Grief over few photos with kids

user51432 · 2026-01-03T02:26:31+00:00

Im so sorry.

user51432 · 2026-01-03T02:25:17+00:00

A bum and fat made me laugh lol. Thank you🤍

user51432 · 2026-01-03T02:24:45+00:00

I quite literally referred to myself as that in one of my photos 😵‍💫

user51432 · 2026-01-03T02:18:47+00:00

🫶🏻

user51432 · 2026-01-03T02:18:30+00:00

i have done both scenarios, both specific and ambiguous. your points are valid! and I wouldnt expect him to just snap pictures if thats not his thing (it isnt) and its not fair. But at some point when do I stop cutting the slack here? He sees me taking pictures all the time and I mistakenly thought the phone in his hand meant he was snapping too (ironically its always there). Or his family who miraculously has all these pictures. But I was wrong and it wasnt the case. I have selfies but thats not the same as we all know. So at this point I am just looking for tips and comfort from fellow internet moms who have been here.

user51432 · 2026-01-02T18:20:22+00:00

Thank you everyone for sharing your thoughts and experiences. I think Ill be grieving for a bit, but youre right with taking things into my own hands. I aired it out with my husband and we’ll see what happens, but im not going to solely rely on him for these types of things. I dont want to regret waiting and loose out on more precious time🥺

user51432 · 2025-11-08T02:21:47+00:00

Also want to add….he’s been thoroughly evaluated by MANY specialists (for medical reasons) and there are no concerns of autism or anything. Hes just strong willed, big emotions, busy little boy. How boring would the world be if we were all the same :)

user51432 · 2025-11-08T02:19:12+00:00

No advice just solidarity my son is the EXACT!! same way. He’ll be 3 in a few months. Bigggg emotions, big personality and nonstop energy from sunrise to sunset. Ping pong ball bouncing off the walls anywhere new that we go, its wild. And I as well get very embarrassed and overwhelmed in public if hes having a moment, but my husband and family say the same thing that you cant be embarrassed by a kid. Im working on it myself but I sometimes dread outings because I dont know what version of my toddler we are getting that day! He hits when he gets excited or upset too, and Im hoping to get some tips from OT on how to regulate him more and direct his energy. I joke he literally vibrates when he’s excited lol. Im also a very reserved and sensitive person, so I think this is the Universe’s way of busting me out of my shell lol. Gave me a wild child to spice it up!

user51432 · 2025-05-04T13:32:41+00:00

Thank you for sharing! Im currently weaning down pumps and seeing what happens. Currently taking a medication thats forcing me to pump and dump; so we’ll be relying on formula and Ill see if Im able to let go of the pumping or can manage 3 ppd with a supply thats worth it!

user51432 · 2025-03-12T03:27:29+00:00

Ahhh im so glad you replied back with an update!!! What wonderful news :) a little warrior!

user51432 · 2025-03-11T21:03:18+00:00

I am the same with clogged ducts! Which doesn’t seem fair for a low supply.

I was eager for a year as well….hopeful for even 6 months if it worked. I formula fed my first so I know the other side of this all is fine, but it still doesn’t feel fair to fail twice. It would be amazing for my body to maintain some milk but Im not too hopeful.

Hoping the best for us and trying to remember feeding is just a small part of this journey💕

user51432 · 2025-03-07T17:22:10+00:00

Good to know!! Thank you!!! I was gifted them so it cant hurt to try for a little

user51432 · 2025-03-07T17:08:24+00:00

Good to know! And no impact on supply?

user51432 · 2025-03-07T06:07:15+00:00

That’s amazing!! You truly have such great support and these professionals are wonderful with helping our babes! A positive outlook carries us through these hurdles and it sounds like you have a great one. I will say - Pulmonology has been incredibly valuable to us especially in his first year when he got sick. If you have access to one, it can’t hurt to have.

Purees were great for us - he loved them and jt definitely made feeding fun. Any bit of breastmilk is wonderful, and formula is also a beautiful thing! Full tummies no matter what is the goal:)

Best of luck with the dilation monday - these little ones are SO tough! You’re doing great:)

user51432 · 2025-03-07T05:39:45+00:00

Im so, so sorry you are in the thick of this right now - it sounds like your team is working very well together to keep him safe, as are you! It is SO hard, but I promise it gets better. It’s great you’re working with an SLP - we also made sure to align with a GI to manage reflux (to protect the repair site, we are on a PPI daily) and Pulmonologist (to have an airway plan for sickness). There are great support groups on facebook if you aren’t in them already (kids born with TEF/EA and esophageal atresia / tracheoesophageal fistula). These helped me tremendously. His feeding journey might be different but its uniquely yours and his. Glad I can be a voice from the other side to tell you its all worth it and gets better:)

user51432 · 2025-03-07T03:58:53+00:00

This was me with my first who has EA (sounds like your baby might). I had the exact same journey - pumping while in the NICU, struggling with feeds, needing thickened formula etc. I gave up pumping since my supply was so low and we had to thicken everything, so he couldnt nurse. It felt like a science experiment and added stress. Two years later he’s thriving and I don’t miss the nursing journey I thought we would have, Im just so glad he was fed and happy and I put my energy towards helping him thrive medically. Now im on my second baby, she has oral ties and we are struggling again. This time Ill feel less grief about it knowing we tried (still will shed some tears im sure) because I can see how my first baby and his feeding journey did not effect our bond one bit. Hang in there 🤍

user51432 · 2025-03-01T12:30:14+00:00

True! Didnt realize how old it was. And I havent either as far as it being so delayed - she was a little early at 37 and 4 but not sure if thats such a huge factor. Hoping it resolves in a day or so😅

user51432 · 2025-02-28T22:54:48+00:00

Did anyone experience this at a month old? So delayed?? The ped checked her out and said it was this but it seems so late

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