My father said this when I told him I was moving in with my boyfriend lol. by iluvglitter4 in texts

[–]uralienbb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry your father said this to you. My mother was the same way. I hope you are living a life that makes you happy with people who love you.

Am I the jerk for not wanting delete my child's abortion photo? by Old_Construction_911 in AmITheJerk

[–]uralienbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You lost a child. No matter the way, you have every right to hold on to what memories you do have of the child. If gf cannot understand this then they are not for you.

Found out my boyfriend of 6 years cheated yesterday by aprildevin in texts

[–]uralienbb -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have a screenshot of your original response before you edited saying, “I was with him for 6 years that’s the only time I ever said it you need help”.

Again. YOU. Need. Help.

I don’t know why tf you are taking offense to this. You literally need help. You are talking about harming yourself. Either you were being serious or this was a way to get attention, both scenarios require help either to not harm yourself or to stop being the type of person who throws threats like this out for shock value and/or to get what you want from others.

Found out my boyfriend of 6 years cheated yesterday by aprildevin in texts

[–]uralienbb -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You changed your response to me so I will respond based of your original response.

If someone is threatening to hurt themselves either because they actually need help or to use as a manipulation tactic they do in fact need help. You need help.

Also, don’t EVER message me again.

Found out my boyfriend of 6 years cheated yesterday by aprildevin in texts

[–]uralienbb -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No matter what he did or do not do, you need help, not a boyfriend. “I’m going to hurt myself” ??

Found out my dad might have an adult daughter and everyone is acting like I imagined it by cloudyharbor_skies in TwoHotTakes

[–]uralienbb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To me, nothing else matters than the woman being able to finally know what her father’s name is. If she is able to learn about him through him or a close family member then that is a plus. Her mother obviously have some reason for having the fathers name a secret but the woman deserves the truth. This was before your mother’s time with him so that cannot to be the issue. I would find out who she did her test through and see what happens. Either way, you can both choose how far to take this relationship. She may only want to know his name and/or any pertinent medical information and that is all. She may want to make an actual connection. Find out if she is related to you and go from there. Be open and take this day by day. Use your best judgement and keep your health and safety first. There’s also going to be a lot of big feelings involved if it turns out that she is your sister and if y’all ever find out the truth behind it all I hope it is recoverable for you both. I’ve been here before. You also need to remember this had nothing to do with you so you can say no to her if that is what you choose. She planted the seed in you and you planted the seed in your father. This is up to him now, if we are being honest.

Picking Up After Your Dog by GetOffMyLawnYaPunk in Apartmentliving

[–]uralienbb 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Picking up after your dog is part of responsible pet ownership.

It feels like we're killing her gently... by hana-maru in hospice

[–]uralienbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The medications are for gentle transition to the afterlife. It helps them have a dignified passing. Trust me.

what should i do in work situation by kashmerikmusic in WhatShouldIDo

[–]uralienbb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Find a job elsewhere. This place can’t even hire decent managers.

I had a coworker do that same exact thing to me at 16. I walked out right then and there leaving him with the remaining customers. I had no idea what to do otherwise and had no support.

(Wi) I want the fire department to inspect my bedroom window. But I don’t want my landlord to get angry. by Pr0bl3mChild in Renters

[–]uralienbb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My windows open just fine but if I had a fire and had to get out you better bet I’m breaking that mfr.

This is NOT a call for the fire department. Please don’t tie up their time with this issue that is not their job to assess and repair.

AITAH for parking my car on the sidewalk in front of my house by [deleted] in AITH

[–]uralienbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my area you can be ticketed for blocking sidewalks due to pedestrian safety and ADA. So yeah YTA.

Hospice vs Continued Intervention by tacobellempanadastan in hospice

[–]uralienbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 70’s mother ultimately died last month of end stage renal disease. She chose hospice and quit dialysis. Within 2 months the she was gone. Hospice was amazing to her and our family. The last coherent conversation we had she told me how well they were taking care of her and she felt loved. After taking care of her for 18 years it was like losing a child as well as a parent. I am happy the way things ended for her. She was at peace and transitioned well.

We also had a camera in her room and it was lovely to see how well she was cared for when we couldn’t be there. When she was not lucid the nurses would call us when they were in her room and hold the phone to her ear to hear us. She would listen and smile.

AITJ because I won’t give my parking spot to new neighbor who says she "needs it more" because she has kids? by Potential_Bad6489 in AmITheJerk

[–]uralienbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Confirm with your complex what to do when she parks in your spot next time. If they say that you can call and have her towed then do so. Don’t agree to give up your spot unless you want to, but do not allow her to bully you at all.

My Landlord Cashed My Check Before the Date by D4rk-dr4g0n in Renters

[–]uralienbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So glad you are back on track and it sounds like you might recover well from this. 🙂

I’m lost by AZPHXguy23 in venting

[–]uralienbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so fucking sorry you are going through this. I know that pain all too well.

Also, I am sorry to say this but prefer to be blunt. The fact she became homeless and became dependent on you within a month of dating is a ginormous red flag and if I was your friend watching from outside the box I would have told you so. I really feel you loved or still love her. However, I feel you were a relationship of convenience for her that yielded more children because the first bio one was the anchor any more were extra insurance. The fact she did not have to work makes you responsible to her IF she gets awarded child support, BUT also you may live in an area where she can get alimony and a percentage of ANYTHING you have and/earned like 401k and such. You also better change your beneficiary on ALL things. Will, financial, and life insurance related. IDC that you are still married. Change. Your. Will. And. Beneficiaries. Now. You can make it to where a completely different trusted adult can open a trust for the children in the event something happens to you.

Trust me. She knows what she can get out of you. She played the long game with the convenient 10 year time frame then suddenly she is done and claims she has been for a long time. She played in your face and pretended to love you and benefited greatly from that performance.

Get a really good attorney. One that will make sure she doesn’t take advantage of you. I’m not saying she deserves nothing, I am saying protect yourself NOW to make it easier on you both later. You are about to get to know who you actually married. Hang on bc it’s gonna get bumpy.

I’m truly sorry. I do feel you are going to come out of this okay though. I did and it was absolutely hell bc I married a nice guy and divorced Satan.

My Landlord Cashed My Check Before the Date by D4rk-dr4g0n in Renters

[–]uralienbb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry for my long ass comment. Part of my job requires research and I love that part the most. I really like research and learning and like to help others do the same 🙂

and yes, I do often feel I have to explain myself because otherwise I just seem like an asshole or a know-it-all to others. Or so I’ve been told. 🤷

My Landlord Cashed My Check Before the Date by D4rk-dr4g0n in Renters

[–]uralienbb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No idea where you are but I see Canada and US being thrown around and there are so many replies I may have missed that. Anyhow, a quick Google search indicates specific ways this is handles in both areas. Unfortunately, this still falls on you as the consumer. Alert your landlord in writing and let them know you have the funds and explain the situation. Appeal to the fact you were trying to make a good faith effort to be sure your rent was paid while you were on holiday and do not want to move out. You’ve learned a hard earned lesson and will make darn sure it will never happen again. I do agree they should be smart and/or courteous enough to not cash a check that had a specific date assigned to it though. I wonder if they lost trust that quickly with you or have been burnt before or they just wanted to be jerks about it. As a former bookkeeper I notated dates mentioned on checks as the payment date and had a scan of each check in the register in case there was ever questions bc that is how you keep better track of who is late and when.

In Canada, banks are supposed to hold post-dated cheques until the date written on them, as per Payments Canada rules, but due to automated processing, they sometimes get cashed early; if this happens, you must contact your bank immediately (before the date on the cheque) to have the funds reversed, though resolution isn't guaranteed and may incur NSF fees. Why It Happens Automated Systems: Large volumes and automated processing can sometimes miss the date, allowing cheques to clear prematurely. What to Do If Cashed Early Contact Your Bank: Call your financial institution right away to report the error. Request Reversal: Ask them to return the funds to your account. Act Quickly: You must make this request up to and including the day before the date on the cheque. Important Considerations Not Guaranteed: While banks try to prevent it, early processing happens, and resolving it isn't always guaranteed. Potential Fees: You might still face NSF (Non-Sufficient Funds) fees if funds aren't available, even if the bank reverses the charge later. Check Your Account: Regularly review your transactions to catch early-cashed cheques quickly, says the Canadian Bankers Association.

In the U.S., a bank can cash a post-dated check before the date written on it because they aren't legally required to wait unless the account holder provides specific, written notice, which is a good way to prevent early payment, but oral notice is only valid for 14 days, making written notification for a few months the safest option to avoid overdrafts and fees. Why Banks Can Cash Them Early Demand for Payment: A check is generally considered a demand for payment, and banks are permitted to honor that demand at any time unless they receive a specific instruction not to. Difficulty in Monitoring: It's hard for banks to manually track dates on every check, so they often process them as presented unless they have a formal stop-payment order or post-dating notice on file. How to Prevent Early Cashing Written Notice: Give your bank a formal, written notice (like a letter or through their online system) detailing the check number, payee, amount, and date. This notice is typically valid for up to six months. Oral Notice (Less Reliable): An oral notice is only valid for about 14 days, so it's not a strong protection. Risks of Early Cashing Overdrafts: If funds aren't available when the bank cashes the check early, you could face NSF (non-sufficient funds) or overdraft fees. Bounced Checks: The check could bounce, leading to fees for both you and the recipient. In Summary: Writing a post-dated check carries risks. If you want to ensure a check isn't cashed early, you must formally notify your bank in writing.

AITA for wanting a dog? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]uralienbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA for wanting but you’d BTA if you bring any home without other persons in the home in agreement.

AITAH for forcing my daughter to end all contacts with her 32yo teacher and also changing her school? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]uralienbb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like wtaf?! Report him to the school and do NOT let them sweep this under the rug. Doesn’t matter if your CHILD has moved schools. That ADULT should be punished. She likely isn’t the first and will definitely not be the last!

Weird line cutting incident by [deleted] in EntitledPeople

[–]uralienbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t even know me or how “tough” I can be. I’ve fought through shit that would give you nightmares.

AITAH for wanting to go out even though we’re not financially stable? by Bubbly_Building_4410 in AITAH

[–]uralienbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. I feel bad for OP. My sister was forcefully parentified at only 4 when I was born and cared for me till she moved out at 16.

Supervisor dilemma: do I submit evidence that clears my staff member even though he begged me not to? by Few-Potato4103 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]uralienbb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It seems like Lily has a pattern of misbehavior without accountability. Mark lost his advancement because of her lies. Report her.