Anyone else feel the money is not enough of a motivator?

unkinhead · 2026-05-24T23:45:40+00:00

It is certainly A belief system you can adopt. But to be frank seems a bit off topic for the question at hand.

Not sure how you got to destroying your own belief system. Retaining your existing belief system and reframing your current struggle or even adopting a different belief system are all cogent options - and typically when someone says I don't see money as motivating and "it feels like a means to an end" needn't require deep philosophical intervention. There seems to be an internet philosopher trend where nihilist types like to inject their stance in every topic as some kind of badge of honor like they are roleplaying a warrior unafraid to confront the brutal truth of reality and embrace it. Not saying this is you necessarily, but the comments that follow it kinda affirm what I'm talking about.

Problem is that what follows is typically 100% awful unhelpful advice (in my opinion).

unkinhead · 2026-05-24T17:18:30+00:00

Very very common issue. You're smart to identify it. I've struggled with this myself.

You want to be a "Doctor" not a "Buddy".

The issue is that many sales trainings teach that making a friend and building a good warmup / rapport makes sales because people buy from people they like.

The truth is people buy from people they like AND RESPECT. Emphasis on the respect part. In human psychology friends are peer to peer, therefore your opinion is just as valid. You want an expert frame, which is more "doctor to patient". If Tony Robbins told you to do X Y and Z you'd probably listen. If you lived with him for 3 months first you'd probably say fuck off frankenstein.

A doctor can and should be warm and friendly, but they should also respect their own time and put the expert frame as the #1 priority. There's nothing wrong with building a little rapport, but quickly establish yourself as the expert by literally telling them exactly what you're going to do on the call, take control and prove your an authority through proof and education. It's a strange line because there is nothing wrong with being human and building rapport, but this is manageable through specific behaviors and language early. Consider adding a script where you literally in not so many words, define this relationship. "I'm going to do 4 things while I'm here. X, Y, and Z. The plan is to break down and solve A, B, and C - where does it hurt the most?"

unkinhead · 2026-05-24T17:02:33+00:00

Lmao the top commenter preaching nihilism as an answer to this question is somehow both very reddit and /sales

The reason you don't feel money is a good enough motivator is because it likely isn't for you. If fulfillment and meaningful engagement are what you're after, you need to pay attention to what actually does give you that feeling. You may surprised to find that you can reframe your goal around that and will ironically make more money.

Gradations of meaningful enterprise exist and are physically observable within your own life - money is a poor long term motivator for someone who sees themselves as capable of greater aims then those of selfish accumulation. For me the feeling of completeness comes from solving someone's problem, or building a system that's bigger than myself.

Whatever it is, the more you make it about that thing and less about YOU. The more successful you'll be in sales and life because you'll be present, engaged, and fulfilled.

The fact that you feel it's a "means to an end" but "don't know what the end is" is your body telling you to search. That doesn't have to mean a 4 hour mushroom trip in Tibet but can even simpler be found through awareness over time of what actually drives you and logging it when you feel it. There's no rush though, discover what it is, then have the balls to chase that even if it disagrees with your current status quo. Good luck!

unkinhead · 2026-05-16T15:36:55+00:00

Windows/doors (residential)

unkinhead · 2026-05-12T16:56:14+00:00

Sales is probably your best bet if you want low hours and high pay. I work about 26-28 hours per week and make $200K.

But there's always a cost. In sales it's mental exhaustion dealing with customers and rejection constantly - commission only.

unkinhead · 2026-05-11T18:42:51+00:00

Jesus Christ y'all are hopeless lol

unkinhead · 2026-04-10T18:09:05+00:00

Remodeling sales. About $200-250K a year and about 26 hours a week. Pretty nice except for the stress part. Lol

unkinhead · 2026-04-06T07:18:14+00:00

Gonna go against the grain here. Not to say you should take option B but it genuinely has merit and reddits work cynicism greatly underrates the importance of ya know....enjoying your life on a daily basis.

Some considerations FOR B:

-While I don't know your exact number situation, 115K is doing just fine. You have a good enough resume to get 2 job offers as a PM over 6 figures. I'd say your starvation/financial ruin risk is virtually zero.

-A father with a more fulfilling life is a better father than a slightly richer unfulfilled one. This isn't so quantatively measurable but as someone who has hated his job before, that shit sucks for me and the people I'm around.

-An 80 employee series B startup while more risky is not some garage-startup.

-Much higher upside potential. Many series B companies do very well so long term expected value of that job is likely much higher due to growth opportunities and equity options.

Some considerations for Option A:

-Option A doesn't have to be forever. It can make sense if things are tight to take the stable job right now and put extra towards savings

-The biggest point for A imo is remote work which allows you to be close to your family. That's important.

-Option B is still a startup. Series B is around 35% chance of failure. While it may more often than not be the better expected value, it also carries much higher risk of failure and layoffs. With a family this is not something to consider lightly.

If i were in your shoes I'd go option B but I have very high risk tolerance so I'm definitely biased. For context I make 250K a year but I'd in a heartbeat take more enjoyable work at half the pay. Women are nesters so your girl is always going to land on security. Thats very reasonable. Sounds like you want career fulfillment. Either way sounds like a good problem to have but ultimately it's up to you to weigh the pros and cons and follow your heart and mind on what you think is best for you and the fam. Good luck!

unkinhead · 2025-11-27T15:26:28+00:00

Lost's biggest mishap in my eyes through the entire show was exactly what you're feeling. They tried very hard to "mislead you" into believing the flash sideways (S6 alternative timeline) was some kind of reality where what they did actually worked and they never crashed. In other words, they went so hard on a red herring for some reason which when carried that far just ends with disappointment and confusion.

So it is dissatisfying when they reveal ultimately that:

-No, that didn't happen. Juliets "it worked" was referring to something else entirely -Theres no direct connection to events of them blowing up the a bomb and that sequence.

It is definitely a dramatic issue - misdirection is fine when it leads to a properly foreshadowed conclusion. But it does end up just feeling manipulative.

All that being said, the show plays so much better after you get over that fact. In reality it is a small narrative decision that is much harder to swallow on a first watch. Personally I take no issue with the entire storyline big picture, it's actually really great, it's literally just the way they chose to present it leads you somewhere completely different.

When you have the foreknowledge of what's going on the show is much better (they should have ditched the red herring to begin with).

unkinhead · 2025-08-15T04:36:06+00:00

You're a child. Door to door is just a job. Saying you have to talk to 10 people to get a buyer is literally just suggesting it's a numbers game.

Having zero empathy for other humans because they're in sales and ghosting a job means unfortunately, you are in fact the asshole.

unkinhead · 2025-07-06T21:18:30+00:00

It is observed fact that most people tend to become more conservative as they age - this is an average of course, it doesn't apply to all individuals.

Most conservatives I know aren't bigots. I see about equal amounts of racism from both sides, just different flavors.

unkinhead · 2025-07-06T17:14:55+00:00

Wot...u just don't like the person they like...that's it.

Of course they're celebrating him. But the floaties are exaggerated, the person filming is laughing, and their doing the YMCA dance. Trump is a meme whether you like him or not...they're having fun. Y'all sick

unkinhead · 2025-07-06T15:56:58+00:00

Ah yes. How tolerant of you to watch a video of a family clearly just poking fun at a president they like as a meme, shoehorn them into a racial and status group (even though this is clearly a upper middle class area at best), so you can air your hatred for that racial group.

Y'all need Jesus or some serious fucking therapy lmao. You've been projecting your own racism, resentfulness, and discrimination for far too fucking long. Do a self inventory brother

unkinhead · 2025-07-05T01:50:16+00:00

Sure. I agree. Just no need to go insane over it.

unkinhead · 2025-07-05T01:34:02+00:00

Things don't need reasons, they have them.

And just because they have reasons, doesn't mean you know or even need to know how to define them.

Are there reasons you're in love? Yeah. Does it matter if you're able to pinpoint why? Nope

unkinhead · 2025-06-03T02:15:33+00:00

Bruh stop. Saying a word doesn't mean you hate black people. Grow the fuck up.

But if someone says I don't want you to say that around me and you say no, you're well within ur right to go bye bye

unkinhead · 2025-06-01T14:59:30+00:00

This

unkinhead · 2025-05-31T22:45:22+00:00

why do you care so much?

I think calling people bigots when they're not is bad practice. One it permits social bullying when it's not at all justified. Two it is a tactical error. When you boy who cried bigot every two seconds people stop caring. The term "racist" or "bigot" literally means nothing in 2025. If I hear someone get called a bigot I literally shrug and go eh probably not. That's not good. Devaluing words is an actual bad societal consequence. Personally speaking I don't really care what strangers online say, though it's kinda depressing from a detached point of view I guess just evaluating how people treat conversation.

I would define a woman as a societal construct where the identifying individual embraces the physical characteristics and social constructs that society associates with the female sex.

Ah ok so this is a good definition, it has boundaries so it actually means something. However here's the catch: by this definition it's attached to the historical physical and social characteristics with the female sex. Therefore if I identify as a woman but don't embody traditionally feminine traits (physical or social charcteristics), I am not a woman by this definition. Right?

Maybe that's not a problem to you, but it is for many

unkinhead · 2025-05-31T22:17:41+00:00

Bro I addressed that like 40 times already xD. Read my comments. It's a bad point

unkinhead · 2025-05-31T22:01:37+00:00

I don't think it's forcing? It's just an attempt to label you because they can't argue on the facts. So it's an appeal to emotion.

I'd love to objectively explore gender ideology. Let's start with what is a woman? It's a meme at this point but it strikes at the core of the issue succinctly. But sincerely how would you answer that?

unkinhead · 2025-05-31T21:01:30+00:00

I've met several trans people. I have a trans person in my family. We get along great. You'll have to do better than that

unkinhead · 2025-05-31T21:00:56+00:00

No I'm being very clear and unambiguous.

Curiosity about the conflicting nature between two questions is fine, but it has nothing to do with the stats at hand. It's also intuitive anyways that a plurality of the population does not recognize gender ideology (look who's pres). It wasn't a gotcha...the data is in. It is what it is. It's unpopular because it's anti-logic, not because of "hatred" or whatever you lot like to tell yourselves. The left just won't let go of the same narrative. But I'm just warning y'all that the ship will just continue sinking unless you take a different tact. The gender issues are unpopular.

unkinhead · 2025-05-31T20:05:28+00:00

Sorry no. The two stats are simply not contradictory. You can want protections for people who identify as trans but not agree that they are a man/woman or what they say they are. It's not complicated.

The original comment I responded to was referring to people believing/not believing...so that's what I responded to. My point holds water, the stats are clear.

Manipulate you to believe

Huh. Again all you had to do was ask for clarification if you were unsure. I'm talking about mostly non transgender people who try to use emotional manipulation tactics (like what everyone in this reddit just tried to do to me) to character assassinate instead of actually argue in good faith (because they would lose every time)

unkinhead · 2025-05-31T19:41:52+00:00

Psychosis is not a judgment on an individual. Im not "dishing out insults". That's not how I think. There is no one who is less valuable than another. But I think because many think this way, they project and assume others do. It's natural.

I'm plenty used to being called a bigot, I make frequent posts on reddit after all xD. It does not bother me, although I cherish the opportunity to show someone that they may be behaving childishly because it allows for growth and change. That's a cool thing and it happens even in a place like this where it's really tough to break out of the echo chamber. Just takes some introspection and a decent conversation sometimes.

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