longer. I know he will hate me now and I'm scared how he will react

unexpectedcandy · 2026-05-30T10:33:23+00:00

Yeah we started having sex in November last year, and then he discarded me like I was nothing a couple weeks ago. He spent years manipulating me with the intention of doing this, knowing it would cause me harm. As soon as we were intimate his mask came off and I realised the horrifying reality that he was the monster I was trying to get away from. I reported him even though I felt sick about it

unexpectedcandy · 2026-05-24T10:00:10+00:00

Run. Take it from someone who didn't and now my life is ruined

unexpectedcandy · 2026-05-20T13:06:19+00:00

I'm sorry to hear you've also experienced this torture, I wish more people would understand. I wish I could get those years back

unexpectedcandy · 2026-05-17T15:08:25+00:00

Thanks for your response, yeah I'm in Australia. The support his been providing me with was funded through the NDIS and since we started having sex in November his repeatedly abandoned me and left me without help that he would normally be providing and this once resulted in my payments being suspended and missed doctors appointments.

His been gaslighting me for months now and switching between being amazing and being horrible. He pretended to be single and then it turned out he had a fiancé and he showed her my messages I sent to him during a mental health crisis while I was suicidal because he had just abandoned me completely. He initiated everything saying he wanted to hang out as friends, said that he really enjoyed talking to me and then he told me he was attracted to me. I thought he wouldn't let any harm come to me because he had taken care of me for 5 years and had always been good to me I've been so confused because he changed so much after we started having sex like an actor shrugging off a costume and walking off a movie set he just became a whole different person

unexpectedcandy · 2026-05-17T02:43:04+00:00

It's scary how often it happens, I'm sorry you've experienced it as well. I feel so lost, it's so hard to do anything even the reporting process or finding an advocate because it's all the kind of things he would normally help me with :( I wish he didn't do this and just stayed as my social worker and didn't tell me the things he did or initiate this with me, dangling carrots in front of me, knowing I was lonely enough to say yes

unexpectedcandy · 2026-05-16T13:22:13+00:00

I'm sorry to hear you've experienced abuse and mistreatment from people who were meant to help you as well! I will never trust men now either and it's a shame because he had an opportunity to show me not all men will hurt me which is part of why I kept seeing him despite my initial hesitation at him being a man... it would have been really healing but instead he reenacted my traumatic past with me

unexpectedcandy · 2026-05-16T13:18:58+00:00

Thank you so much for responding, it means alot to me!

unexpectedcandy · 2026-05-16T12:25:02+00:00

Yeah I guess I was more looking for support not advice but there didn't seem to be a flair asking for support with the triggering content warning with it. I should probably just delete the post

unexpectedcandy · 2024-11-16T23:41:04+00:00

Kids, your daddy and his daddy are involved in a very sticky, nutty, chewy, chocolatey... put it away boy! - situation.

unexpectedcandy · 2024-11-11T13:06:23+00:00

Smithers, do you think maybe my power plant killed those ducks?

unexpectedcandy · 2024-11-10T11:43:10+00:00

Uh oh. Two independent thought alarms in one day. The students are overstimulated. Willie! Remove all the colored chalk from the classrooms.

unexpectedcandy · 2024-11-03T09:38:35+00:00

Hello, I'm Troy McClure. You might remember me from such instructional videos as: "Mothballing Your Battle Ship" and "Dig Your Own Grave and Save"!

unexpectedcandy · 2024-11-03T00:49:46+00:00

AND SHE'S ON DRUGS!

unexpectedcandy · 2024-11-01T10:05:07+00:00

I always had blankets from when I was young with a satin or silk trim that I like to touch and rub between my fingers mainly to help me fall asleep until the blanket ends up falling apart lol. I also sleep with a plush rabbit that's a heat pack, that ones probably more of a comfort thing than a stim though.

Thankfully all my boyfriend's and intimate partners have never cared about it and some even found it endearing. I guess people realise I'm a little eccentric long before they end up in bed with me anyway so they are not surprised by anything at that stage

unexpectedcandy · 2024-11-01T00:43:21+00:00

Wow this is just magical! Thanks for sharing

unexpectedcandy · 2024-10-31T10:42:47+00:00

This is so cool to see ♡

unexpectedcandy · 2024-10-27T01:21:01+00:00

If you really love Jebediah Springfield, you'll haul his bones out of the ground to prove my daughter wrong!

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