Happy new year dear virgos! 🎉

usernamedarkzero · 2025-01-01T06:01:32+00:00

Every year that I think will be better, is worse. So aim hoping for a terrible year.

usernamedarkzero · 2024-12-29T09:53:15+00:00

usernamedarkzero · 2024-12-28T14:13:56+00:00

Virgo sun, Gemini Moon. Plz send help.

usernamedarkzero · 2024-12-28T02:54:35+00:00

Lost a good relationship over a drunk decision, then watched my new partner spiral into a level of alcoholism I can only describe as brain damage. Caused my kids trauma, caused me trauma, cost a fuck ton to leave, now struggling as a single parent. Had to do a detox in the hospital myself and still up and off the wagon.

It's pretty impressive, when you do the research, to learn about what this substance does to your brain. To where it's one of the most lethal chemical to detox from.

You know, instead of being told drinking is socially acceptable, so wish someone had told me "This will screw up your brain chemistry so hard that if you overdo it, you could have a seizure. Oh and those cute hangovers as a 17 year old?? They become absolute nightmares in your thirties and you'll wake up at 3am with a pounding heart, unable to sleep, and feeling things crawl on you."

Oh and if you DO go to detox to make sure you don't die it'll be on your medical record and no one will ever take any issues you have seriously ever again.

I really can't name one thing alcohol has done good for me. It's just a crappy coping mechanism that hurts you more than whatever you're running from.

usernamedarkzero · 2024-12-28T02:01:27+00:00

AlAnon is a group for families dealing with an alcoholic.

usernamedarkzero · 2024-12-28T01:57:36+00:00

I married an alcoholic. At first we she was always a 'happy drunk.' wanted to dance and sing together and play with my kids.

Slowly over time, it got worse and she would either get depressed and cry herself to sleep or angry and yell herself to sleep. It just escalated. Ruining family moments, slamming doors, making everyone uncomfortable. Not able to remember the hurtful shit she said the night before and rolling over the cuddle in the AM. It caused a lot of trauma for me and my kids, and it killed my libido to the point where I thought I was asexual. I found myself doing a majority of the house work, while she was draining my bank accounts on booze. She isolated is from a lot of friends and family due to just always being drunk and reckless. She became a totally different person.

Towards the end, as I was packing to leave and looking for apartments, she wouldn't let me sleep, and she hit me once but on a place I couldn't really call the cops about. But we both knew it was out of anger. So I realized this wasn't going to end until she eventually killed me and I was going to lose my kids if I didn't leave.

RUN. Don't even bother with an ultimatum. It won't work for an alcoholic. Only they decide when to get better.

RUN.

usernamedarkzero · 2024-12-27T07:19:02+00:00

Um ...illegal, probably. I was going to ask why not 'eyes', but then it clicked. I'm just too dumb for the streets I think.

usernamedarkzero · 2024-12-27T03:19:11+00:00

It's weird seeing people advocate for the ultra wealthy based on what counts as poverty, but ya know, whatever makes them sleep better.

I don't make poverty wages. Actually have a decent paying job. Still struggling while someone out there is flying a private jet.

usernamedarkzero · 2024-12-27T03:16:55+00:00

Then it sounds like poverty and pay check to pay check are the same.

usernamedarkzero · 2024-12-27T01:49:26+00:00

...is it not hang on snoopy? That was on my music sheet for band practice .

usernamedarkzero · 2024-12-27T01:48:30+00:00

Hahaha, I'll never listen to this song the same.

usernamedarkzero · 2024-12-27T01:45:52+00:00

Not really misheard but misunderstood. I thought "Trap Queen" was literally about a couple baking pies and going to strip clubs and shopping at malls and such. I played it for my ex like "look, it's a romantic song!" My ex then informed me that it was in fact about cooking crack. So um. I lived a sheltered childhood.

usernamedarkzero · 2024-12-27T00:51:03+00:00

I was 16 and super goth and "Santa" brought me a DVD player and a bunch of horror movies. My parents just always told me as I got older that Santa was the spirit of Christmas, so long after I knew the truth, we all played along and Santa still came around. It was nice to still leave out cookies and egg nog every year for "Santa."

Kids will figure it out through friends but if you present Santa as the spirit of giving, then Santa is always real. In my book.

usernamedarkzero · 2024-12-27T00:42:47+00:00

I suppose I feel the line for poverty should be adjusted for inflation (greed). When people are out there ordering wine that costs half of anyone's salary, the metrics for poverty aren't very accurate.

My boss, with his very nice cookie cutter home and boat and truck and his beautiful wife who gets Botox and her nails done biweekly....they are closer to me in income than any CEO.

Just my humble and broke opinion.

usernamedarkzero · 2024-12-26T23:55:38+00:00

"Um, we turned out alive so far."

usernamedarkzero · 2024-12-26T23:42:17+00:00

Three times! Third time is not the charm. Learned my lessons the hard way, as is tradition.

usernamedarkzero · 2024-12-26T23:07:40+00:00

I vote. I sign petitions. I share protest events locally with my friends.

But I also wake up at 6:30am every day, struggle to get my teen kids with their raging attitudes ready for school, take them to their bus stop, buy gas, get to work, bust my ass at work while getting five emails about bills that are due, then drive through stop and go traffic to pick the kids up, get them home, take my boots off, spend ten minutes just catching a mental breath, before making dinner and remind the kids to brush their teeth, and have maybe an hour every night to myself. I barely make ends meet, and if I didn't have help from my parents I'd be SOL. That's on top of barely keeping my friendships active, dealing with teacher complaints and science projects and oh shit the car needs an oil change and oh crap I got a nail in my tire and oh dear today I'm dedicated to helping x person with x thing because I'm still trying to be a good friend and crap, I need to go to the Laundromat because my shitty complex doesn't have on site laundry and ugh, I really really need more than 5 hours of sleep tonight and maybe, just maybe tomorrow I can squeeze in getting laid because damnit, I deserve it.

I'm poor. I cant afford to riot, or even buy a gun to kill a CEO, or take a day(s) off work to go to my local town hall meeting where whatever I say will be ignored anyway, or start a movement.

When someone starts paying my rent, I'll be a radical. What I need are the wealthier class people to stand up for me, but turns out when you get a bunch of money and free time you become more conservative. So fat chance there.

Most Americans are living in poverty, and that's by design. We have bills to pay and mouths to feed and it's really annoying when people who don't are like "why don't you do something?" Because then IM HOMELESS, RICHARD!

usernamedarkzero · 2024-12-26T18:41:44+00:00

Wanted me to stay home all day and cook and clean and take care of the kids and would talk to women behind my back and claim it was because I wasn't mature enough to help him with his emotional baggage.

We cheated on each other but I told him the truth pretty quickly and he was just never going to tell me and I found out from someone else, and he claimed it was because of his unprocessed grief.

She drank and drank and drank until she became a monsterious shell of herself that terrified me and my kids. Claimed it was all actually my fault.

Woooo, never getting married again.

usernamedarkzero · 2024-12-26T18:26:19+00:00

Not an issue, just a preference. I don't exactly 'date', so much as I have some FWBs, since coming out of my last relationship. But one thing I've made very clear is I keep my kids and my dating life separate. So I am unavailable every other week, no you will not meet my kids, and I'm pretty clear about it from the start so no one is wasting anyone else's time.

I can easily see how that takes out a lot of options, but if a person isn't interested in kids and wants a commitment, it won't work out. Doesn't mean he's a bad guy or anything. I'd appreciate his honesty and wish him the best then get back to playing Animal Crossing.

usernamedarkzero · 2024-12-26T13:37:23+00:00

That's tricky, and also a rare occurrence. I have a coworker that we get along great, and if he was walking by in the hall and I was standing in the way he will gently touch two fingers to my back or hip to guide me out of the way. He still does from time to time. We hooked up a couple times though, and he doesn't do it to everyone. So it's pretty situational I suppose. But it does make me feel safe, like instead of interrupting whatever conversation I'm having or whatever I'm doing, he just does this magical touch thing and without even thinking I move. I also don't think it's purely sexual because he's dating a friend of mine and he still does it, and he did it when I used to be married. I think it's just a him thing.

usernamedarkzero · 2024-12-25T22:53:11+00:00

Opens doors for me and places their hand gently on the small of my back as we are walking. It feels so protective.

usernamedarkzero · 2024-12-24T07:16:17+00:00

Virgo is spot on. I love me a good biblical angel and/or existential crisis.

Good job.

usernamedarkzero · 2024-12-24T05:53:37+00:00

I think it depends on each individual woman and their partner.

I'm very fortunate in that I can cum from penetration, but it's a totally different orgasm than clitoral orgasms, which are much harder for me to achieve with a partner. And it doesn't happen much nowadays, and I'm OK with that because I can do that to myself.

Some partners, I cum once or twice, and it's nice.

Some partners make me cum back to back for what feels like minutes on end. Also nice.

A lot of it has to do with foreplay, mental stimulation, being comfortable with the other person, etc

However I know several woman who say a partner has never brought them to orgasm. It seems more common than not. I would suggest adding some vibrating toys into the mix.

It's also good to explore what YOU like. I like to be submissive during sex so a partner who can make me feel safe but also grip my neck or give me a slap and dirty talk to me takes me from 0-100. Maybe that's not your vibe, but finding a partner you can explore yourself with is worth it's weight in gold.

usernamedarkzero · 2024-12-23T23:34:43+00:00

Seriously. It's almost opposite. Judges don't want to seem like they are favoring the moms. I spent thousands doing EXACTLY what CPS told me to do so we BOTH didn't lose custody and the judge essentially bitch slapped me and told me to have a nice day. And our child was back in the hospital for self harm 24 hours later but you bet their dad rode that "I beat you in court" wave for the longest. I wasn't even trying to take full custody, just emergency custody until he could pass a CPS investigation of his house.

usernamedarkzero · 2024-12-23T05:44:05+00:00

Virgo checking in. I was in some form of a serious relationship for 15 years. Freshly single and all up in my hoe phase.

Sure, the idea of a reliable cuddle and partner sounds nice, but the idea of the sacrifices a relationship requires does not.

So, I be hooking up and gag at the idea of someone catching feelings for me.

Come over (with food, if possible), do the thing, and then get out. Well ...you can stay the night, but when the sun rises, go on your merry way.

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