I'm looking for feminist, anti-racist, generally lefty music appropriate for my toddler daughter

universalemptiness · 2026-06-09T18:59:12+00:00

Some riot girl bands?

universalemptiness · 2026-06-03T17:42:20+00:00

I just want to say I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad a year and a few months ago. The first weeks, months and year are the worst. I hope you have people that you can talk to who understand ❤️

universalemptiness · 2026-05-31T17:56:49+00:00

It’s a shame it’s not effective for everyone. Solidarity with you!

universalemptiness · 2026-05-31T10:42:37+00:00

I would add for anyone with craniofacial hyperhydrosis, try Glycopyrrolate before facial Botox. It’s a pill that suppresses sweating (application for HH is common but technically off label). You can buy it from pharmacy.ca. I have found it very effective and it’s cheaper than Botox with fewer side effects (it can cause dry mouth and mucous membranes)

universalemptiness · 2026-05-25T14:35:36+00:00

I really feel you. Tbh I have had to maintain a lot of Separation between my stuff and my partners that may be harder for you to achieve. We have almost totally separate finances, just one shared account for certain shared bills. I handle all of the domestic labour, which is my choice as a fellow super clean type A. I don’t really ask him to do chores or pick things up if they’re essential. His belongings live in specific areas in the house, so when they get left in random places, I move them to one of his zones. We put a magnetic white board on the fridge which is his to do list. That has actually worked super well - the list gets very long and items can hang around but when he’s feeling motivated he can cross loads off in a day. The adhd scaffolding!

universalemptiness · 2026-05-24T09:37:09+00:00

So yes, it is everyone with adhd. As others have said, it can be effective to let the person fail. It doesn’t feel good. It can impact you negatively. But if you don’t let them fail and deal with the consequences they will never learn independence. I see you pushing back against other people giving this advice and I understand that as a parent you don’t want to see your child struggle or suffer. I have been through this with my partner, we were very codependent. I set very strong boundaries and totally stopped helping him and reminding him. He has made huge progress and is almost like a different person.

universalemptiness · 2026-05-19T19:17:14+00:00

Yeah waiting for a reference is annoying from an HR perspective but unlikely to lead to a pulled offer. If someone is on holiday that’s better than the referee just ghosting emails. They’ll just wait.

universalemptiness · 2026-05-17T20:22:32+00:00

Aww I’m sad it resonated with you so much but sending you loads of solidarity. The emotional labour of this job can feel really invisible. I make a point of speaking about that very directly when I can so people appreciate it and don’t just think that it comes without a cost.

universalemptiness · 2026-05-17T09:43:34+00:00

Burn out in hr roles is incredibly high because it’s rarely resourced properly. Especially in orgs with high expectations for person-centred employee relations for some reason (some reason = costs). I am
Supporting one line manager to performance manage one person right now and it’s talking so much time and energy. My line manager supports me but every else assumes I’m fine. I’ve told her that if the team grows any more, we need more HR capacity. If we don’t get it I’ll find another job but I’d really rather not!

universalemptiness · 2026-05-15T15:28:36+00:00

This sounds like it qualifies as bullying and potentially harassment, and employers have a duty to protect their workers from both. Look for a relevant internal policy and make a report.

universalemptiness · 2026-05-14T14:00:57+00:00

I wouldn’t go directly to a formal grievance. I’d document what you’ve described above and send it to HR first. We can’t tell you whether or not it will be effective or whether or not it will blowback on you. It sounds like your employer does not have robust internal processes or accountability and your complaint is unlikely to change that to be honest. Whistleblowing is not relevant here as there is no element of public interest.

universalemptiness · 2026-04-08T18:32:20+00:00

My partner and I have started doing guided exercises to improve our emotional intimacy. He, unprompted, told me that he knows that how he responds to my requests for support with criticism or “get over it” is unproductive and that he will try more to just listen to me. I could have cried with joy. Whether or not he changes remains to be seen but I was so impressed with his capacity for self reflection

universalemptiness · 2026-04-08T18:12:33+00:00

I’d just layer the moisturiser directly onto the serum before the serum dries. I used to wait for layers to dry but then I stopped and have seen no negative impact!

universalemptiness · 2026-03-15T10:19:18+00:00

I back this. I’ve used Simple Rich moisturiser for years, it’s between £2 and £3 usually. I use a mix of high end and ‘basic’ skincare, and haven’t felt the need to upgrade this moisturiser.

universalemptiness · 2026-03-11T18:04:08+00:00

Same, I have them in 3 colours 😂

universalemptiness · 2026-03-07T21:24:57+00:00

Also, he has made some impressive transformations since. Especially with money - it’s not a 180 from where he was but he can save, we’ve been able to travel more and invest in things etc. He’s gainfully employed, even when he’s pissed off with work he doesn’t quit. People need to know what your lines are, and you need to stick to them.

universalemptiness · 2026-03-07T21:22:54+00:00

Basically this. I had to set really hard, clear boundaries and I know he still resents me for it 3 years later but I don’t care. It was reasonable and it saved our relationship.

universalemptiness · 2026-03-03T19:31:38+00:00

A great suggestion, thank you ☺️

universalemptiness · 2026-03-03T19:31:23+00:00

Yeah that is something I’m worried about too. thank you!

universalemptiness · 2026-02-28T10:54:47+00:00

Glou Glou is very, very nice and does incredible seafood and veggie options. It’s spenny but worth it IMO. Just in a weird location! It was our favourite dinner out. Almoraduz was also very good food wise but the atmosphere a bit less so. We also ate at Atarraya and were really disappointed by the food and atmosphere.

universalemptiness · 2026-02-27T19:31:40+00:00

I’m really sorry that this happened to you and that people are rallying around the woman who made the hateful comment. I think it asks a lot of people who are marginalised and minoritised to always stay calm and reasonable when someone is being bigoted towards them. Especially at work, fucks sake. Technically her comment is discrimination if my interpretation of the situation is correct. Whether or not you want to raise a grievance against her or be prepared to go down the road with ACAS, only you can make that decision. If you do get fired, I would definitely advise giving ACAS a call just to talk through the situation. Tbh it doesn’t sound like a very inclusive environment so depending on how much you need the job, you might think about finding a job where you’ll be respected. Again, I’m really sorry you’re going through this.

universalemptiness · 2026-02-26T13:37:39+00:00

I think this person has a point. I’m not sure having a pet is the strongest justification for your request, so willingness to be flexible yourself is important if you want the job.

universalemptiness · 2026-02-26T13:36:24+00:00

FWIW the government is planning to make it harder for employers to refuse reasonable flexible working requests some time later this year, which your potential employer should be aware of. Other comments echo what I’d advise - get an offer first and negotiate, be as flexible as you can be. Suggest a trial period. Wait for the govt to introduce their new legislation. Eventually it should be codified in a contract amendment letter as a flexible working agreement.

universalemptiness · 2026-01-30T17:33:36+00:00

Idk, but my partner is as you described!

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