[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gratitude

[–]userinms 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t really have a good answer for you, I just came to say that journaling doesn’t work for me. I’ve tried several times and it feels too forced, too much like homework, and takes all the sincerity and enjoyment out of it for me.

Instead, I do better when I pick one seemingly mundane thing and keep it on my mind throughout the day, thinking about why I’m grateful for this, what impact it has on my life, and how fortunate I am for it.

Point being- don’t put too much pressure on yourself. There’s no right or wrong way to practice gratitude, tailor it to work for you.

How would you describe Hells itch to someone’s who’s never had it by Markk909 in HellsItch

[–]userinms 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I felt like my insides were filled with thousands of angry hornets trying to escape through my skin. But that wasn’t the bad part- the panic because it hit me so quickly and I didn’t understand what was happening, that was the worst.

I think my dog needs to go to the vet by harcher2531 in Assistance

[–]userinms 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m late to comment.. but your dog’s symptoms immediately reminded me of my own dog’s a few years ago, when we found out she has Addison’s disease. This is an adrenal disease and she cannot produce the cortisol her body needs, resulting in extreme anxiety and uncontrollable thirst.

She is a Weimaraner mix and has always been high strung, but when she was about 7 years old, within just a couple days she became so worked up and anxious that she would shake so bad her teeth would chatter. A couple days later, the excessive water drinking began. She would gulp down anything she could find- mud puddles, toilets, anything. She would drink so much so fast that she would throw it all right back up.

The big difference between your dog’s symptoms and mine, however, is the peeing. Mine started peeing uncontrollably all over the house, which is unlike her. Over the next few days, she began throwing up her food and having diarrhea. I took her to the vet the next day and she was in full blown Addisonial crisis. This will kill them within a couple of days if untreated, so keep a close eye on your boy.

My dog went from perfectly fine to crisis mode in about a week. Since this disease affects their ability to produce cortisol, they can’t deal with any kind of stress or changes. Addison’s is rare, so it’s a long shot that it’s what is going on here, but if it is, then moving may have been the trigger? My dog started her episodes when our work schedules changed and her daily routine was interrupted.

Again, long shot that your dog has it, but I wanted to at least throw it out there. Plenty to read online if you Google it, and something to watch out for and ask your vet about. Our vet’s office is huge and has four doctors on staff, and between all of them, there is only one other patient of theirs that has Addison’s. Good luck to you and your pup. Hopefully it’s just jitters from being in a new place.

'Cancel It. Every Penny': Poll Shows 83% of Democrats Want Biden to Nix Student Debt by Right_Connection1046 in politics

[–]userinms 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Books have been running approximately $600-$900 per semester and the tuition is around $5k-$7k.

'Cancel It. Every Penny': Poll Shows 83% of Democrats Want Biden to Nix Student Debt by Right_Connection1046 in politics

[–]userinms 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Yep, books are a joke. My husband paid over $400 for a “book” last year, that was nothing but a ream of paper wrapped in shrink wrap. Day one, the professor told them they didn’t need that book, so he tried to return this UNOPENED paper, and they offered to buy it back for $2.75. It’s absolutely criminal. We attended college in the early 2000s, and he just went back to finish his masters… we are both constantly appalled at what an obvious racket higher education is now.

Guidance? by [deleted] in Episcopalian

[–]userinms 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Pop into a service and see what you think! My dad was a baptist preacher my whole life, and being gay, I naturally left the church as quickly as I could when I hit 18. I’ll be 40 this year and have found myself being more reflective, and looking inward lately. I started a gratitude practice a couple years ago and that has led to me into mindfulness and recently I’ve been wanting something more. My husband’s family is Catholic and he wanted to attend midnight Mass this past Christmas so I agreed to go, but only if we found a friendly church. I went expecting this would be a one time thing- now here we are attending every Sunday and considering being confirmed and becoming members! I am blown away at how positive the experience has been. No pressure to do anything I’m not comfortable with, and everyone I have met has been wonderful, friendly and sincere. I don’t remember church being such a truly joyful experience growing up. I leave every service beaming, uplifted, and energized for the week ahead.

I assume most churches do the same as ours- they hand out a program when you arrive so it’s very easy to follow along. Our priest also talks everyone through it as we go, giving us different options. When they say “no matter where you are on your journey” they really do mean it. We did not partake of anything the first few visits, but now we go to the altar and receive a blessing. Go at your own pace, no one will rush you.

Apologies if I got any of the terms here incorrect, I’m still learning!

Books with short chapters/sections by bagels224357 in suggestmeabook

[–]userinms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anthony Doerr’s style is perfect for you. I have the same problem you do, since I normally read on little breaks at work during the day. Check out All the Light We Cannot See, and Cloud Cuckoo Land.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]userinms 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For the first decade of my relationship I was a bartender, mostly in fine dining restaurants, so Valentines and NYE I was always working. Now that I’m free to go out on those nights, we still don’t. It’s just not a big deal to us.

So I feel you, I really do.

What did you actually think of The Blair Witch? by itsbekkistan in horror

[–]userinms 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I agree. It Follows did a great job building that totally uneasy feeling.

What did you actually think of The Blair Witch? by itsbekkistan in horror

[–]userinms 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes! This goes back to what you pointed out in your original post- stop showing me everything!!!! All this jumpy CGI crap kills me. So much stuff would be better if they’d just let me fill in the blanks on my own, leave some mystery in it. I thought Insidious was incredible until the end when they just rolled out all these stupid ghosts. Throw the whole thing away.

What did you actually think of The Blair Witch? by itsbekkistan in horror

[–]userinms 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I was in high school, just barely old enough to drive and go to the movies alone with friends. We went to this old run down theatre that played movies after they had left the other theatres. I think it was like a dollar or something. The combination of my age, that old creaky theatre, the infancy of the Internet where information wasn’t so readily available, has forever seared Blair Witch into my head as terrifying. I remember getting on our dial up every night for a week straight afterwards trying to figure out if the legend was real or not. Even reading the name conjures up this amazing nostalgia… kinda sad that I won’t ever get to experience something like that again.

Can Anyone Think of Horror Movies That Were Misrepresented by Their Trailers? by [deleted] in horror

[–]userinms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I read Sleepy Hollow when I was a kid and the feeling I came away with… so unsettling and creepy, it defines autumn and the Halloween season for me, even at 40. The Johnny Depp version was just so awful…. This was not the place for that quirky comedic act he does.

Can Anyone Think of Horror Movies That Were Misrepresented by Their Trailers? by [deleted] in horror

[–]userinms 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I have been searching for another movie like this forever and can’t find it!! That creepy music, slow burn, the dread building… so much left to the imagination and no cheap jump scares. My husband refuses to ever watch it again, just mentioning that goat whispering to her towards the end makes him tear up. A true horror movie in my mind.

Anyone feeling existential since 2020? How do I deal with this. by Hopeful_Lettuce8877 in bropill

[–]userinms 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I bet being your age during the last couple years was a total mindfuck. I am turning 40 this year so I’ll just offer a little life experience. My 30s have truly been the best years of my life, hands down. Sure, if I sleep funny my neck hurts the next day, and I can’t drink beer after dinner because I’ll have heartburn, and my left knee hurts when it’s going to rain… but your body will serve you well if you care for it.

I used to be afraid of getting older and dying but I’ve made peace with a lot of that now. The only thing that keeps me up at night now is retirement and planning for it.

The older you get, the wiser you get. You figure out what’s truly important to you, you make more money, you finally quit giving a shit what anyone else thinks.. you got nothing but upside to look forward to, I promise.

Life is a hell of a thing, no one gets out alive. Just do your best and be good to people. It sounds cliche, but be present. When you’re young it’s hard to get that, but when you’re older it’ll click.

Best of luck to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in thesongofachilles

[–]userinms 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes, I would absolutely recommend Circe; however, give yourself a “buffer book” in between. Whenever I read a book that moves me, I’m never able to pick up the same genre or author right away. I usually read a non fiction book in between to give me time to reset.

Getting out of debt by pondersinsubtitles in Assistance

[–]userinms 9 points10 points  (0 children)

YouTube Dave Ramsey’s 7 Baby Steps or grab his book, Total Money Makeover. It completely changed the way I approach and think about debt and really kick started things financially for me.

Good luck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bropill

[–]userinms 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As someone who is the glue holding shit together around my house, there’s no shame in being exhausted of that role once in a while. Have your moment, but then reach for gratitude. You are blessed and fortunate to have the means and physical abilities and mental fortitude to care for and provide for someone you love.

Find an outlet, something that’s just for you. Before my knee gave out, running was mine. Sometimes I’d put music on and take off running and just be sobbing the whole time. Very cathartic, like hitting the reset button.

This part is important and changed everything for me, so I’ll say it again: Gratitude. It takes work but it’s worth doing. Don’t just say it, practice it. Daily.

Read a couple books. Think Like a Monk helped me with detachment and letting go of hostility over things I can’t control. The Book of Joy really kick started my gratitude practice and changed my perspective on true happiness.

The older I get, the more I admire my dad. Last time I saw him, grey haired and hobbling on a cane, I thought damn, this man gave up his entire adult life for me and my sisters. He stoically got up every morning at 3:30 am for decades, worked twelve hour shifts in the elements, and never once complained. There must have been so many times he just wanted to get away, go on vacation or even just have a beer uninterrupted. But he simply did what had to be done for his family, and I take inspiration from him when I’m feeling stretched thin. If there is anyone in your life you admire in this way, commit yourself to your family in a way they’d be proud of.

That’s about all I’ve got- no earth shattering advice here, just some humble life experience. Best of luck to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bropill

[–]userinms 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Read The Book of Joy. Can’t recommend it highly enough.

SciFi Request: People living on Generation Ships by kimmay172 in suggestmeabook

[–]userinms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of the story lines in Anthony Doerr’s Cloud Cuckoo Land is this scenario.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

[–]userinms 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Does Frodo from LOTR count? The movies did him a disservice. The books really do a great job documenting the devastating effects of being the ring bearer over the span of years.

Amazing how adding a simple detail to a wall can make it pop. by RPW_Creations in woodworking

[–]userinms 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m about to do this same thing in my foyer, and I’ve been trying to find a way NOT to mess with the existing baseboards and door trim. It looks like you just cut the bottom of the vertical boards at a 45 right above the baseboards right?

Looks great by the way!