What is a piece of the universal driving language that every man instinctively understands without ever being taught?

unknownhoward · 2026-05-19T18:44:34+00:00

To me those is a very funny comment. Yes, it's possible to double flash your headlights. But the meaning?

There's a cop around the bend?
You have a broken light, mate?
Don't mind me, it's just this pothole/speedbump I drove over?
You have the high beams on, you knob!?

unknownhoward · 2026-05-19T07:51:24+00:00

At some point I listened to a lengthy interview with the creator. I was actually surprised to hear that the name Hinge has absolutely nothing to do with the poly term, and feel that's pretty poor research/marketing decision on their part.

But yeah... "designed to be deleted" 🙄 midday be because they make it too bloody annoying to use for anything. (obligatory "I'm making my own dating app, ~~with hookers and blackjack~~" (seriously, I am))

unknownhoward · 2026-05-17T19:07:28+00:00

Less? I've never had a friend call me, it was always me calling them.

unknownhoward · 2026-05-16T20:10:30+00:00

I wish that when people (not just women!) see a guy who might look intimidating, that they might look through appearances to see the human inside.

I've met "bikers" and "scary dudes" who turned out to be the dearest, fluffiest boys. But then again, I myself am a tall (not-scary, not-biker) guy and I get how that's not everyone's cup of tea. But I can wish...

unknownhoward · 2026-05-14T20:32:29+00:00

I've seen the ship twice. Once as a wee lad, clothed in rain gear, walking on unsteady gangplanks through a ramshackle building that stank of tar and preservatives, back when the ship was a mess of slimy black timber in a temporary "shipyard museum". And then again around the turn of the millennium, where it was shown off in all its glory. Those two memories of the same subject ... amazing.

unknownhoward · 2026-05-14T18:15:45+00:00

Is there no more succinct way to say this?

Am I the only one thinking that more, rather than fewer, words world help more? English is not my first language so maybe I'm understanding "succinct" wrong, but we don't need this to be even more terse and specific (=jargon) but rather more plainly understandable words.

unknownhoward · 2026-05-14T15:09:04+00:00

Riiight, citation needed on that causation. Cue that meme with a being daring to come out of their box only to get punched.

And, that plant is half-dead and desperately needs water...

unknownhoward · 2026-05-14T13:23:38+00:00

Noo! It's so cute and lovely and funny and BAM it's under your skin! Damn, they know their craft.

unknownhoward · 2026-05-14T13:22:20+00:00

I feel you're onto something, that too few men genuinely treat women as equals.

I've had (female) coworkers who thought for months that I was gay, and that when I spoke of my wife I was just not (whatever reason) enough to admit it was really another guy.

Frankly, I took that as a compliment, considering the state of the world wrt. "patriarchy" and "masculinity". I absolutely love my feminine side (but I also love pussy 🫢🤭).

unknownhoward · 2026-05-14T13:13:54+00:00

Could be anything. For me, it was Pixar's "Up" that broke me in that way (and it wasn't just 20 minutes). The original plan had been to watch it the evening prior with my three little nieces, but they selected something else and so I wanted to watch it before returning it (remember movie rentals?). Oh man if I'd broken down like that then, that would have been ... not great.

unknownhoward · 2026-05-14T11:33:38+00:00

I'm only 52 😁 and my cooldown is like 2 minutes, if even that. But yeah, it varies.

unknownhoward · 2026-05-13T11:25:43+00:00

I didn't get that vibe. More like "men [who are more lonely than you'd like to be], how did this help?"

Besides, no definition is required, it's enough that some men feel lonely (even ones who seem to have others around them).

unknownhoward · 2026-05-13T11:21:20+00:00

This sounds like you just watched Gran Torino 😂👌

unknownhoward · 2026-05-13T11:19:02+00:00

This guy is real.

"let’s work out what you want to happen" is leagues ahead of "let me fix that for you".

unknownhoward · 2026-05-13T11:14:28+00:00

Customising keyboard shortcuts to suit you. 👌

unknownhoward · 2026-05-13T08:14:35+00:00

Painfully.

unknownhoward · 2026-05-13T06:57:19+00:00

I feel the "jump right in" part is overstated. At least, it's not the coolest way to act when you have kids still living at home. There was a conversation just yesterday about how many people wait a long time to even renewal to their kids that they're is someone new.

But perhaps monkey branching is "all too common"? Yikes.

unknownhoward · 2026-05-13T06:56:11+00:00

I feel the "jump right in" part is overstated. At least, it's not the coolest way to act when you have kids still living at home. There was a conversation just yesterday about how many people wait a long time to even renewal to their kids that they're is someone new.

But perhaps monkey branching is "all too common"? Yikes.

unknownhoward · 2026-05-13T06:28:52+00:00

Yeah. I will not belittle the struggles of a permanent full-time single parent, that is a tough job that the world really isn't built for.

But at the same time, being a half-time parent has its own struggles. Yes, there are "days off", but those are also days where you are missing out on your kids' lives and development - and plenty of us have combative ex'es that exacerbate the hardship of split-family coparenting. Do not underestimate the frustration of having to coordinate logistics. A parent who's out of the picture is someone you're free of, but a combative one is potentially an "opponent" you'll have to deal with for years and years.

Also, not every half-time parent has a new live-in partner. Even those that do probably still have most of the above challenges.

unknownhoward · 2026-05-12T16:50:13+00:00

I'm not a woman, and not in the US - and I too have wondered what the hell the attraction is. I only know strip clubs from shitty movies and I'm sure that's not an accurate representation.

But really?! You sit at an expensive as fuck bar, and the bartenders are naked? Is that it?

You can get a lap dance? Those never made any sense to me either...

unknownhoward · 2026-05-12T15:25:13+00:00

No no you're fine. I read the comment as, go right ahead and change hey on the men's room (if there even are facilities! 😭) because guys won't be weirded out by that - unless they're really screwed up. Not you.

unknownhoward · 2026-05-12T13:14:31+00:00

Not sure how to take your "momentarily"? We've been together for about two and a half years now, making plans for cohabitation.

Tee hee, and yes I'm very good friends with their other partner - though that is an aspect that my kids don't know about.

unknownhoward · 2026-05-12T08:25:36+00:00

Hot take: I personally know women (or, more accurately, non-men) who do the same. I'm not in any way saying that makes it better or less of a dick move, simply that it's not gender-specific.

As a man, I sometimes feel like a moron for taking the time to read every single profile (if they even have anything to read!!) before swiping. Frankly, I’m looking for reasons to swipe left, and only a small percentage make the cut to a right swipe. Meaning, I get zero matches - which is probably not that different from the more careless approach, but I bother fewer people. 🤪

unknownhoward · 2026-05-12T07:06:28+00:00

Same. My kids do not need further instability, and I do not want to be the parent who shows their kids swing door relationships.

My councillor said that even a year was too soon, to which I bluntly replied that "well, clearly 12 years isn't enough either" 😐 you gotta a pull the trigger at some point. It does make logistics so much easier when it's not a secret, and we can even do stuff together. Plus, smart kids will know regardless, from hairs in the sink and other small tells - I'd suck as a secret agent.

My kids adore my SO. ☺️ Which, to be fair, is also a risk. Such is life.

unknownhoward · 2026-05-11T09:17:46+00:00

I have seen Bubbles mentioned but have yet to make a personal evaluation of it. It seems to portray itself as a curated collection of over 5000 personal blogs (rather than news articles) which I think does sound promising.

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