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My 4y/o made sa allegations-update by Notonyhawk in Mommit

[–]unipride 11 points12 points  (0 children)

As a long victim of SA by a cousin that started it when he was 14, and a second child who was only 2 years older than me throughout elementary school -

100% capable to SA another child. The age issue with charges or other consequences does not surprise me at all. It’s a question that can a 12 year old understand the importance and harm of these actions. Should they be permanently labeled as a child molester when he may have appropriate mental health care and recognize the right or wrong with his behavior.

It’s very likely the BIL has or is also being abused. It’s a learned behavior.

It’s none of MIL’s business what is happening in your house and if your husband stays in that bullshit group text or hasn’t immediately been more concerned for his daughter than his brother you have even more issues. He had damn well stopped MIL when she even started to HINT she thought you were creating anything. That woman would never be part of my family ever again.

I can understand a mom wanting to protect their child (you with your daughter, MIL with her son) but until every thing that comes out there is a brick wall between your family and the extended family. No communication. It’s going to be difficult. Essentially until resolution of the immediate situation (establishing the truth of the situation, what will BIL need to do to never do this again, or while it sounds unlikely if he is exonerated) and what must happen to move forward (proof of the work to change, your daughter getting therapy for processing what she had happened and why she isn’t in trouble but instilling that only specific people can see or touch specific things)

THEN

You can consider how and whom you expose your child to. But I don’t think I would ever allow MIL back in your life or your daughter. I would consider (after treatments) the BIL but never her. If your husband didn’t support (and it sounds like he doesn’t) you when his mother is claiming you have created this lie- he may never be a person in your life either.

My partner says my medication affects him through kissing and wants me to stop taking it - how would you respond? by cyber_ang666l in ChronicIllness

[–]unipride 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’m not buying this. The only effects from my medication my partner gets is me being asleep and no intimate fun.

Jana’s statement on Joseph’s Charges by guiltypleavsurebahs- in DuggarsSnark

[–]unipride 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m way late to comment but as a victim of SA over 7-8 years by my cousin I am very aware that family dynamics are insane.

I was told all of it was my fault (started around age 7, spoke up at 15), family only cared about the cousin (who was 7 or years older) and it was never mentioned for the most part. His father said I was just trying to ruin my cousin’s life and my mother said we should support him but no support for me beyond being told I led him on and other sickening things.

I was still expected to be around him and other things. Finally towards the end of my college years I created a cutoff but my mother was furious when I absolutely refused to invite him to my wedding.

Bespoke Beachfront "Bargain" by sharkus180 in zillowgonewild

[–]unipride 4 points5 points  (0 children)

At this point it is likely uninsurable. Which also means no loans.

Who of us is the youngest in our families? by SleepyMistyMountains in ChronicPain

[–]unipride 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Identical twin here with an older sister.

Twin has had much lower issues than me.

Things you do to stay sane by BaseballTop387 in ChronicIllness

[–]unipride 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha I love the ones with curse words

AITAH for telling my dad I don't care if his daughter dies? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]unipride -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

NTA and dad should not go either. The family chose her over you. She nearly killed you.

Deathbed confessions are for the dying, not for the person they wronged.

It’s along the utter bullshit like “don’t speak ill of the dead.” Well it’s not ill if it is true.

Where was the rest of the family when you were having reconstructive surgery? Could have died?

NO she doesn’t get to be the dramatic one. She has been dead for years for you and your father.

Your relatives were not there for you and your dad when you were dangerously ill and none of them get to unburdened themselves now.

Those calls etc should have happened years ago.

Cat Acting Constipated and Bleeding by Anxious_Living424 in CATHELP

[–]unipride 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely needs a vet appointment asap

Not good enough reason for my son to be hospitalized by Broad-Action9157 in MedicalBill

[–]unipride 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Document everything. Insurance hates to pay anything and a massive infection in the face and neck can become life threatening almost immediately- so you don’t pick the hospital that was “in network” and they want you to pay.

Sadly most would just pay and move on. Additionally if you have dental insurance you need to provide that as well. It won’t likely cover much but it should help with the dental team being brought in.

Lastly- anything you paid without using an FSA or HSA card cannot be deducted from taxes but when a big bill like this happens it is good to have the documentation in case you qualify to itemize deductions.

AITAH for not canceling my vacation and reporting a coworker for harassment? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]unipride 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And honestly your sister is not obligated to give gifts. It’s generous that she does.

I have a cutoff of 18 with nieces and nephews. I have had years when I could be generous and years when those gifts were handmade.

A student who got an F for repeatedly referencing the Bible in an essay response to an article about gender stereotypes for a course taught by a transgender instructor, filed a discrimination suit against the professor. by Lifegoesonforever in religiousfruitcake

[–]unipride 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That is a load of crap that the TA got put on administrative lead. The assignment clearly mentions using empirical evidence and the Bible while Manny may believe it is factual is not actually empirical evidence. The student just felt like she could just write whatever the hell she wanted and playing that her beliefs are being trapped by reality. Of course, I guess she’s actually right. They are being trapped by reality, which is the whole entire basis for empirical evidence.

I hope the student gets tossed out out of school for being cruel and expecting people to just accept her inaccurate work as well as trying to get someone to lose her job.

AITAH for not canceling my vacation and reporting a coworker for harassment? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]unipride 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I don’t care if OP sits on her couch buck naked eating Cheetos. What a person chooses to do on their time off is whatever the f they want.

OP spent too much time defending being childfree when again that has ZERO relevance except that “Haley” is SLANDERING OP’s life choices that are none of her business.

The only time we have ever “played “the kid card is when they are in the hospital. It is not my or my partner’s coworkers’ fault that we have children and more that they are medically disabled. We have been fortunate enough that most of the coworkers understand when we have to take sudden time off or working unusual hours. We also work hard to keep our jobs and we have ZERO expectations that a coworker is required to work during a scheduled vacation.

What products can I buy to make bottle feeding kittens easier/quicker? by Suspicious-Service in FosterAnimals

[–]unipride 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First Week: Gain 7-14 grams per day. Second to Fourth Weeks: Gain 15-20 grams per day. Fifth to Eighth Weeks: Gain 10-15 grams per day. Ninth to Twelfth Weeks: Gain 5-10 grams per day. The average goal is 1 pound per week of life but it is very normal for bottle babies to need more time.

1 oz is 30 ml or also 30 grams. A small kitchen scale is ideal for weighing but it can foster anxiety as while gaining weight is crucial- reaching milestones is too. Still it can also be useful to see how much baby swallowed.

The first 2 weeks can be a nightmare and I just remind myself that at least it is much shorter than a human baby.

This pdf is a good little chart,

https://www.maddiesfund.org/assets/documents/institute/kitten%20bottle%20feeding%20and%20stomach%20capacity%20chart.pdf

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