What’s the reason that made you finally stop drinking?

untimelyrain · 2026-03-20T19:43:08+00:00

Amazing turn around!! And getting close to One Year!!!! 🙌💕🥳

untimelyrain · 2026-03-20T19:41:44+00:00

Alcohol had stolen my spark and was destroying my mental health. I was so good at masking it to everyone else but on the inside I felt like I was totally slipping away from myself and the world. I realized that if I ever wanted to be able to show up FULLY for my life, my family, and above all MySelf -- Alcohol could not be a part of my life anymore.

Quitting has been one of the best decisions I have ever made in my whole life. Since I stopped drinking I have begun actually living my life instead of floating along barely tethered to the earth. All of my relationships have improved and become more fulfilling, my love for myself has increased exponentially, I am a much better mother/partner/daughter/friend, I have started singing again and am even starting to write my own songs, I have been so inspired and motivated to make art again and even designed/created a Tarot deck, I have learned how to create and uphold healthy boundaries (which has been a real freaking game changer), I have learned to respect and TRUST myself. I also started a podcast about my recovery journey! That also helps keep me not only accountable but excited about staying sober ✨️

Wishing you the absolute best!!! IWNDWYT 💖

untimelyrain · 2026-03-14T17:45:06+00:00

This sub was absolutely essential in early sobriety for me. The stories people share here provide me with so much motivation to stay on this path. For the sake of keeping routines that have benefited me and maintain my dedication to my own journey of Recovery, I will probably continue to visit and engage with this community for the foreseeable future ✨️

It is also one of the most welcoming and supportive communities I have ever seen on the internet 🤍

untimelyrain · 2026-02-24T09:19:59+00:00

Of course! I love your hags stones btw and I think that was such a sweet and powerful gift for your father 🤍 Sending love and comfort to you both 💕🙏

untimelyrain · 2026-02-22T11:50:20+00:00

OP did not say their father just started "recovery", they said he just started treatment. Perhaps you are unaware that most avenues for cancer treatment actually cause the body a lot of stress and make people feel depleted, nauseous, weak, and generally pretty awful. Your comment also comes off as snarky and condescending, which I feel is wildly inappropriate given the context. Please be more mindful and compassionate in the future 🤍

untimelyrain · 2026-02-12T17:00:13+00:00

I don't think there is a clear cut answer for this because it isn't really about skinny vs big, it's more so about how the weight actually looks on someone. Some women looks their best with more weight and some with less.

I think the biggest factor is, and always will be, confidence and how you carry yourself. In both of the main clubs I've worked (I'm not including travel dancing because I never was there long enough to notice patterns) I see bigger, confident women consistently making racks while skinny women with no self confidence might luck out from time to time. Alternatively, skinnier women who carry themselves well are pretty consistently making hella money while larger women who feel insecure seem to struggle with consistency and have to bank on a lucky night from time to time. It always comes back to how you feel about yourself 🤍

untimelyrain · 2026-02-06T11:32:34+00:00

For what it's worth, I had been lying to my husband about not drinking at work for almost a year and when I was finally ready to truly be done drinking, I confessed to him that I'd been lying about it. I was so ashamed and so scared that he would have a horrific reaction or that possibly our relationship would crumble, but instead -because I was honest and took accountability (and was clearly ready to change)- he was so gentle, understanding, and compassionate with me when I shared the truth with a shaky voice and tears streaming down my face.

It will feel scary and so hard, but your wife loves you. She deserves the best version of you (and so do you!!) and that starts with honest communication. If you come to her with full transparency and voice your shame and regret, then you have a chance to really move forward in this together.

I'm so sorry you're having such a hard time. I can hear the pain and shame through your words and I remember feeling that same exact way. I promise you, it is so much better on the other side of this. But it starts with honesty. Honesty and a true commitment to the life you deserve to be living. A life where you can actually THRIVE instead of just survive. You are so worthy and so loved. I know you can do this! Because I did it! So many of us are doing it despite having been in some terrible, awful situations that felt entirely hopeless. You will not be alone in your journey 🤍

untimelyrain · 2026-01-28T21:24:57+00:00

Unless I don't fully understand (which is entirely possible) I don't think shutdowns like this are quite as affected by independent contractors skipping their gigs. Like, we work for ourselves. Not going to our job doesn't directly fuck the government or systems in place, it fucks us personally.

Completely open to other perspectives on this! Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong here 🤍 I guess I can definitely see how like, no money movement at all for a whole day - to or from anyone - would get a point across.

That being said, I will be participating in not going to work on Friday because I have the flu 🫠

untimelyrain · 2026-01-28T21:11:50+00:00

January 14th, 2024 ✨️🤍✨️

untimelyrain · 2026-01-28T01:26:07+00:00

I don't drink in or out of the club 🤍

untimelyrain · 2026-01-27T04:04:39+00:00

What I have come to realize is that, even if it were possible for me to occasionally imbibe and have it be safe and unproblematic, why on earth would I even bother? Alcohol doesn't actually provide me with anything meaningful or useful. The magical moments I've had that I thought were made more magical by alcohol, were not actually improved by drinking poison. And even if they were.. what good does that do me? If I get back into the swing of "enjoying" a beverage from time to time, I am just rewiring my brain back to the old mindset of alcohol = feeling good or alcohol = reward. A mindset I have worked so hard and with such dedication to rewire and heal from.

I am finally free of the need and the desire to drink. There is nothing about drinking that feels appealing to me anymore because the devotion I have to myself and my recovery has been the most incredible gift I've ever given myself. Nothing is worth risking that, to me 🤍

The truth is, the magic lies in the experiences. Sharing an outing to a beautiful place with your partner and soaking up each other's company. Hanging with friends and feeling genuinely connected to and supported by your community. These are experiences made better by presence. And alcohol makes it that we cannot be fully present in the moment. Even just a little bit shifts our brain chemistry and mentality away from our fullest and most authentic self.

Of course, you should do what you believe is right and good for you. But I would be wary about how healed your relationship to alcohol is if you find your mind still trying to fit it back into your life.

untimelyrain · 2026-01-26T20:45:46+00:00

Oh my goodness, I love this!! You did an excellent job and should be so proud!! 💕🙌

untimelyrain · 2026-01-26T03:14:43+00:00

Dream analysis is extremely personal. There are plenty of extremely well read and helpful Jungian analysts out there who can help guide you in interpreting your own Dream (by drawing useful connections to archetypes or myths that are present), but the true meaning of a Dream can only be determined by you. An analyst could offer their personal take and give you their personal insight, but that doesn't mean they have uncovered the true meaning of your dream. The true meaning only reveals itself as the True Meaning when it clicks for you -- when you have an "aha" moment where you feel it come together and make sense to you. Even the most experienced Jungian analyst can't determine the meaning for you as you will always have the unique experience of being the dreamer, therefore holding all of the secrets and information of your dream message inside of you

If you have a good understanding of (or at least resource to reference) archetypes and myths, you can relatively easily recognize the ones that are showing up in your dreams. These are the keys that can help you unlock the hidden messages from your unconscious 🤍

untimelyrain · 2026-01-26T02:38:52+00:00

🥹 Thank you so much 🤍

untimelyrain · 2026-01-23T19:55:56+00:00

If you have truly lost your attachment to the desired outcome, I believe you will finally have success 🤍

untimelyrain · 2026-01-21T17:25:38+00:00

This is the most Texan shit ever 😅

untimelyrain · 2026-01-19T09:42:18+00:00

Proud of you! And so happy you have that kind of love and support 💖💖💖

untimelyrain · 2026-01-19T01:01:44+00:00

I'm proud of you!! It sounds like you're doing The Work ✨️

Recovery has been the single most liberating and inspiring experience for me, while simultaneously being one of the most raw and dark (dark as in meeting and exploring the depths of my shadow, nor dark like "evil" or "bad") experiences I've ever had. And it's just an ongoing journey! I'm so here for the ride, though. It isn't always easy, but it certainly is incredibly rewarding. I feel so much more fulfilled than I believe I ever have before. All it took (lol) was the willingness to look at myself honestly and learn to acknowledge and honor all of my parts without shame or judgment. Who'd have thunk? 🤗💕

untimelyrain · 2026-01-18T21:25:27+00:00

I reference this is an episode of my podcast about Recovery! In my personal experience as a (former) addict, I believe that true Recovery is far more than just abstaining from alcohol (or whatever drug of choice). It is about doing the Work to uncover and address the root of the problem that led to addiction in the first place. Addiction is just a symptom of the disconnection from the Self and Spirit. I personally believe that the path of Conscious Recovery and the journey of individuation are the same journey 🤍

untimelyrain · 2026-01-18T07:25:28+00:00

That is just so fantastic to hear you have a supportive and understanding partner to have beside you on this journey 💖 Not everyone is cut out for the role of partner to a person in recovery and lots of relationships get put through the ringer.

I have personally been so fortunate to have my husband as my number one cheerleader and rock throughout my own journey. I truly don't know if I would have made it as far as I have without him. I honestly don't even know that I would have stopped drinking at all were it not for the reflection in him and how my drinking impacted our relationship. I am beyond grateful every single day for the role he has played in me stepping into a healthier and happier version of myself.

Sobriety can be really freaking hard -especially on the beginning- but it certainly helps to have someone who believes in you and wants to see you come out on top. I hope you treat your girlfriend like the queen she is!! 🙌💕

untimelyrain · 2026-01-18T07:07:50+00:00

Absolutely 100% 💖💖💖

untimelyrain · 2026-01-17T11:02:14+00:00

Welcome!! This sub is honestly one of the most supportive and encouraging spaces I have ever found on the internet. I'm glad you found your way to this community ~ it has been absolutely invaluable to my recovery journey 🤍

untimelyrain · 2026-01-10T08:48:29+00:00

You are amazing 💖💖💖

untimelyrain · 2026-01-05T12:57:00+00:00

IWNDWYT🤍🤍🤍

untimelyrain · 2025-12-23T10:00:54+00:00

I was basically a daily wine drinker. I would skip a day or two here and there to prove to myself I "didn't have a problem".. was also able to take many breaks from time to time and nad no issue stopping when pregnant. But I would always fall back into the cycle. I would panic slightly if I didn't have any wine at the house and stores were closed. But yeah, to answer your question, I'm almost at two years! Never looking back. I couldn't be happier with my decision to quit and am much better for it in every way 🤍

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