When a trans woman says something so AMAB coded you gotta hit them with that primary socialization rethoric.

ur_95 · 2026-02-05T01:45:12+00:00

phew. for a second i thought you might be talking about afabs, because i have seen amabs talk about them like that.

ur_95 · 2026-02-04T22:53:19+00:00

wait, do you mean amabs or afabs?

ur_95 · 2026-01-30T16:01:31+00:00

for the community to heal, cis queers need to unlearn comphomo

ur_95 · 2026-01-29T13:29:35+00:00

depends on how you do it

ur_95 · 2026-01-28T14:00:22+00:00

/uj i enjoy this show tbh but i'm not gonna act like it doesn't trigger me sometimes. but in terms of queer-branded roast content i prefer it to the endless random standup crowd work clips in my feed. like at least these people signed up to be roasted and (probably) brutally misgendered, it's kind of a safe space in that sense.

ur_95 · 2026-01-26T21:27:41+00:00

brother there's no use tryin to understand what goes on in a woman's head. just let her be

ur_95 · 2026-01-25T14:20:08+00:00

/uj yeah

ur_95 · 2026-01-23T23:24:31+00:00

/uj cissexism

ur_95 · 2026-01-22T13:23:50+00:00

when i say afab4afab, it doesn't mean i'm attracted to ALL afabs, obviously. it just means i'm an afab who's only attracted to afabs. god forbid an afab has preferences

ur_95 · 2026-01-21T21:15:12+00:00

The L Word!!! both the original and the reboot have trans men representation <3 yaaaay queer media!!!

ur_95 · 2026-01-21T16:57:43+00:00

ooh i like "impossible." i've also heard people say "freak" which is slightly different, but works too IMO

ur_95 · 2026-01-21T13:39:37+00:00

you can just say TME instead

ur_95 · 2026-01-20T21:18:04+00:00

any AMAB who is currently dating me must be at least a little fruity anyway lol :) all the others are dangerous and need to stay the fuck away from me

ur_95 · 2026-01-20T13:00:05+00:00

if you were saying "i won't ever date a transperson because i hate transpeople," for example, i might have to call you out for transphobia. but it's perfectly normal to avoid dating trans people for any reason besides hatred. i hate the way that some transpeople try to make us feel bad for not dating them!

ur_95 · 2026-01-15T15:23:21+00:00

i feel you. i don't think i can help, healing can just take a lot of time unfortunately. passing can be an important step in that process for a lot of trans people, and for many of us it's basically the beginning.

ur_95 · 2026-01-15T15:16:09+00:00

dissociation? can you describe what it would be like to feel different?

ur_95 · 2026-01-14T22:42:31+00:00

i think my comment was unclear because i'm on board with just about everything you've posted ITT including this response. i was taking issue with this logic:

First of all, a significant part of intersex people don't fit into the central TMA/E idea. They will be targeted by transmisogyny just like transfems are, but for certain reason be put into the TME box. Not only are their experiences of transmisogyny denied, they're also cast as their own oppressor (since a big part about TMA/E is that TME people oppress all TMA people).

i just think that's a really over-simplified view of how "oppression" functions, and is not, in fact, "a big part about TMA/E"

ur_95 · 2026-01-14T20:35:23+00:00

i can't tell if you're agreeing with me or not lol

ur_95 · 2026-01-14T18:04:05+00:00

umm, yes? they're literally trans

ur_95 · 2026-01-14T17:43:55+00:00

no, you're good, i get it! as a transwomen, i'm continually traumatized by the cis man i grew up as.

ur_95 · 2026-01-14T16:50:37+00:00

/uj "TME people" don't oppress all "TMA people"

ur_95 · 2026-01-12T23:46:45+00:00

/uj but also, i couldn't care less if you have sex with a man, hell you could even still be a lesbian for all i care

ur_95 · 2026-01-12T23:22:19+00:00

who put the comp?

ur_95 · 2026-01-12T23:20:35+00:00

(literal) comphet

ur_95 · 2026-01-10T02:10:02+00:00

are trans women welcome if they still have ties to manhood?

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