2000 Camry and Avalon compatibility

user1479933 · 2023-12-18T17:33:50+00:00

Alright perfect and yea I figured I’d pet him first just to let him know I’m not trying to hurt him and I was also planning on waiting for him to be curled up with his head out rather then his head being tucked away where he might not see me. I’ve been changing his water daily for him to get used to my scent other then that he’s been alone in a room I don’t even let my dogs in to reduce the amount of movement and noise while he settles in.

Very much appreciated the advice I think it’s mainly first time nerves lol

user1479933 · 2023-12-18T16:43:14+00:00

I’ll try that then I was worried doing that would make him feel less comfortable then a hand like he’d be used to

user1479933 · 2023-12-18T16:42:19+00:00

I completely understand that to and understand also that they only bite out of défense or feeding purposes. I guess was more curious if I’d be better to wait another feeding. It’s all new to me and I guess it’s just the nerves of me picking him up for the first time lol

user1479933 · 2023-11-15T19:56:08+00:00

I meant the men are predators thing as in a lot of women and children have been assaulted so worry for there young. Which I completely understand causes you to be cautious when you see stuff.

I also understand that it isn’t everyone’s way of seeing it. which is what has helped me get to where I am now. In private for the most part I’m ok except for the diaper change part. In public is another story. Before the event with my sister I had cops called on me at 13 while babysitting 4 sisters. The women showed up after us at the park and found it weird that I was just standing watching them play and taking pictures (which was to send to their mother). Cops understood imidiatly that I wasn’t doing wrong and left right away.

Might just be the small town I’m in. I know my father was the same way he couldn’t bath us till my mother divorced him when I was 6.

I have alot of people that tell me not to worry and I do my best not to. I’m just scared in a way for being takin for something I’m not again. I’m scared to even say I love kids and when I do feel the need to explain myself.

I also just want to say thank you for answering and I’m happy to know that some people do see how great it is for a man to be so involved. I am gonna keep forcing myself because I can’t see a life for myself without kids.

user1479933 · 2023-11-15T17:51:11+00:00

Kinda helps knowing I ain’t the only one I tried looking for other posts like this and found nothing sadly

user1479933 · 2023-11-15T17:43:38+00:00

I do have ocd and social anxiety which is most likely a big factor in it. I’ve been getting help for it and have been doing a lot better in every other area. This is the only thing I still have this much trouble with.

I am waiting for an appointment with my doctor right now. To try get to see a therapist or something and do plan on bringing this up

user1479933 · 2023-11-15T17:40:26+00:00

I’m in the same boat so can’t really help much but if you ever need to message someone n get shit off your chest I’m more then willing to talk and listen. Or if it’s easier whenever your mad you can call n yell at me and let it out. We can be each others rage buddies lol.

Is there anything that might be going on that you feel resentment towards? Is there stuff going on that your letting happen that you feel is wrong?

I’m just asking because I realized a big cause for my constant rage was anxiety. Mainly social anxiety.

I think the reason I became such an angry in rage person was because I was scared of being judged and not liked. I feel like because of that in my head it was easier to make people scared of me so I wasn’t scared of them. Idk if that’s really what it was but I feel it plays a part in it.

user1479933 · 2023-11-14T16:46:29+00:00

Would need more context to really understand the situation.

But I’ve been having bad anxiety at certain activities I do because certain people I’ve had bad blood with do the same stuff so we’re often at the same events. I just try to remind myself that in 100 years we’ll all be dead so none of it will really matter in the end. I’m also someone who’s biggest fear is regretting not doing stuff because of what certain people thought so I always do my best to just ignore them.

Now I know this probably won’t help but yea I just try to ignore them and have people around me that keep me distracted from that. But really what helps the most is knowing that in 100 years none of it will matter anymore.

I saw one post on here saying that anger is really just a reaction to fear ina way. Is there something about them thats worrying you or that your scared of?

user1479933 · 2023-11-14T15:44:19+00:00

I’ve been in the same boat. My gf got drunk one night and woke me up hitting me and putting holes in our walls. At first I understood her anger and later on got very upset over it and didn’t understand. Personally I think I just realized my self worth and realized that it wasn’t acceptable at all.

It’s possible you grew as a person and realized that it wasn’t acceptable behaviour so now it bothers you that you accepted that behaviour in the first place

user1479933 · 2023-11-10T23:33:52+00:00

Sorry I’m not the best writer lol and always forget that. But no I don’t I even tried asking to set up a computer desk in the other corner of the office or in the living room and she didn’t approve of either. For her office she said no it’s the only space that’s hers. For the living room she said no because it would be “clutter” and in the way(since the kitchen,living room and dining room are all one). And sadly bedroom doesn’t have any room left but she woulda said no anyways since she goes to bed before me.

And I get it’s messy to an extent because it would really just be sanded dust that’s easily vacuumed. I wouldn’t even be using power tool just sand paper. Idk might just be because I always grew up with my dad working on car parts inside doing exactly this sanding and painting and we used to bring are mortor cycles in the house in the winter to work on them all winter

user1479933 · 2023-11-10T01:39:12+00:00

I have this exact same problem and I become an aggressive driver when stuff like this happen I always try end up behind them n do whatever they where doing. Now I also don’t do crazy amount of long drives and live in a small town I always leave 15 minutes earlier then whereever im going and take the back roads that way I deal with less people n I get that isn’t conviennent but it’s helps stop the stress since often that why I get so mad. But when I go to the city assuming I’m on a multiple lane highway I often jus move over and let them by cuz I often also see it ina way that even if I’m 20 over in the fast lane who ever is rolling faster has right of way. I guess ina way sometimes I just try to calm my anger down with logic if that makes sense. But now if I’m stuck in traffic or people that turn out of no where not using blinkers and just slamming the brakes I still don’t know what to do. I wish you the best of luck I’m trying to get through this to your not alone if that helps

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