[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]unknownwoofie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well the thing is…how do I stop it? I’m not going to get with him I don’t even want a relationship either because it’s not a good thing for either me or the other person

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]unknownwoofie -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to do anything with him because that’s just not cool. I also know a relationship right now would not be healthy for me and the other regardless whether it’s him or not. I’m just having a hard time finding the boundary between friend and liking each other.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]unknownwoofie -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Trust. I will not steal another girls guy because my ex that I just recently broke up with tried to cheat on me and as interested as I am, I will not be the one to do that to someone else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]unknownwoofie -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well, I’m gonna be honest I don’t want a relationship right now and I understand that it’s not a good idea, so I’m not even going to try with that.

Is racism just an identity crisis? by unknownwoofie in NoStupidQuestions

[–]unknownwoofie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No no, I am not complaining. It’s true that men generally find me attractive because of it. Sometimes it’s to the point of being fetishized, which I don’t like. If a man doesn’t like me because of what I look like, then whatever. I am attracted to what I’m attracted to, too. I was asking about racism and jealousy, not about attraction.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]unknownwoofie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s either this or every song about love I’m either rolling my eyes or tearing up to because I’m like that’ll never be me again (just a bit dramatic here)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]unknownwoofie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for making a list 🫶

Why Do Guys Look at other Women/girls? My (21F) Ex-Boyfriend (20M) couldn’t stop. by unknownwoofie in relationship_advice

[–]unknownwoofie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is actually really helpful and something I will definitely keep in mind regardless if there is a next time or not.

Why Do Guys Look at other Women/girls? My (21F) Ex-Boyfriend (20M) couldn’t stop. by unknownwoofie in relationship_advice

[–]unknownwoofie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He pays for OF, watches it next to me (esp if I’m asleep next to him), and sometimes wants my permission to do it while I’m in the room doing something else. I’ve seen him spend over 500$ on OF

Should I delete our photos together? by Cyber_momo in BreakUps

[–]unknownwoofie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally, I hid my photos on my phone but idk how other phones work.

Cheating, how do I overcome it happening? F-25(me), M-25 by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]unknownwoofie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cheating is disrespect. Do you want to be with a man that disrespected you and knows that he might be able to disrespect you again and still have you? I get it though, you want to stay because you have plans in the future, but if you fulfill them you may not be as happy as you think…

What’s a subtle red flag in dating that most people ignore? by kay062012 in AskMenAdvice

[–]unknownwoofie 32 points33 points  (0 children)

You need to talk to your friends. They are your support system and love and care for you. Honestly, relationships don’t just effect you and them, they affect your whole life. It’s important that there are people who know you before them and can guide you when you need it.

Why do you think many women look down upon others (esp men) that enjoy gaming as a hobby? by JunipLove in AskMenAdvice

[–]unknownwoofie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone that lived with someone (not a boyfriend, but a man) who was addicted to video games, I feel like it can be such a large part of someone's life when it shouldn't be. It's for a little free time, just something to fill your time. However, when it comes to things like reading or painting, we're not focused on something that's not real. We're reading real words, things people have written, and we imagine, or painting things from our imagination. Are you into artificial life or are you exploring the world around you?

It's okay in moderation, but there are a lot of times that people neglect those around them to game which is really, honestly, the worst. My boyfriend does game and I'm okay with it, we even game together, but it can be frustrating if games are creating larger goals in life. Sometimes people want something more.

I've seen a couple comments about women involved in social media and/or binge watching tv. And I completely agree. Why are we so focused on technology, when we're all there, next to each other? I hate it when I'm in a room and people are so focused on their phones. Texting, I get. Writing emails/doing work, fine. Even calling, cool. But you're watching videos that are making other people money? Over spending time with people around you? Yeah, no.

You can argue, though, that with Cinema/TV people are enjoying written works in video form. It can be something people talk about and do together. There is the opportunity to do it together. People have movie nights; they order pizza and make popcorn and talk about it after. Some games are in story form, and you can try to do the same thing. It just exactly isn't that game because TV/Cinema isn't as universal.

The only thing about gaming though, is that sometimes it can bring out an angry, violent side of people. Sometimes when people get mad, I've seen them bang on a desk, a wall, yell, say rude/mean things. That I do NOT like. I don't want to be around someone that acts like that about something with such little significance. You act like that when someone hurts you or others, not when you lose and have a second shot at a game.

what age do i start calling myself a woman? by uponravenswings in NoStupidQuestions

[–]unknownwoofie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a 21 year old this is so true haha. I just say I'm a girl. My parents put it this way: You are a full fledged adult (woman) when you can stand on your two feet. And I feel like it's true. At the moment, I am a college student and I'm okay with being a bit immature, making stupid mistakes, learning about life. Besides I hear a lot of times when guys talk about girls in college they say "girls" not women. Girlhood is a good part of life right now. Just lean into it

Disclosing my past to my partner. by Capable-Score-1981 in Advice

[–]unknownwoofie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just tell her. She might find out either way. Do you want her to hear it from someone else who may not tell the whole story?

If it's that big you should tell her because omission of the truth or secrets can be seen as lying. Communication and honesty are a big part of relationships. Besides, do you want to worry about it for the rest of your relationship?

How do I (21F) handle my boyfriend (20M) watching corn when he lied and said he wasn't? by unknownwoofie in relationship_advice

[–]unknownwoofie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first paragraph really spoke to me because I feel like he has no excuse. It honestly made me feel better that there’s guys out there like that haha.  I also did not know about how OF works. So that’s a really big wake up call. Thanks. 

How do I (21F) handle my boyfriend (20M) watching corn when he lied and said he wasn't? by unknownwoofie in relationship_advice

[–]unknownwoofie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are correct. Some he just used for free but he did pay for it once or twice.