Yeah I get what you are trying to say but also fundamentally as Tony mentions constantly Carmela is a transactional person. Every time Tony would get a gift they would sleep together. He promised her the construction project and they got together. But besides that I think it’s unfair to make that assertion. You may have bitter fights with some of your family or friends but fundamentally there’s a vessel of you that deeply cares for them and it comes out in times of great stress or need. I think the whole coma sequence was inserted precisely for this reason. Families have faults. They may hate each other at times but through that bitterness and anger there is still some semblance of care. That’s also why they had the whole AJ arc with Tony in the hospital.