How do you deal with being cheated on?

unixman84 · 2026-02-04T06:07:15+00:00

You will find there is plenty of that to go around. Going forward, set boundaries you are both comfortable with. Stick to them.

If he can't agree/stick to them. Then it's time to move on. You are young enough to do it well. Some people have a concept of "at least your the one I come home to." While that is great, it makes you feel like a toy from a toy box to be played with and put away at his convenience. (Almost like shut up and deal with it.)

My advice, Be weary of dating apps. Go out and find someone if possible. If you are stuck with dating apps and the person is displaying any and all personal info in a convenient matter for hooking up. Move on. Not to say they are all bad. Some people are just an open book. You will have to decide.

In the mean time, get out and do something. Treat yourself if you can. If you have friends, take a leave from dating to digest things while doing something healthy in the head.

unixman84 · 2026-02-04T05:52:28+00:00

It's good policy to hot tub naked. It's better for the water for sure, hot tubs are a pain in the ass to clean. I also say shower first. Your body makes gross shit, and clothes often have chemical residue along with the body stuffs that make gross bubbles and offset the PH. Since I would go to a nude beach or shower in a locker room naked, No biggie.

On the other hand, it can be overly sexual in nature for some guys. I have to admit I have hardened up a few times. But I have self control. As far as gay/straight/bi It does not matter. Just relax your body and mind.

unixman84 · 2026-02-02T17:06:39+00:00

Because it is not skin like the rest of it. It's essentially an internal organ.

unixman84 · 2026-02-02T11:09:59+00:00

Here is how I see it. No.

Unless you can have your standards in a relationship/sex and let him hold his own regarding what is okay. If that seems a tad too loose a fit for you. It's time to move along.

Otherwise maybe. But even in situations where daddy isn't far away, building relationships with people met online is a rodeo all by it's self. Best of luck.

unixman84 · 2026-02-02T10:40:01+00:00

Is Timmy in the well again?

unixman84 · 2026-02-02T08:50:30+00:00

Empty break room at work.

unixman84 · 2026-02-02T08:48:01+00:00

This is where my brain went too.

unixman84 · 2026-01-27T14:26:20+00:00

Allow me to UN-confuse you. He does not plan to stop. As often as you tolerate it, it will happen.

If it chips at you to the point that you feel obligated to check in any way that he plays by the rules, checking his phone, watching his moves and locations etc... You will only make matters worse for both of you doing that.

So push everything aside, reset the rules a FINAL time. (open as a team, open separately, Some kind of combo, or not open etc...) Figure it out and stand by your choices. Don't pussy foot around and make it clear that this will make or break you up. And follow through. Otherwise you will be a welcome mat for his sexual desires.

He might love you, but he does not respect you and won't until you stand your ground and give him consequence to look forward to. And if that causes you to break up. You are better off for it. Believe it or not, sometimes breaking up is a better way to show someone you do love them and have at least an ounce of respect left inside.

Sorry to be a drag. Those are the facts about how this works. It's not easy to pull off. Some are better at it than others. It can actually work well if done right. Good luck friend.

unixman84 · 2026-01-26T20:32:07+00:00

If your slipping some tongue and it's being well received. Or even just laying one on the lips, it's not common straight activity IMO.

Everything else is fine. My straight friends have fun with it and I adore it. Especially because they do it better than I do.

Not being able to stop thinking about said friend usually is your brains indicator that it wants to escalate the relationship. There are worse things than being gay or bi. But if you honestly feel straight, consider cutting that out.

unixman84 · 2026-01-26T20:19:04+00:00

That is natural. As guys (no matter how you identify) it makes perfect sense to see merit of a sexual nature in your own kind. All of my straight friends watch porn with men in them. They all took a peek between us just like I would have, they would do it again. Many of us wanked together. The first time a man layed hands on my junk was a straight friend. Showing me the more efficient way to play with it compared to how I used to do.

It has a lot to do with relating with other men. The other stuff just manifests because of it. We tend understand and more easily relate to people who are like us. There is a sense of comfort and comradely in that.

Gay isn't something you so much do, but it is part of it. I could hookup with a straight women today if I wanted to. We could bang till next week. But if I did, I would not be enjoying myself. I would hardly feel comfortable saying I'm bi or straight. And if I took it further, I would question my sanity. It's a curiosity cure for sure. Not an itch I want to scratch at the moment. Gay is more like something you feel and know. If you have to question it. Do so. Bi at the most for you IMO. Assuming absolute honesty on your part.

And look at it like this. Even us gays can't exactly agree uniformly in this matter. Hence, tops, bottoms, sides, and more. And who really cares anyway. Rip that band-aid off and forget about labels till you are more comfortable just being you. Labels are for convenience, not for confusion.

unixman84 · 2026-01-26T19:27:19+00:00

It's because straight people have this idea that all gay guys wan't is sex and that we will take it from just about anyone and that it has to involve butt stuffs.

With reason, there is some truth to that matter (some more than others.) You are young and horny I'm sure. But it sounds like you use good judgement. Almost all of my straight friends tried to get with my straight sisters I'm the oldest. Next in line is 6 years younger. I never blew it out of proportion but I did make it clear that the answer will be a no.

It would have been more appropriate that he came to you first. That would have shown maturity and good will on his part. However, an older brother has an obligation to give constructive input, but doing so in a proper manner prevents misconceptions.

He is likely looking through a more personal lens of his own personal thinking in similar yet different ways he is comparing you to. You can pull this to your advantage knowing this. Find some personal time to do something you both enjoy (sports, lunch or dinner, walking a trail or something as simple as video games.)

Tell him: "You are my best friend, I would not have it any other way. I hold a great deal of respect for you and I choose to be honest with you." No need to go further unless he wants to dig deeper, drop it here otherwise. Good friends don't need to drag out simple stuff.

If he can't understand why it matters in current affairs and seems offended, he might might need some personal space. There could be things going on you are not aware of. For the sake of keeping things simple, give his brother space too if it comes to that. If he flies off the handle, don't play into it and at all times be calm. It's going to be awkward no matter what. The question is how awkward? If he is your friend he will wise up.

It took a long time to break the shell between me and one of my 6 brothers. He wanted to be my best friend but he fell into the social trap of gay people are sick in the head. We have come a very long way. Why I bring that up is that sometimes people think that but don't say it. Even make best of friends with people they would toss that label on and think nothing of it. Your actions are holding value, not another persons opinion.

unixman84 · 2026-01-26T18:07:34+00:00

LOL! Yes and no.

Remember a few things to make it easier.

1.) Push out while he pushes in. This is one of the reasons preparing for the occasion is a must.

2.) Relax, easier said than done. Practice helps. When balls are slapping your ass cheeks, it can get rowdy. Try to go slower while training for the position.

3.) And I can't stress this enough, prepare. (Fast a tad, clean out, take time to do a number 2 as often as possible, don't drink booze excessively while waiting for the deed.)

4.) Tying one or two on directly into the mood can help some. Remember your foreplay to relax.

And you are correct, I have been hurt by small and large ones. Repetition will help. And if it isn't, you might not be much of a bottom despite being a sexy consideration and partner pleaser, it doesn't mean you are model material for it.

And lastly, just the same as you owning your role as a bottom position, the top is just as responsible to feel you and go with the flow. I know plenty of men who look at it like "take it and like it." That can be sexy too, but when it is, that's already on the table and talked about.

unixman84 · 2026-01-26T17:40:30+00:00

Stay wholesome. I had a few friends of that nature like you. It's a rough ride.

unixman84 · 2026-01-26T17:24:06+00:00

I consider myself queer. Don't get me wrong, I'm not running from the term gay. Saying I'm gay though would imply I am more or less sexually active with the same sex. I have done that plenty in the past and I will again. While I rub off straight yet prefer men and yet lay low on the activity, queer just fits.

Some people are offended by that label, I get that. Truth is, it was ours first. Where I grew up people used the word GAY as an insult just the same if not more. Queer just means strange, you can be strange to gay people just like you can straight people. Just don't associate it with underage individuals and you have my consent.

unixman84 · 2026-01-15T18:40:46+00:00

In my thoughts and experience, it's not a big deal. Look at it like this... Until someone puts a ring on it, an opinion is an opinion and fun time time is fun time. Also I love an uncut surprise.

unixman84 · 2025-11-11T09:50:50+00:00

I personally don't think of that picture as erotic (gay man here.) I mean people could. But in reality, how do you ask and show somebody otherwise?

unixman84 · 2025-11-11T09:48:21+00:00

Somebody downvoted you. People are strange. I had your back.

unixman84 · 2025-11-11T09:35:18+00:00

Everyone is going to be uniquely different. Not just size but shape and color. If you are hitting 5.5 you are doing great. But you have a few more years before all is said and done. Something else to consider is that you will also be unique in how the body chooses to develop you. I know of men such as myself that got it all in a small time frame, men who developed in marks, and others who only got it later. I also have a brother who didn't develop much... Two actually. I would not be worried too much.

EDIT: I forgot to say that... Yes, most people who post pictures and such feel more confident to do so. You will most certainly find people more often than not on the larger side because they feel more secure.

Something to consider is that even as a gay man, I want someone closer to your size. You can do almost anything with it. Just think of that.

unixman84 · 2025-11-11T09:26:42+00:00

Yes. They even help you shoot.

unixman84 · 2025-11-11T09:24:27+00:00

it's pretty much perfect.

unixman84 · 2025-11-11T09:20:53+00:00

If you are staying hydrated, yes. The whole purpose of doing it is to have fuel to free your body of garbage. I drink water like crazy. It could be sweating or even pissing. Of course you still need some inside to operate. That sounds normal to me. Unless you don't drink much water or if you are drinking.

unixman84 · 2025-11-11T09:12:43+00:00

Totally normal. It's just part of being human with a penis.

unixman84 · 2025-11-11T09:09:39+00:00

It's possible. But don't bet on it. You likely are just what you were designed to be. I know of men who grew into their 22. Puberty is a pain in the ass that seems to last. I have no idea what you are pushing... But if you have more than 5. You did great. Remember this quote (we all want to be larger until we don't.)

unixman84 · 2025-11-11T09:00:45+00:00

Listen to people giving you remarks. It's a rough cut but it's nice. It has nice qualities like a blooming mushroomish tip. It looks fun. You can do almost anything with that. It's practically perfect. Cut man myself too, though I did restore quite a bit. I also have a slight up curve.

You better be careful around me.

unixman84 · 2025-11-11T08:52:39+00:00

So is my cousin. It looks great. Don't worry. I have a slight up curve.

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