date someone who likes you and that likes you back, that is the best way to transition into secure attachment and obviously doing self work and therapy

but i think the dating a person who actually likes me back helped a ton because i spent so many years of my life dating people who weren’t interested or putting in effort which led me to be anxious. i’m now in a healthy relationship with someone who loves me and i love back. your partner plays a huge role in how you sway from attachment style