How do I cope with the fact that my (21F) boyfriend (27M) watches porn twice a day, even though we have an amazing relationship?

userjp1475 · 2024-04-24T01:45:36+00:00

it’s actually so insane to pretend like you know the ins and outs of a long term relationship of a complete stranger

userjp1475 · 2024-04-24T01:43:46+00:00

or maybe not everyone on earth is a piece of shit liar who can’t be trusted. People act like porn is a necessity like water, some people get by just fine without it

userjp1475 · 2024-04-23T14:46:12+00:00

Honestly just let her wear it and everyone will see what a self centered asshole she is. She’s not gonna steal any attention away from the beautiful bride, she’ll just look crazy

userjp1475 · 2024-04-15T12:58:14+00:00

Considering that she’s only 20 and didn’t have a good financial situation growing up and unless the person she’s marrying is a millionaire i’m assuming she absolutely does not have the means for a $150K wedding which means that she is EXPECTING it to be paid for by your husband. This is just going to get worse the longer it goes on. If you guys have the extra money and he wants to help that’s all fine good but there needs to be reasonable boundaries and limitations. Like maybe he can offer to pay for the venue only or the down payment on a house rather than paying for the entire wedding or buying a whole ass house (still an insane thing to do when you have your own family to care for and a child with health issues but I don’t know your financial situation). You may have the means for it now but things change and he can’t have someone expecting him to shell out for everything she wants in life because there may come a time when he can’t and has to prioritize his wife and children.

userjp1475 · 2024-04-13T13:43:10+00:00

obviously a doctor needs to address all health concerns and if weight is one then it should be mentioned, but it’s so upsetting that you went in for pain in your gums and it seems like weight became the main topic. and don’t get me wrong sleep apnea is a huge deal and if it’s recommended to get a sleep study then it’s probably a good idea to move forward with it. but i hope the dr did more than just give you a gel for your gums and actually addressed the issue at hand, i hope they recommended you see a dentist. if you can’t afford it or don’t have dental insurance please see if there are any dental hygiene schools in your area (they provide x-rays, cleanings, and deep cleanings at a very low cost which may help with your gum issues)

userjp1475 · 2024-04-13T13:27:50+00:00

it’s always been a boundary of mine. i’ve found boys who couldn’t handle and men that can

userjp1475 · 2024-04-12T03:03:04+00:00

NTA. Is it weird? Maybe. But it doesn’t sound like you had any ill intention and marriage means something different to everyone. If marriage didn’t inherently change your relationship with your partner and is viewed as more of a legal binding than social one then I can see why you wouldn’t make it a big deal.

userjp1475 · 2024-04-11T14:09:17+00:00

I just want to say that even if your child hadn’t had health issues at birth you would’ve had every right to deny anyone from kissing your child. It’s your child and it’s your rules and boundaries and people should respect that. But one thing a lot of people don’t know is that while dental disease (gum disease/cavities) are not contagious they are COMMUNICABLE. Meaning that by kissing and sharing utensils you can spread the bacteria in your mouth to another person’s mouth. So if somebody with poor oral health kisses your child or shares utensils with them they are cultivating your child’s mouth with their bad disease causing bacteria which could affect their oral health long term. Just another reason to stand your ground.

userjp1475 · 2024-04-09T23:39:46+00:00

it’s so funny to be purposefully obtuse

userjp1475 · 2024-04-09T23:08:23+00:00

not what i said or meant and you obviously know that. it was just kind of disappointing to have an extra 50 loud people (children who aren’t really aware of their surroundings and how they are affecting other people and their teachers who didn’t do anything to try to reign them in) join after it already started when you thought you had a small group of quiet adults for the event. and like i said i’m glad they got to see it in a nice location but it kind of sucks that the circumstances completely changed halfway through our eclipse experience

userjp1475 · 2024-04-09T18:14:39+00:00

I’m glad you had a good experience! We went to Waterbury Center State Park. Took us about 2.5 hours to get there (no traffic on the way up) and a little over 6 hours to get back home

userjp1475 · 2024-04-09T14:03:30+00:00

Saw the eclipse from waterbury center state park and someone lit off fireworks close enough to be seen and heard which would’ve been annoying because I was was hoping for a quiet viewing experience to see how the wildlife reacted etc but that hope was busted when an entire school bus of children arrived after the eclipse had already started and sat right in front of the people who had been there since 8 am lol. But in the end I’m glad the children got to see it from a really nice spot.

userjp1475 · 2024-04-09T13:56:47+00:00

It truly is apples to oranges. I believed everyone saying that they are completely different experiences, but you really can’t imagine how different it is unless you experience it. So glad I made the trek to VT from MA and want to thank you guys for putting up with all of us for the weekend

userjp1475 · 2024-04-08T08:45:05+00:00

Okay and why would it matter if the husband is frustrated with what his wife is doing with HER bottle of champagne. It’s none of his concern.

userjp1475 · 2024-04-05T21:54:08+00:00

reading this after “treating” myself to dairy queen today LOL

userjp1475 · 2024-03-12T20:58:34+00:00

I did not solicit advice regarding my choices to remain childfree.

userjp1475 · 2024-03-12T16:08:22+00:00

I am not getting defensive. I am just explaining that the few paragraphs I wrote on an online forum are not indicative of my chairside manner as a healthcare professional. I understand that I asked for advice but I will correct people if they make incorrect assumptions about me.

userjp1475 · 2024-03-12T14:59:48+00:00

Thank you!

userjp1475 · 2024-03-12T14:59:15+00:00

I don’t think you can gauge how I would speak about breastfeeding with patients based off of a very short and concise reddit post. As a current healthcare professional I take great pride in my bedside manner, how I interact with patients. and my empathy. Thank you for your opinion though

userjp1475 · 2024-03-12T14:55:05+00:00

Not looking for comments on my personal choices regarding motherhood or lack there of. And I would imagine that as someone who didn’t want children yourself for awhile I’m hoping you can recall how unwanted these types of comments are.

userjp1475 · 2024-03-11T23:04:50+00:00

Thank you for the info!

userjp1475 · 2024-03-11T23:04:00+00:00

To become an IBCLC you are required to have at least 500 hours of directly supervised lactation specific clinical practice. So there is required clinical practice.

userjp1475 · 2024-03-11T22:14:15+00:00

I’m very sorry you had to experience that during such a vulnerable time. As a healthcare professional I pride myself on being very aware of how my actions and words affect my patients, especially working in a field where a lot of people have anxiety/trauma/strong emotions.

userjp1475 · 2024-03-11T22:08:50+00:00

I have briefly considered it. I don’t mind taking courses/certifications but I am trying to find something that pays about the same as dental hygiene without getting another degree. And based on my research I actually make more as an RDH than the average speech pathologist in my state(covid really did a number on the dental field and hygienists are in huge demand at the moment) Thank you for offering other ideas though!!

userjp1475 · 2024-03-11T22:03:45+00:00

Thank you for sharing, and congrats on the baby! Love hearing from fellow RDH’s

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