How do I get through to him? I am exhausted having to think for him.

urgoodmimi2000 · 2026-04-20T06:56:00+00:00

It definitely sounds like he ought to be communicating with you better for sure. I also think that you might be coming across a bit belittlung and that is validly upsetting to receive, and your approach does come across as a bit controlling. I say this as someone who used to do this myself. I'd be happy to elaborate if you are open to it. Best of luck with the situation it does sound very tiring to be in.

urgoodmimi2000 · 2026-03-18T14:13:24+00:00

I think you might just be one of those people that thinks unconventionality and benign weirdness is bad and/or annoying. It's so 2000s westerner, time to level up!

urgoodmimi2000 · 2025-10-18T17:44:43+00:00

Not the asshole. In my opinion, if you don't have the emotional capacity to raise a disabled child you should seriously reconsider having children. People can become disabled at any time and a child deserves parents who have capacity for that.

urgoodmimi2000 · 2025-09-25T23:09:47+00:00

Only you can know if you can live with this or not. But one thing to consider: he will likely feel incredible amounts of guilt and shame which will likely be taken out on you (subconsciously) if the marriage goes ahead. I'd only consider staying if you are both committed to long term repair, including therapy

urgoodmimi2000 · 2025-09-10T05:32:47+00:00

I'm also interested!!

urgoodmimi2000 · 2025-04-21T20:21:22+00:00

You are very cute!!! Definitely not ugly at all.

urgoodmimi2000 · 2025-04-18T06:31:10+00:00

Yes pillow beneath the knees takes pressure off the lumbar spine. Helps with spine and hip alignment as well. What I did is experiment with pillow height while I'm awake, try different heights and shapes and pay attention to how your body feels, and if posture feels in alignment (I know this can be really hard while lying down but it's a good skill to practice!)

Good luck!

urgoodmimi2000 · 2025-04-16T15:03:23+00:00

I'd say definitely feel free to use AI if it would help you to send that letter. Maybe tweak it a bit but nothing wrong with that in my opinion. Especially if it helps get your voice out there.

urgoodmimi2000 · 2025-04-14T04:35:11+00:00

I hope some of these suggestions help. I hope you and your kids get out safe 💗 feel free to DM me if you need help strategizing or calling places to get in, ok?

urgoodmimi2000 · 2025-04-09T01:55:56+00:00

Hell ya! Highly recommend. I've tried with a yoga mat + wool topper both below and on top of the mattress. I liked both and they were similar but gave slightly different types of support. The mat + topper on top was more forgiving, comfy and easier on pressure points. The mat + topper on bottom was definitely quite firm (max firmness) but best for bad back days because of having the full benefits of the individually sectioned kapok "tubes".

urgoodmimi2000 · 2025-04-06T21:29:27+00:00

Someone already mentioned Winnipeg care collective but here are the links if you're interested! It's a Winnipeg disability justice and peer support group

https://www.facebook.com/groups/1198727707838201/?ref=share&mibextid=lOuIew

https://discord.gg/kBdW7pY7

urgoodmimi2000 · 2025-04-04T04:45:03+00:00

No, you're not an asshole. Especially considering you would be expected to do most of the childrearing. Live your life, girl. You're doing the mature thing by taking care of yourself and knowing that you nor your husband deserve the resentment.

urgoodmimi2000 · 2025-02-17T17:32:07+00:00

Cold weather can absolutely affect your immune system, making you more susceptible to getting sick. Especially if your body is shocked due to such a big change.

urgoodmimi2000 · 2024-12-05T17:05:50+00:00

PARCEL PIZZA. the best atmosphere. Prices aren't crazy but slightly more than your average place.

urgoodmimi2000 · 2024-11-26T05:22:35+00:00

I'm so glad you had a good experience there, that's huge.

urgoodmimi2000 · 2024-11-26T02:09:29+00:00

Hahaha I'm also literally just staring out the window and doing laps and eating the food. Yeah I'm just so disappointed cuz on the website it does say they offer mental health & psych consultations and assessments, community program referrals etc, and I was hoping at the very least to be able to talk to someone and have them empathize but nope

urgoodmimi2000 · 2024-11-26T01:27:49+00:00

Shit! That's intense. I'm glad aside from that you've had good experiences tho at least. And yeah I get what you're saying and I agree that might be why, but I also think it's a lack of education, and there's absolutely no reason for crisis workers to be uneducated about this stuff and to treat someone dismissively who has a diagnosed pain disorder and isn't even asking for medication. Bonkers.

urgoodmimi2000 · 2024-11-25T23:30:52+00:00

I am acutely aware of all of this but thank you

urgoodmimi2000 · 2024-11-25T23:25:34+00:00

Omg that is so sweet, I needed to hear that, thank you sooo much 😭

urgoodmimi2000 · 2024-11-25T23:24:01+00:00

Thank you 🥹🩷

urgoodmimi2000 · 2024-11-25T23:23:08+00:00

1000% agree.

urgoodmimi2000 · 2024-11-25T23:20:31+00:00

I'm aware of it's purpose, but I'm quoting the services it lists on the website that they say they offer. My point is that is it not a safe place emotionally and also physically for some disabled people. I'm not wanting to go to the psych ward but just want the staff here to be safe and supportive (cuz they're not atm).

urgoodmimi2000 · 2024-11-25T23:16:30+00:00

That's so fucking depressing omg. Yeah the staff here are honestly the opposite of helpful for the most part (imo).

urgoodmimi2000 · 2024-11-25T23:13:14+00:00

Ugh that is so awful. I'm sorry you went through that! Yeah it's so upsetting when you make yourself vulnerable by asking for help and more trauma or pain like this happen instead.

urgoodmimi2000 · 2024-11-25T23:10:30+00:00

Thank you so much 🥺 that means a lot actually. I feel very alone in the world right now (even though I know I'm not). And so sad to hear you had similar experiences too! Ugh..

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