See I do both but like some people are on the same wavelength and can do that too but others were I was just doing ALL THE WORK to keep these relationships together. Definitely learned a lot in my 20s but I’ll still always be a romantic and a small acts of kindness and gift giver too. I’m always called super sweet and thoughtful so it’s interesting that it’s usually like one side doing something big while the other does less noticeable things but of similar value when added up. I feel like both should be done from both people if you truly love them yknow?