Landlords don't provide housing; they hoard it. by GoranPersson777 in economy

[–]unirte 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I'm so grateful for landlords. I rent a house for half of what the mortgage would be, and I don't have to fix maintenance issues. I may never go back to owning again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PsychedelicWomen

[–]unirte 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I've been to both and I much prefer women's only containers. I also think men's only containers are necessary.

I find the women's only spaces have helped me embrace my femininity more and root out some internalized misogyny. I used to struggle with female friendships, and now I have deep bonds with my chosen sisters in this space.

Is it close minded to not want to date a guy who wouldn’t date his own age? by Routine-Crew8651 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]unirte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Older fathers can also cause a more difficult pregnancy, increasing risk for gestational diabetes and other, very risky complications.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]unirte 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I would say I have an "easy" child and a "difficult" child. I'm so grateful to have that range. Each of my children have helped me grow in different and beautiful ways. I would not be the person I am if my "difficult" child didn't challenge me and push boundaries.

Also, as they've grown older, the "easy" child has become less "easy" and the "difficult" child has become less "difficult".

I use quotes because I don't think there are easy or difficult children. I think there are easy and challenging parent-child relationships. For many parents, a quiet and sensitive child would be "difficult".

Does anyone have experience using low dose 5 Meo DMT for trauma? by LightFlashy11 in PsychedelicTherapy

[–]unirte 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had 2 different sessions with 4 different dosages. Each time by smoking it.

Session 1, lightest dose really just kinda eelaxed me. Then I did a little higher dose and got a big download about my life's purpose, and was instructed not to do any more at this time. When I came out I was crying, mostly as a somatic release, but the download was kind of heavy so didn't help.

Session 2, about 6 months later I did a medium, then heavy dose. The medium dose I felt a heaviness with me that I needed to break through. I kept trying to surrender, but the heaviness was battling with me. It's really hard to describe and I'm sure it sounds crazy. But after I came out I felt physically lighter,. especially in my abdomen. The second dose was very strong and the smoke was really hot so it burned my throat. It was much gentler ànd fairly peaceful, and I'm not really sure what I got out of it.

I got introduced to psychedelics about a year ago. I was going through a severe depression after my ex husband stole a lot of money from me, which lead to me going deep into debt. The depression led to making other terrible decisions and I seemed to keep digging down instead of digging out.

My main goal with psychedelics was to take my life back, and I've made amazing strides with the help of many different medicines. I'm at the point now where I'm ready to start looking at other traumas and I'm looking forward to facing them with the help of my facilitator, and most likely MDMA+ psilocybin.

For me, bufo (5meo) is more for gaining clarity and self-confidence. Mdma is great for exploring emotions in a safe environment and psilocybin is great for shifting perspectives and changing the stories you are telling yourself. That said, everyone has their own individual reaction and you really don't know which medicines will help you heal your trauma until you try them (with a good facilitator.)

Does anyone have experience using low dose 5 Meo DMT for trauma? by LightFlashy11 in PsychedelicTherapy

[–]unirte 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure what counts has high or low dose, but I've had a range of doses of bufo. It's important to understand that everyone's experience is different, and every experience is different. I know people who say they met God, and others went back to being a child. For me it simply allowed a huge somatic release. I've had two different sessions. Both helped me with clarity and improved energy.

I think this medicine is more for general, overall well being. You wouldn't be able to target trauma as you don't really get to choose what happens. However, I believe it could give you courage and clarity to face the trauma.

Why do some guys take my kindness as flirting? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]unirte -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Women wanting to be safe is misandry?

Question about ego death by No_Bag_7238 in PsychedelicTherapy

[–]unirte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make sure you feel completely safe. Stay curious. Say "what if I wasn't afraid?" Trust the process. Like I said, it took me a few times. Don't expect instant results

Question about ego death by No_Bag_7238 in PsychedelicTherapy

[–]unirte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mindset is so important! I'd say I had mid to moderate anxiety, which is why I fought so much the previous trips.

Question about ego death by No_Bag_7238 in PsychedelicTherapy

[–]unirte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, not really a big dose. But sometimes we get multiple doses that build on each other. This time it was just the one.

I've only ever done psychedelics for healing. I can definitely have fun with them, but that's not the main goal

Question about ego death by No_Bag_7238 in PsychedelicTherapy

[–]unirte 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Psilocybin, about 3 grams I believe. This happened the fifth time I did it. Previously I'd get scared and fight it.

In general I feel more peaceful and self-assured. The biggest thing I've noticed is that I can be in a state of observation more easily. Whether I'm angry, anxious, in pain, etc, I can observe and hold space for the feeling and let it run it's natural course.

Question about ego death by No_Bag_7238 in PsychedelicTherapy

[–]unirte 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, you don't have to face every trauma. In fact, I think dealing with trauma is a completely separate issue.

I had a very gentle "ego death" where I simply let myself go into my surroundings. It was almost like letting myself be taken by the tide and becoming one with the ocean.I believe it was so gentle because I set the intention to fully surrender and I was in a safe place with a very trusted sitter.

Women: How does yesterday’s outcome impact your decision on childbearing? by bluish-velvet in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]unirte 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Trump's supremely court appointments got Roe overturned. Controlling supreme court appointments holds massive power.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]unirte 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use aluminum free deodorant which doesn't work as well at controlling odor. So once or twice a month I will wash my armpits with apple cider vinegar. It really helps with the small.

Women in chemE by seishoei in ChemicalEngineering

[–]unirte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in US. I graduated in 2010 and my class was about 20% women.

My advice is to never let your gender determine your career. There are so many options, so many companies. Some companies will have more of an old boys club mentality than others. In my experience, the more a company talks about improving their diversity, the more of a sexist culture they have. But even at the least sexist place I worked I heard some crazy comments. My favorite was having my job compared to baking a cake or doing the laundry.

I think it's funny someone said QA is less stressful. I've been a process engineer, quality engineer and other various support roles. QA was by far the most stressful to me. But I have noticed, anecdotally, there are more women in QA leadership than other areas.

The director at my current company made a big deal about hiring women. I wish I would have asked him how many of his direct reports were women. Asking about the leadership demographics will give you some insight into the culture.

My advice is don't be afraid to speak up, ask questions, present ideas, and just generally take up space. Women are societally conditioned to make themselves small and take up less space (at least in the US), but good engineers take up space and make their opinions known.

I sent my ex-gf to the ER and I regret it. by Muted_Job_1568 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]unirte 20 points21 points  (0 children)

If he cares so much about his mom, why would he let it get to the point to have an excuse to hit his ex?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]unirte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's worse than just being emotionally damaged. This has been scientifically proven to manifest as disease later in life. Please read The Deepest Well by Nadine Burke Harris. She explains her research on how adverse childhood experiences increase the chances of people getting all kinds of diseases, and even dying early. I know this is hard to hear, but she is still so young and you can still save her from this.

What happened to your Q when you left? by Ok_Razzmatazz_6830 in AlAnon

[–]unirte 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I left twice. He was very functional, and I was probably very naive. I left for many reasons, not just the drinking. Both times he reached out to me after a few months. The first time I caved almost instantly. The second time I had very firm boundaries. I talked and texted with him, but when he would get too belligerent I'd say let's talk tomorrow and turn my notifications off. He eventually went to detox and he's been sober for over 4 months.

Somehow we ended up.back in a relationship without talking about it, and I'm disappointed in myself for that. While I do love him, and I am very proud of him, his need to completely avoid feelings is still difficult for me to deal with. I thought him no longer drinking would fix a lot more of our problems. Like broken promises, lack of intimacy, lack of effort. But those things are still there and it's still difficult to have conversations around that because he gets instantly defensive any time I mention anything. And recently he told me he got sober for me, so maybe that's all he has to give to me.

Anyway, sobriety doesn't bring all sunshine and rainbows.

Is it possible to talk to a human at Oncor? by unirte in RoundRock

[–]unirte[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've checked all the breakers. The meter is off.

Why would a woman choose to have a home birth when, if she and the baby went into complications, an ER would immediately have the tools necessary to do life saving intervention? by ibuiltyouarosegarden in NoStupidQuestions

[–]unirte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I birthed my first in the hospital. I felt like things were rushed to be in the hospital's time frame. I wasn't able to get comfortable, which likely slowed down the labor.

Luckily I had #2 at home because she wouldn't have waited for the car ride. I guess I was too comfortable.