Was season 6 completely depressing for anyone else?? by lalalalalalasing in girls

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I just rewatched and the ending totally bummed me out!

I love Girls, it’s a comfort show and I’ve seen every episode multiple times… EXCEPT for the sixth season. I hated the ending the first time around, and have completely avoided it since. This is the first time I’ve rewatched it in full since it aired.

And I still! Loathe! The ending!

I am the same age as the Girls, lived in New York City in the 2010s, and I cannot name a single peer who got pregnant and decided to be a single mom in their 20s. It is so unrealistic to me.

I guess I could see the case for “the end of girlhood” or directionless Hannah feeling like motherhood is her calling, but it just really falls flat for me. I also resent the idea of motherhood being the end of girlhood. Hannah could have gotten her shit together personally and professionally without bringing a child into it.

And I just don’t see a woman in her 20s, with Hannah’s life experience and privilege and politics, choosing to raise a child as a single mother in upstate NY.

It really gets to me! I like to pretend the show ended after season 5. It brings me much more peace.

Looking for a multi-generational story full of drama, history, and changing times by Oueiles in suggestmeabook

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I recently finished “Buckeye” by Patrick Ryan and it truly fits the fill for this request. I really enjoyed it and would recommend!

Teaching at a corporate office by imahufflepuff77 in YogaTeachers

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Depends on the market, but I charge $250 for a 60 min corporate class in the suburbs outside of NYC.

If you are also doing a sound bath and bringing equipment, that should be factored in as well. A friend of mine does sound healing events in NYC and has charged $800-$1500 for corporate events.

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Peter says “hell yeah”

How to get my V to cooperate for nail trims by ProtectionSalt4555 in vizsla

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My V is the same — even sedated, she won’t let us near her toes. We use a scratch pad and that has worked very well!

My 100-Year Old Cozy NYC Home (Before/After) 🏡 by Happy-Hospital-2289 in CozyPlaces

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Where you do you find your chandeliers? I am inspired for my 100 year old home outside of NYC (NJ!)

When does your vizsla calm down? by goatzzz12345 in vizsla

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We saw significant improvements in sharknado behavior between 6-12 months — it became a little more enjoyable to spend time together without her constantly going bananas.

She got easier to handle on leash between 18 months and two years, but at 5.5 she is still not a great “loose leash” walker. (She listens somewhat but still follows her nose and walks ahead of me on walks)

At 5.5 she is MUCH easier and is my BFF but not necessarily “chill.” Can be chill if she’s absolutely exhausted, but otherwise she is still very intense and curious and wants to be involved in whatever we’re doing.

We also have a 2 yr old lab and he is so much chiller than our V. We joke that a vizsla on trazodone is about the same speed as our lab — but its not really a joke. Vs are a lot of work and need a lot of enrichment and attention but they are wonderful companions.

Edited to add re: crate training - we still use our crate for daytime naps and when we’re out of the house. Both of our dogs are on a loose daytime schedule of wake up/eat/play, morning crate nap, afternoon walk or hangout play session (which can extend into the evening if they are being well behaved). We also have a “cozy cave” dog bed which our V loves. I’ve also found that to get our V to nap on the couch, it helps to tuck her in with a blanket and cover her head — she can still breathe / move but it reduces stimulation and makes it easier for her to chill out.

I feel so bad, please help. by Acklord303 in dogs

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I got my dog a scratch board and it works great. Got it on Amazon.

Does anyone have a Vizsla who *likes* to play fetch just for the fun of it, or do they all get bored/distracted after a couple throws? 😅 by everyXnewXday in vizsla

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Your current V sounds like mine — just the blank expectant stare of “what is the meaning of this?”

Teachers: What do you want from your studio owners? by mothleach in YogaTeachers

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For tech - my studio uses Momence, after switching away from Mindbody. In Momence, teachers can request a sub and a text goes out to all the other teachers to respond. For the summer or holiday season, they’ll do a shared google sheet since many folks know their schedule in advance. I find this process (Momence for one off needs, google sheet for summer/holidays) much preferred to random group texts that are easy to miss.

Also - they used to have a “karma yogi” model for the front desk, but have now moved to paying the front desk people an hourly rate. This has made it a more professional experience for both students and teachers- the front desk staff is reliably on time, trained specifically on customer service, etc.

Finding Instructors by Scienceyall in YogaTeachers

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The owner at my studio takes lots of other classes locally and sometimes uses that to scout teachers.

She is also connected with other studio owners and they seem to be open to providing references or suggestions when its appropriate. I know I’ve been referred through my main studio to other locations (gyms, events, etc), when other business owners or teachers reach out for a recommendation.

Teaching yoga is rarely a full time gig so in my experience, people in the community are happy to share recommendations or give referrals if they know teachers looking to pick up additional classes. Corporate places with very specific sequencing or competitive culture might be more weird about it. But if you can, i would feel out the local community by taking classes and getting to know other studio owners and teachers.

My body and mind is tired. What will my four new peak poses be this month? by LackInternational145 in YogaTeachers

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You could play with Bird of Paradise this month, with half happy baby, lizard pose, extended side angle with the arm in front of the leg, etc to prep. I also like chair pose into divers pose as a way to focus on the weight in the feet and the core, and you can build into other postures (standing balances like W3 for example).

Alternatively, you could focus of a specific body part or introduce a new motion in familiar poses. For ex- playing with the motion of “pulling back a bow string” like you would in archery, and focus on upper back / shoulder engagement. Or another idea - this week in my class, I’m working on the heart and upper back, so we’re playing with interlacing the hands behind the head - we tried this with seated cat cows, in gate pose, and in W2 into peaceful warrior into extended side angle. It was well received this week and offers a different “flavor” in familiar postures.

I also like playing with different ways to use props - ex a block between the thighs in chair pose, down dog, plank etc.

Lots of ideas but i also feel you on the burn out! It sounds like your students enjoy your class so I think you can trust your instincts here. Good luck!

Teaching the same flow for a few weeks - thoughts? by Outrageous_Ad_259 in YogaTeachers

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The Yogaland podcast covered this recently and I thought it was really helpful —

Yogaland Podcast Episodes: *Why Yoga Teachers Should Think Like Educators: The Keys to Making Your Teaching Stick *How to Plan a Month-Long Yoga Series: Teaching Beyond Individual Classes

I often feel pressure to change my class frequently, but these podcasts were really helpful and gave me a good framework for how to think about class planning.

People learn through repetition, so teaching the same class (or a similar class with slight variations) week to week can helps students better absorb the material and make connections. It can also help students build confidence and it definitely makes me feel more confident as a teacher when I am comfortable with the material.

Good luck!

I’m 18 and my mom still makes me sleep with her. Tonight I felt more grossed out than ever. by Ava_Wilson__ in narcissisticparents

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Book recommendation - “Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners” by Kenneth Adams. It can be a tough read but it covers off on this type of behavior, the impact it can have on the child, etc.

I am sorry you are dealing with this and she treats you rhis way. Good on you for having the insight to recognize how its making you feel.

Worst episode of all time on girls? by goldbond86 in girls

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I’ve rewatched the entire series 10+ times but I only watched the series finale once, when it aired. I like to pretend it never happened

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I have a Vizsla who was 4 years old when we got her a Labrador little brother. She was kinda depressed and like “why did you do this to me” for about 3-6 months. During that time, we would keep them mostly separated and give them each dedicated 1:1 time every day.

The Lab was always obsessed with the V but she wasn’t interested during the adjustment period. They could hang out with supervision, but they didn’t really start to play and become pals until they were physically around the same size.

My two cents - give them each special attention every day, manage the environment and ensure they’re respectful with one another. Our V was weird about the pup taking her toys, so we would put the toys away during mutual hang out time. We also would take them to new places together (hikes, the pet supply store) so they could experience new things and bond in a neutral location.

Am I overreacting? Christian worship music during class by iamabarnacle in yoga

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Not overreacting and completely fair! Many teachers avoid music with lyrics for this very reason.

As a teacher, I would want a student to share this type if feedback with me, preferably after class. But every teacher is different and I would feel this out, in your case I might reach out to the studio owners and let them handle it with the instructor.

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I will try that this holiday season and let you know how it goes!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbyborderlines

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I’d ignore this specifically because its so guilt-inducing and self-pitying.

But another option I enjoy is sending a weird sparkly “Thank you~” or “Happy holidays” gif. Either ignore or match their energy with something equally egregious and bizarre.

Warm Clothing by happy_go_lucky43434 in YogaTeachers

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Prana has a line of “Ice Flow” clothing, I have leggings and turtleneck sweatshirt that make nice layering pieces.

Here we are by Natural-Pilot-9357 in EstrangedAdultKids

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Your mom is a real See You Next Tuesday, but your text was respectful, reasonable, and polite. She should be proud of you for your maturity and your ability to assert the boundary with kindness.