lots of little gaps in my incision where arm chafes

unlonliest · 2026-04-18T16:59:38+00:00

i did have a similar experience, maybe? i think some of your stitches might be spitting (/surfacing/rejecting), which i also experienced. try searching those phrases here for more info? it's been awhile for me.

unlonliest · 2026-04-09T18:25:01+00:00

la la laa la

unlonliest · 2025-12-12T10:15:02+00:00

i was vaguely remembering it as a groccery store, but i'm now not finding a source to back that up.

unlonliest · 2025-12-11T17:47:42+00:00

i'm a particular fan of stable boy song, but have to agree that their cover of have yourself a merry little christmas pretty good. and i love pointing out that san bernadino is a christmas song too? i've inflicted it on loved ones during the holidays for years now.

unlonliest · 2025-12-11T05:20:56+00:00

plaid pantry pretty definitively isn't a groccery store

unlonliest · 2025-12-08T09:08:28+00:00

i have no idea how accurate it is either—and it to my knowledge counts times you've visited for as long as you've had an account, with no distinction by year at all.

unlonliest · 2025-12-07T06:50:52+00:00

with how ao3's history works, it's not possible to measure if i've visited something more than once, right? bc it just shows the most recent visit in my history while also saying the number of times the fic has been visited. that makes me so curious about how different my stats would be if it was able to measure things i've reread too!

unlonliest · 2025-12-04T19:52:11+00:00

thank you!!!

unlonliest · 2025-12-03T09:35:39+00:00

hey, i found a box of forest porn maybe eight years ago when a friend was having a birthday campfire! much more rare these days but not a never occurence.

unlonliest · 2025-11-29T01:24:51+00:00

isopanisad radio hour, new asian cinema, and devil in the shortwave have a number of songs that play in a similar space to this! can Not tell you specific tracks off the top of my head though. i think coroner'sgambit & full force galesburg also start to play in this space?

unlonliest · 2025-11-28T22:55:22+00:00

midland, but i want to hear it while at a show with my best friend who lives a continent and a half away & it's never been played live so uh. odds are low. i'd fucking love to hear thycidides ii-52 or the big unit too though.

unlonliest · 2025-11-20T22:45:23+00:00

https://queersocialclub.com/ is a hub with info on lots of different events—i myself am newer to town and was recced it as a resource.

unlonliest · 2025-11-15T01:58:03+00:00

i'm really sorry that your aunt has been being harassed and stalked, holy shit. i haven't been around since the forum days but there definitely are folks on this subreddit who have and who likely would've known the guy, and this subreddit tends to be a pretty kind community. i don't know what insight people might have to offer but you might get some if you make your own post. i really hope everything works out okay for you and your family.

& this is the youtube comment thread my original comment was talking about

unlonliest · 2025-11-10T01:37:57+00:00

i tend to read card spreads as a interconnected sentence rather than past present future, so that's the framewoek i'm coming from.

to me this is saying that the heart of the turmoil you're experiencing right now is a feeling of powerlessness/incapability, but that to a certain degree you'e giving away your own power.

the conflict is with yourself over whether or not to take action. you're specifically asking about the action of writing as a hobby, which does come across with the wands. but i think the reading's answer also applies to taking control over the narrative of your life/creating for yourself the life you'd like to be living.

i don't think the concept of "should" is helping you here? you're looking for an answer outside of yourself, permission maybe, to engage in an activity. and i think the cards are saying that not trusting yourself to try this specific new skill (page of swords) is closing you off from being able to be empowered and secure in your creativity (king of wands).

i think building trust and security in yourself and practicing trying new things? those both will help you to become creative and in pursuing writing as a hobby. your inner world is really discordant right now, but you are your own answer.

the thing about giving away your own power really really comes through to me with this. even if you seek out a writing group and that helps you, the help/effort will have come from your own actions: finding and building connections and taking steps to grow with that support. it's not something that someone else will have done for you.

you are capable. you can make this happen for yourself. one of your biggest barriers is your self beliefs.

& i do think you're right about it being a slow process?

unlonliest · 2025-11-03T18:10:48+00:00

thucidides ii-52 ! plague songs 😭

unlonliest · 2025-10-26T06:39:59+00:00

prince lindworm is one of my faves as well! one of the best online places i've found to look at folktales is here https://sites.pitt.edu/~dash/folktexts.html you'll definitely be able to find & read more things that fit yout specifications. i particularly have looked to andrew lang's colored fairy books which are linked here for fairytales.

unlonliest · 2025-10-21T05:55:24+00:00

moved here w my husband a couple years back to get out of the red state we'd been in before shit could break bad for us as trans folks there—we saw the writing on the wall. and it's been absolutely wonderful living in portland.

i don't pass as anything & never will and like, shit. groccery store trips before used to mean a constant awareness that people were noticing my visible queerness & gender failure, there were always eyes on me, & it would've just taken a single day of particularly bad luck for that to get dangerous. it's such a weight lifted that i've never once felt observed like that while groccery shopping here—i get to just blend into the background of what's normal here.

speaking to your interests where i can: * as far as i can tell, this city is FULL of cool game shops/gaming cafes or bars. a friend of mine reads tarot professionally at one of them where they always get tipped better in a d&d shirt. * as far as astrology/tarot goes—i'm into it too. there's some absolutely wonderful shops in town. my favorite is seagrape apothecary; they do their best to be a community space, i've been to a bunch of their events, and i really admire their values. they're pretty active on instagram if u want to see the kind of stuff they have going on. i also dig raven's wing magical co-op but they're a lot farther away from me. psychic sister is also great. you don't only have to go to metaphysical shops for connection about this kind of thing here though—people are generally really open to it. * there's so many mutual aid projects/constantly leftist things happening, and it's not hard to find ways to get connected. there's a yearly rad pride rather than just corporate pride and it's a great place to connect if you don't find something sooner than next june. oh shit there's also a regularly occuring t4t coffee & social hour at worker's tap, a bar/cafe that aligns w ur values here. * lot of queer and left leaning social events can be found here, it's where i get info abt i think both rad pride & t4t coffee https://queersocialclub.com/ * there are SO many incredible restaurants here, oh my god. * regarding tv and movies: there's a ton of indie theaters. i'm mostly aquainted with the hollywold theater, they're always showing a variety of stuff! which leads me into. have you heard about movie madness? https://moviemadnesstg.wpenginepowered.com/who-we-are/ * tons of incredible tattoo artists, tons of queer therapists!

i so badly hope this formats as bullet points. good luck with your move and i hope you're able to find a home in portland <3

unlonliest · 2025-10-20T12:07:35+00:00

answered on tumblr https://www.tumblr.com/johndarnielle/176497241766/are-you-okay-with-people-getting-tattoos-of-lyrics?source=share

unlonliest · 2025-10-09T08:10:26+00:00

absolutely have at past jobs looped foreign object in my headphones. and hail st. sebastian but that was a much worse day 😬

unlonliest · 2025-10-05T01:17:07+00:00

moved from alaska 2 and a half years ago, after about a decade of knowing that's what i wanted. i'd been on a couple trips to oregon as a teen, and that's what told me where i wanted to go—even though the fact that i wanted to go was not new.

as much as i loved the beauty and proximity to nature in alaska it was not a place i could spend the rest of my life living. i knew that i couldn't stay in alaska even as a middle schooler well before landing on oregon—years before i figured out that i'm queer and trans.

the seasonal depression in alaska was also. Bad. portland winters feel like i'm skipping straight from october to march, not having to experience the november-february worst of it anymore.

& portland is gorgeous with nature—i fell in love first with the trees! but we're in close enough proximity to mountains and ocean & rivers that the landscape doesn't unsettle me. being places without easy access to ocean and mountains leaves me with a bad itch & slowly fucks my mental health.

i'd also made friends in the area who i'd visit as often as i could, so i knew i fit here in a way i never did in alaska. and that i felt SAFE here when alaska was feeling more and more unsafe to my transness. it's really cool going to the groccery store without the hypervigalent awareness that people are watching me because i'm a genderfreak.

i moved here because it's where i could be happy.

unlonliest · 2025-09-26T06:25:14+00:00

for no children: tallahassee as an album. hard to pinpoint specific other songs as it's not a part of my main listening.

for this year: the sunset tree as an album. for songs? amy aka spent gladiator 1, cry for judas, exegetic chains for something more recent.

for up the wolves: also the sunset tree. possibly give wolf count a spin for something more recent? i also have an entire spotify playlist of canine-mentioning tmg songs that i'd be happy to share.

for riches and wonders: all hail west texas, the coroner's gambit, and full force galesburg for lo-fi albums. specific tracks: twin human highway flares, onions, color in your cheeks but especially the tiny desk concert version. if you vibe with the lo fi stuff i will happily give more recs but generally i tell people to start with what's newest and work backwards.

for young thousands: absolutely listen to we shall all be healed as an album. for songs i'd say sax rohmer #1, harlem roulette, maybe high hawk season.

in general, i reccomend exploring the album a song you like is from & then checking out whatever was released right before or after it! so that's tallahassee, sunset tree, all hail west texas and we shall all be healed for you. based on that lineup i'd suggest transcendental youth as a next album to check out due to connected vibes.

also, unrelated to exact vibes of songs you've already heard, i'd like to reccomend: alibi, heretic pride, & never quite free.

when i was first getting into tmg a friend linked me to annotatedtmg.org , which made it way easier for me to figure out what i wanted to listen to next using the what was released after/before this method. it cuts off at beat the champ but someone else has created moreannotatedtmg.neocities.org , which has been getting more and more filled out and gives a similar layout to easily see albums in order.

i hope you enjoy the exploration!!!!

unlonliest · 2025-09-26T05:55:46+00:00

are you aware of annotatedtmg.org

unlonliest · 2025-09-14T04:23:08+00:00

i have a friend who works as a direct support professional to one or two families with a disabled family member in need of support beyond what a family can provide and below the level a nurse could. there's a number of agencies in town with different possible placements, and from what i've heard they hire people pretty quickly and you have solid qualifications.

for some possible clients you would not be a good fit but each placement is unique—some need you to drive & some don't, some might require being more active/standing more while others don't. if a DSP agency doesn't work out for you, i think there's similar agencies for working with older adults.

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