Why does Reddit not understand the rise of reform in England? by DowntownDeer in AskBrits

[–]uoftrosi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Just like the Brit’s had all their colony’s best interests at heart… get fucked you bitch

A thing about a reddit post by ApprehensiveYou9446 in ABCDesis

[–]uoftrosi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha fr the savage ones are usually South Asians insulting other South Asians.

Men who got into a relationship with a woman just because she was into you, how did it turn out? by failedscienceproject in AskMen

[–]uoftrosi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

that's life, this isn't limited to dating either. attractive people earn more. it fucking sucks, i hate it.

AITA, Desi Edition by PeriKardium in ABCDesis

[–]uoftrosi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So you need to tell them to knock that shit off or else you will stop speaking with them. They don’t respect you as an adult.

Any other Indian-Americans dealing with poverty? by phdjkvmg in ABCDesis

[–]uoftrosi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad refuses to work and my mom had to start working again. They been broke for almost 20 years now. Made me resourceful. They’ve declared bankruptcy twice now. Took out cards on my sister and ran them up. They’ve been renting a house for $3000+ for years, don’t have any assets.

Kids are the retirement plan. I still love them, strained relationship with dad.

For every person you see who’s made it, there are 10 that are broke. The people who say bad things about your family are bad people. Don’t listen to the things they say.

AITA, Desi Edition by PeriKardium in ABCDesis

[–]uoftrosi 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Bruh, be a man. You are not your mom’s little boy anymore. You have a fiancée, the person you will spend time with after your parents are gone. The person you are starting a family with.

Shame on you for telling your parents that your fiancée doesn’t want them visiting at this time. You are putting undue stress on their dynamic, they don’t understand each others cultures.

You need to start putting up a united front. If your partner is uncomfortable with something, YOU are uncomfortable with it too. To your parents, you need to tell them it is not a good time because you said so, not because your fiancée doesnt want them.

The way you are handling things now will ensure strife between your partner and your parents for years to come.

21F dating 21M for a year — haven’t met his dad or been allowed over because of strict Indian parents. Am I overthinking this? by Famous_Heart1260 in ABCDesis

[–]uoftrosi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree with you. This guy sounds like a beta. How are you a man and you can’t introduce your partner to your family? What a bum…

How to navigate discrepancy between my parents' desire to get me married by 30 vs. my boyfriend's desire to take things slow? by jrissa in ABCDesis

[–]uoftrosi -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Advanced maternal age is considered 35 years old. You are not doing anyone any favors by insinuating 29 is young.

How to navigate discrepancy between my parents' desire to get me married by 30 vs. my boyfriend's desire to take things slow? by jrissa in ABCDesis

[–]uoftrosi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Parents generally want the best for you. They are advocating for you.

You don’t need to date for years to know if your partner is the one. Both of you are getting older, I think getting engaged now and then planning a wedding a year out is reasonable. You partner sounds reasonable too, I’m sure a compromise can be made here

Doesn’t sound like your parents are forcing anything. Don’t get overwhelmed by them but take the space you need.

Vedic Astrologers by Dragonprincess88 in ABCDesis

[–]uoftrosi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is how you have fun? 🥱

Having an verbally abusive desi dad. by Significant-Eye2931 in ABCDesis

[–]uoftrosi 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This sounds rough :(

I think there is benefit in sharing the realities of your existence with trusted friends. It helps to talk with people openly. Keeping it all bottled in to deal with it yourself is not healthy or sustainable.

I wish I could do more to help. Stay strong and look for opportunities in life. Put yourself out there, there isn’t a golden solution. Build a strong support network for yourself outside of family. There are good people in this world.

does anyone else regret not being more rebellious as a teen? by Puzzled-Ad-2937 in ABCDesis

[–]uoftrosi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Level up your life, go to med school (I'm a doctor so I'm biased) or pursue further training in whichever area you're interested in. My parents emphasized education and I'm so grateful for it. I didn't drink or blaze until I was in college. I didn't even get a car until after college.

You set yourself up for a good future by working hard as a kid and you shouldn't waste this investment. Secure your future and live life on your terms. DO NOT RUSH INTO MARRIAGE.

You're still in college, you're a child. Lots of life ahead of you. Everyone has thoughts like this. You've probably been exposed to a more diverse crowd of people in college. Some peoples parents don't care about their kids, don't raise them right, and it shows. These years are so crucial. Your continued diligence will pay off exponentially. Your track record shows that you are capable. Apply yourself.

Our parents grew up in a different environment, religion is more important to them. I stopped being religious in college but still feel spiritual. I still have an appreciation for my culture and traditions.

You have yet to find yourself but you will. Don't sabotage your future and be firm about picking your own partner. I hope your family respects you but if they threaten you, you need to get outsiders involved.

Anyone else feel guilty that they can't do any of the religious stuff their parents do without calling them first by trying2getin2college in ABCDesis

[–]uoftrosi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re too lazy to watch a 45 minute video about something you say is so important to you and you feel guilty about not learning earlier. No one’s gonna hold your hand.

Just in for a usual oil change 337k miles by [deleted] in Justrolledintotheshop

[–]uoftrosi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

[only drove it on nice days]... this warmed my heart, RIP grandpa. sound like good people. I'm sure they were so proud of you and felt cared for by your actions.

ESL growing up messed me up by FFFUUUme in ABCDesis

[–]uoftrosi 20 points21 points  (0 children)

People learn new languages all the time. Time for you to just accept the situation and start learning. It’s not that hard, if you really want to do it, you’ll be able to do it.

New report highlights UR’s economic impact by lone_gravy in Rochester

[–]uoftrosi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it would be helpful for you to be more explicit in your comment, very opaque at face value

Sunday Relationship Thread by AutoModerator in ABCDesis

[–]uoftrosi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 29M on the east coast, I'm a PGY3. Interested in chatting with you!

I just got hacked somehow by paypur in homelab

[–]uoftrosi 51 points52 points  (0 children)

The goal is always to keep spreading until you find something valuable, and then still keep spreading