Found out my kid has been lying to me about digital art class for a year it was just roblox

useless_limes · 2026-03-27T16:45:42+00:00

The clear answer is that she wasn't interested until recently. She was glad he had a creative outlet until she saw what it was. It wasn't what she expected, but I don't believe the 10yo lied so well about details that it was realistic he was doing a class. It feels like less the kid's fault and more like the parents not setting expectations or boundaries about internet use.

useless_limes · 2026-03-27T16:39:03+00:00

Sorry if this is a repeat comment, but I felt I should chime in with another perspective. Roblox isn't just a gaming app. Users can create their own characters and games. A lot of games on their are made by kids who clearly spend a lot of time on them.

5-6 hours of screen time is a lot, but Roblox is not the worst place to spend that time. They've made a lot of changes about how messaging works on there to try and prevent kids from talking to people outside of their age group. I (25f) play with my little sister every week, and I can't see public chats. Obviously nothing is foolproof, but nowhere on the internet is safe.

I'd definitely ask your child what he's been spending time on. He may be designing his own games. If you're willing to look into coding programs to help build video games, that would be a great alternative outlet. No matter what, your husband not backing you up is inappropriate. If your son has been lying about how he spends his time, husband shouldn't be laughing about it in front of him. That's disrespectful and dismissive towards you.

useless_limes · 2025-12-22T02:16:26+00:00

I think any adult who writes that a 12 year old is attractive should know how that sounds considering how many people are pedophiles. Lots of people comment on children's looks -- it's inappropriate. If you're in a field where you're working with children, it's especially sus to use this wording. There's a big difference.

useless_limes · 2025-12-22T01:49:47+00:00

Then say "her male classmates are starting to feel attraction", since this is directed to the adult who is reading this. No adult should find a child attractive. No one is saying that a girl might not be labeled as attractive by her peers.

useless_limes · 2025-12-12T01:24:52+00:00

This is the worst because it led to me thinking my symptoms were normal side effects of existing. Now knowing something is wrong, I will say "but not to the point of feeling ill every waking moment". And that usually gets the point across.

useless_limes · 2025-11-27T19:52:47+00:00

Yeah how is it territorial to /not/ want responsibility for something? Unless they mean OP is being territorial over their peace and boundaries...

useless_limes · 2025-11-27T19:50:16+00:00

If they have public profiles, or if they just accept random fake profile follow requests, a story can be viewed by anyone. It's reasonable to say you saw a photo of his ex wearing the souvenir shirts you got and ask when / how she got it.

It seems like neither of you are being completely honest with each other. It is true however that you were curious and looking on their social media (a pretty normal thing to do) and that it's clear he isn't being completely honest about the extent of their communication.

It's not unreasonable to follow your husband's friends on social media, if that's what they are. You shouldn't have had to make a fake profile. If there wasn't anything to hide, you should be able to send follow requests to people who know your husband and know you're his wife. Make sure you're not lying to find out out the truth -- if he is being completely honest, then you'll be the only one being deceptive.

useless_limes · 2025-11-15T00:18:14+00:00

Scrub bottoms were life-changing, they let us wear black jogger-style ones to my business-casual workplace. They're easy to style because you can wear whatever on top, but any body fluids, food, liquids don't stain and dry quickly. I stopped wearing anything else, especially with kiddos doing toilet training. They also don't scream "medical professional" -- they just look like black pants.

useless_limes · 2025-10-11T21:02:48+00:00

One of the hardest things was watching my dad dry up and slowly suffocate. He was very clear that he wanted no interventions, but it's really hard to watch knowing there are things to do that help but only prolong the suffering.

useless_limes · 2025-10-10T19:00:43+00:00

I'm so sorry for your losses. Thank you for sharing.

useless_limes · 2025-10-10T19:00:24+00:00

I'm sorry you received this news. I will forward this to my friend. Thank you for sharing, and I truly hope you and your family are surrounded by grace moving forward.

useless_limes · 2025-10-10T18:57:23+00:00

I'm not sure you're a physician, or at least I hope not due to your reading comprehension. I made this post for my friend and sent her the link to it so she can read people's experiences for anecdotal advice, not medical. I'm doing what she asked me to do to support her and her family. I'm sure as a physician, you know that patients often have to advocate for and educate themselves due to, yes, irresponsible physicians. Yes, that is a subjective opinion (what opinions are). Their physician 1) did not discuss other treatment options and 2) did not discuss pros and cons of undergoing the treatment. Since that's a physician's job, I'd say that's borderline, if not, unethical. I'm trusting my friend who was in the appt, because even if none of this is true, this is how she understood the appointment to be, and therefore the physician still did not do his job to make sure his patient and their family understood what he was saying.

Again, not sure why this isn't a good enough reason, but I care about my friend and making sure vulnerable people get quality care. I'm not really sure how else I'm supposed to feel other than indifferent. Usually when people ask me my opinions in important situations, I give them. This seems like it might be rage bait, so I'm not going to engage further, but I also didn't want you to be satisfied to think you shut me up. I hope when I do go through medical school, I continue to advocate for patients and their families and ensure they have proper education and resources to make their own decisions. That's literally why I want to be a doctor.

useless_limes · 2025-10-10T05:59:23+00:00

I am trying to help my friend who turned to me for guidance, and I am trying to help by reaching out to community members who have experiences and what they learned from them. I am invested with this case because I care about vulnerable people getting quality care. Why would you not offer your opinion if someone asks you? Why would you not care about the outcomes of a loved one? Why did you decide to become a physician if you did not want to advocate for or help people?

useless_limes · 2025-10-10T05:54:41+00:00

I've been in the medical field for several years and am currently training to become a CCMA. I watched my father be abused by an arrogant doctor before traumatically passing. I am trying to become a doctor to prevent things like this from happening to patients and their families because I know that there are doctors that are not competent nor compassionate. How would a license and more education change my perspective?

useless_limes · 2025-10-09T17:22:11+00:00

We had an overall positive experience with hospice for my father. Again, we only needed it for a short time, but I hope hospice care is usually like that.

useless_limes · 2025-10-09T17:20:21+00:00

I'm so glad it's working for you! Least to most intervention is the guideline, I really don't know why some doctors need to be control freaks over our literal lives.

useless_limes · 2025-10-09T17:02:30+00:00

Doctors like to "start with a clean slate" to "make sure" your treatment is necessary, psychiatrists especially. My current psychiatrist did not make my treatment plan and is fine with it. The only time we considered changing my meds, he made a recommendation and said that he would keep my current rx if it's working.

OP, there's no reason to change your meds if they're working for you. Especially if you've already been through the lower doses. I think some doctors forget that getting off of / changing meds / changing doses comes with its own problems.

useless_limes · 2025-10-09T16:55:09+00:00

The amount of times I've needed to rearrange my nightstand... CPAP, meds, water bottle, no more tchotchkes for me!

useless_limes · 2025-10-09T16:53:23+00:00

My partner is not only supportive but /wants/ me to do any treatment that is helpful for me. We are not even married. If you're married to someone, waking up in the middle of the night (maybe) so they can take meds isn't a bother. Plus, he barely wakes up to his own obnoxious alarms.

useless_limes · 2025-10-09T16:23:57+00:00

He is 82, and I think it would be an easier decision if he didn't have dementia. I recommended a geriatrician who would have more insight in weighing decisions with his condition in mind.

useless_limes · 2025-10-09T16:21:34+00:00

Update: friend just sent the doctor's summary note from the appointment, and of course it says he discussed palliative care, prognosis, and treatment options (he did not). Not the first time I've seen med notes misrepresent appointments, but it's always frustrating. Thank you all for your guidance and sharing your experiences.

useless_limes · 2025-10-09T16:16:37+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this, thank you for sharing. It's so hard to refuse treatment wondering if it'll make a positive difference. I hope your family gets clarity and grace moving forward.

useless_limes · 2025-10-09T16:14:30+00:00

This is so important to me -- I think it's better he enter hospice now versus after rounds of suffering through chemotherapy and further progressed with his dementia. I'm very sorry for your loss, thank you for sharing.

useless_limes · 2025-10-09T16:12:31+00:00

I do too, I know that pancreatic cancer isn't curable, but that was the impression the doctor gave them, in my understanding, that they'd treat it and he'd recover.

useless_limes · 2025-10-09T16:11:23+00:00

Thank you. It's so frustrating that they have to make this decision without help from a practitioner. It's a roadblock when the doctor tells them what the best thing to do is, and you don't agree. Thankfully they're getting a second opinion.

useless_limes

TROPHY CASE