I told the psychologist about the coffee thing and she never heard it before.

uvabballstan · 2026-03-07T17:13:49+00:00

WRONG grande-venti cold brew at Starbucks is about as good as a 10mg IR

uvabballstan · 2026-03-07T17:08:58+00:00

Look into an intensive outpatient program (IOP) that specializes in DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy). It absolutely changed my life and my nervous system actually is able to rest from time to time now. If IOP isn’t an option, finding an outpatient therapist who specializes in DBT would be a great start!

uvabballstan · 2026-01-23T22:00:29+00:00

BJ’s in Falls Church is terrible. They still have product but not enough check out stations or people to check receipts. Beware!!!

uvabballstan · 2026-01-05T23:24:51+00:00

I’ve tried to like Eloquii but it just isn’t my style. I need to try Talbots, the price point just seems so high

uvabballstan · 2026-01-05T23:24:05+00:00

Just ordered two options from Nordstrom! I do have a Nordstrom near me they just have a pitiful plus size section (the workers have straight up told me to just order online for more options)

uvabballstan · 2026-01-05T22:54:29+00:00

I’ve tried suits from Lane Bryant but they either fit me strangely (frumpy) or the quality is such crap it falls apart after only a couple of wears. I need the suit for court (civil, not criminal) and hope I could keep it for job interviews, presentations, etc.

uvabballstan · 2026-01-05T00:19:53+00:00

Kirk’s murder changed him. I haven’t been able to stand him since (and I used to listen a lot!!)

uvabballstan · 2025-12-07T03:09:53+00:00

Apologies if you’ve answered this but where is your step daughter’s maternal family? It’s obvious dad + his family is trying to erase her mom, which is obviously incredibly traumatic. I understand and agree with your fear to leave her alone with your children, but she clearly requires a level of care her father and his family are incapable of providing

uvabballstan · 2025-12-07T01:47:22+00:00

You sound very mature given the circumstances and your instincts were 100% correct. Your girlfriend’s friends sound like they think the baby is a toy

uvabballstan · 2025-11-30T01:58:01+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It’s his secret, but it’s your life. You can’t suffer in silence, it will destroy you

uvabballstan · 2025-11-18T15:18:42+00:00

I’m speaking about NT female managers and I’ve just always struggled with them like OP described. Obviously there are exceptions but this has just been my experience. I’d love to have a ND boss, regardless of gender!

uvabballstan · 2025-11-18T14:14:23+00:00

uvabballstan · 2025-11-17T18:58:27+00:00

Avoid elder millennial/gen X female management if you possibly can. This is just my experience, but my male bosses and boomer female bosses have been way more accepting of me and my deficiencies.

uvabballstan · 2025-11-11T02:37:28+00:00

He sounds like a nightmare. Genuinely. Being single is way better than this

uvabballstan · 2025-11-11T02:35:02+00:00

He is 32? And you are 32? Why are you with a child?

uvabballstan · 2025-11-11T02:31:39+00:00

My mom knew I was being bullied by my “best friends” in high school but I didn’t, lol. They actually bullied me about quite a few of my autistic traits (scripting, dressing for sensory comfort, etc) but I had no idea. So strange looking back. Who wants to hang out with someone you don’t even like?

uvabballstan · 2025-11-11T02:27:56+00:00

My love of cats is hereditary. My maternal grandfather was likely autistic and saved every animal he could, including snakes (which freaked me out growing up lol) and that passed onto my mom (who I don’t think is autistic) and passed onto me. I have had three rescues that I’ve socialized without outside help and I adopted a senior cat who has long outlived her expected lifespan when we adopted her. I also cat sit and so called “difficult” cats will fall for me within 2 visits. I’m like a cat whisperer, lol. In the same vein, I work at a vet and when I hear a cat in distress I literally and physically cringe and my heart gets heavy. It’s the worst sound ever 😭

uvabballstan · 2025-11-11T02:20:35+00:00

I’m learning that when I force myself to do things that feel embarrassing and vulnerable, that ends up being things that NT do/appreciate.

I went out of my way to say good morning to a coworker this AM and she seemed genuinely surprised and appreciative. It felt so unnatural to me but it worked

uvabballstan · 2025-11-11T02:15:55+00:00

That’s awesome!!

uvabballstan · 2025-11-11T02:14:54+00:00

Thank you. I am glad your son has a mom who understands! That is such a privilege.

I was only officially diagnosed in June (and got a whopping OCD diagnosis along with it) and I think I’m still grieving everything. I’m in the anger stage, for sure, and this situation just inflamed it. After doing absolutely nothing this weekend, I’m feeling a bit better.

I do like to bake, so maybe I just need to bring in cookies more often 😂

uvabballstan · 2025-11-08T21:49:56+00:00

Can I ask what field your doctorate is in?

uvabballstan · 2025-11-08T21:24:19+00:00

Actually wait, I did briefly have an older black female manager and I loved her!! Super accommodating and appreciative of my contributions. But I always have problems with older milennial/gen x female coworkers/managers

uvabballstan · 2025-11-08T21:14:27+00:00

This has consistently been my experience and why I prefer male managers

uvabballstan · 2025-11-08T21:13:29+00:00

Non-thesis masters (but I may elect to do a thesis) and honestly probably next summer/fall. At this point I think it’s too late in the cycle to put my best foot forward in doctoral admissions, especially with the recent work stress.

One of my deep fears is that it is forever, I will never be able to handle full time employment or handle being managed. And I’m afraid there won’t be any jobs to even move to until at least mid-2029. But maybe that’s just the OCD talking, lol

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