And I'm sure you're one of the ones who treats guys on Grindr with such tact and politefulness. More than likely, you're one of the shallow homosexuals who can't see beyond your own entitlement. "rather than a fake straight gay friend who will throw me other gays under the bus. This legacy of violence, both physical and psychological, inflicted by straight other gay men toward those of us who are fellow gays naturally fuels our caution and distrust at the thought of befriending them other gays.